Just turned down a promotion/raise for happiness...

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    Jul 20, 2010 9:20 PM GMT
    ... and now all of my friends are telling me I'm stupid. I'm surviving perfectly with what I make, why should I risk my happiness for more?
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    Jul 20, 2010 9:21 PM GMT
    you have made the right choice. know that.
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    Jul 20, 2010 9:44 PM GMT
    You made a good choice. Maybe you need some new, less superficial friends.

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    Jul 20, 2010 9:58 PM GMT
    This is one of those "it depends" scenarios.
    What does the promotion involve, other than extra money?
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    Jul 21, 2010 12:22 AM GMT
    Sounds like some friends are jealous, because they have never cared about someone enough to make the decision you have made.
    Question is; how do you feel about it?

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    Jul 21, 2010 12:40 AM GMT
    Epiphany77 said... and now all of my friends are telling me I'm stupid. I'm surviving perfectly with what I make, why should I risk my happiness for more?
    Tell you "friends" that you weren't going to buy them anything with the extra money anyway.
    Then see how long they hang around. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 21, 2010 12:45 AM GMT
    People in this society just want more, more, more. It is a sickness.
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    Jul 21, 2010 1:00 AM GMT
    Good Choice man,
    I was offered a position as a personal butler for a very odd and wealthy gentleman, at first i thought it might be nice being a live in butler living on park avenue... However, a buddy of mine [who's also a butler] gave me the 411 about this guy and informed me that this particular man never baths and smells awful.. He attends the opera often to the dismay of others sitting around him........The day i met up with him and his Rep was a good one because he bathed that day...
    As nice as it would be to pull in $4G's a week i dont think i wish to be around someone who refuses to bath and expects me to hand wash his hankercheifs filled with buggers, God only knows what else he puts his butlers through.....NO THANKS...icon_exclaim.gif
    BE HAPPY...
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    Jul 21, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    What you have is pretty damn special, Epiphany77.
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    Jul 21, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    xrichx saidThis is one of those "it depends" scenarios.
    What does the promotion involve, other than extra money?


    Traveling. Mainly.


    I do feel good about my decision. My boss called back yesterday afternoon and said she wasn't going to say that I said "no" for now, but that the process is "in transition." She doesn't want to destroy "future possibilities."


    .... Whatever. lol. The answer will still, most likely, be no.
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    Jul 21, 2010 3:44 PM GMT
    Epiphany,
    I think you made a very smart choice. Happiness is hard to find. Some people never do. Maybe your friends are just a little jealous. You have figured out at a young age, that money and things are not what brings you true happiness. Enjoy your life, be happy! icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 21, 2010 3:55 PM GMT
    viveutvivas saidPeople in this society just want more, more, more. It is a sickness.


    YES
  • solak

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    Jul 21, 2010 4:02 PM GMT
    youre 21 in LA, now youll never be able to buy a house..

    jk congrats
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    Jul 21, 2010 4:07 PM GMT
    solak saidyoure 21 in LA, now youll never be able to buy a house..

    jk congrats


    lol!

    this won't be the last opportunity for a raise. it'll come around again when the time is right... and when you don't have to sacrifice happiness.

    good choice
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    Jul 21, 2010 4:11 PM GMT
    You made the right choice. If I listened to some of my friends, I'd probably be single and making more money but hating every minute of it. I absolutely love my job and the company for which I work - it may not make me rich but it more than makes up for it in a lot of other areas. I have all that I need to make me happy right now and I don't need anything more than what I have.
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    Jul 21, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    I've done the same thing, and have never had any regrets. You made your decision, now stand by it and tell your friends to keep quiet. Better yet, don't even mention it to your friends. Let it go.
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    Jul 21, 2010 4:20 PM GMT
    I think that's awesome, we don't all share the same emphasis on monetary gain, I hope that this decision takes you deeper into what it is YOU want for yourself. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 21, 2010 4:24 PM GMT
    If she keeps pestering you about it just tell her to "fuck off" because you already got all the recognition you required when you 'won' MotD....

