Really need some advice :|

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    Jul 21, 2010 4:34 AM GMT
    I do have a regular membership here, just don't like being viewed as weak and pretty self-concious about the matter.

    I'm 19 and bi, I'm not out of the closet about it to anybody. I know this might come off as shallow but that's not how I intend it. Well, yea so I'm not out of the closet and having a hard time figuring out who I am and where I fit in. I grew up being popular, outgoing, and having a bunch of friends and now I'm pretty shy and reserved. Some days I feel adequate (sp?), but most days I feel physically unattractive and too self concious to even go out and hang with friends. I'm told from people that I'm a good looking guy but no matter how many times anyone tells me I just hate looking in the mirror.

    Well I don't want to write a book here, but I was wondering if anyone else feels/felt this way or has any advice. Thanks guys.
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    Jul 21, 2010 4:53 AM GMT
    You're depressed about being gay and closeted. See a doctor. But I will warn you that antidepressants are not that great to take.

    Or try exercise, outdoor activities, and sunlight. Dont stay moping in the house or your bedroom. Also, do activities that destress and relax you, and put you in a good frame of mind. Eat well...follow all that 5 servings of fruit and vegetables stuff. Sleep well. Dont skiimp on the sleep.
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    Jul 21, 2010 5:01 AM GMT
    anonymous saidI do have a regular membership here, just don't like being viewed as weak and pretty self-concious about the matter.

    I'm 19 and bi, I'm not out of the closet about it to anybody. I know this might come off as shallow but that's not how I intend it. Well, yea so I'm not out of the closet and having a hard time figuring out who I am and where I fit in. I grew up being popular, outgoing, and having a bunch of friends and now I'm pretty shy and reserved. Some days I feel adequate (sp?), but most days I feel physically unattractive and too self concious to even go out and hang with friends. I'm told from people that I'm a good looking guy but no matter how many times anyone tells me I just hate looking in the mirror.

    Well I don't want to write a book here, but I was wondering if anyone else feels/felt this way or has any advice. Thanks guys.
    Sounds like you're ready for a life changing event.
    Coming out is a life changing event. And it beats the fuck out of being depressed all the time. Even if you're ugly. Personality pwns looks, and being out will help give you a more likable personality again.
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    Jul 21, 2010 5:37 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    anonymous saidI do have a regular membership here, just don't like being viewed as weak and pretty self-concious about the matter.

    I'm 19 and bi, I'm not out of the closet about it to anybody. I know this might come off as shallow but that's not how I intend it. Well, yea so I'm not out of the closet and having a hard time figuring out who I am and where I fit in. I grew up