    Traveling for work is not glamourous. Right choice.
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    Jul 22, 2010 5:57 AM GMT
    A1EX saidIf she keeps pestering you about it just tell her to "fuck off" because you already got all the recognition you required when you 'won' MotD....

    Traveling for work it not glamourous. Right choice.


    hahahahahah! I love it!
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    Jul 22, 2010 6:24 AM GMT
    Epiphany77 said
    Traveling. Mainly.

    I do feel good about my decision. My boss called back yesterday afternoon and said she wasn't going to say that I said "no" for now, but that the process is "in transition." She doesn't want to destroy "future possibilities."

    .... Whatever. lol. The answer will still, most likely, be no.

    That's cool. If you feel you made the right decision, then you should be happy with it. So should your friends. I was just wondering if turning down the promotion would hold you back in your career advancement. Or possibly increase your chances of getting laid off later on. Anyways, congratulations on your happiness. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 22, 2010 6:37 AM GMT
    Bravo if you feel you made the right decision.

    I would only caution and say this. Don't assume you'll be unhappy with something until you've tried it. There have been many opportunities in my career for me to say, "No, thanks" because I thought I'd be unhappy with the job and its impact on my life. Where, in the end, the experience ended up enriching who I am as a person, with no regard to to the monetary impact.

    Maybe you should strike a deal with your boss and tell her you'll do the job on a 30 or 60-day trial. If you don't like it, when you will be allowed to slot back into your current job. Going back to your old job may hurt your reputation, but it sounds like tha'ts not a huge concern for you. But, if you do strike an agreement, get it in writing and have it placed in your personnel file.

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    Jul 22, 2010 7:11 AM GMT
    I just made a similar decision not to take a job on the other side of the country because I would have to leave my bf for it. So I know what it's like
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    Jul 22, 2010 7:12 AM GMT
    Epiphany77 said
    My boss called back yesterday afternoon and said she wasn't going to say that I said "no" for now, but that the process is "in transition." She doesn't want to destroy "future possibilities."

    .... Whatever. lol. The answer will still, most likely, be no.


    For failing to promote/progess in a job. Doesn't that reflect negatively on the employee?

    Only thing that made me think this is when your boss mentioned "She doesn't want to destroy "future possibilities."

    Is this in effect destroying a future promotion? Happiness is aways key I will give you kudos on that but if I hear that bit of information I would wonder what gives?
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    Jul 22, 2010 7:15 AM GMT
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    Epiphany77 said
    My boss called back yesterday afternoon and said she wasn't going to say that I said "no" for now, but that the process is "in transition." She doesn't want to destroy "future possibilities."

    .... Whatever. lol. The answer will still, most likely, be no.


    For failing to promote/progess in a job. Doesn't that reflect negatively on the employee?

    Only thing that made me think this is when your boss mentioned "She doesn't want to destroy "future possibilities."

    Is this in effect destroying a future promotion? Happiness is aways key I will give you kudos on that but if I hear that bit of information I would wonder what gives?


    Essentially I'm choosing a promotion or my relationship. The relationship wins. As far as the company, if I burn bridges, then I will rebuild them or simply move on.
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    Jul 22, 2010 7:18 AM GMT
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    Epiphany77 said
    My boss called back yesterday afternoon and said she wasn't going to say that I said "no" for now, but that the process is "in transition." She doesn't want to destroy "future possibilities."

    .... Whatever. lol. The answer will still, most likely, be no.


    For failing to promote/progess in a job. Doesn't that reflect negatively on the employee?

    Only thing that made me think this is when your boss mentioned "She doesn't want to destroy "future possibilities."

    Is this in effect destroying a future promotion? Happiness is aways key I will give you kudos on that but if I hear that bit of information I would wonder what gives?


    Essentially I'm choosing a promotion or my relationship. The relationship wins. As far as the company, if I burn bridges, then I will rebuild them or simply move on.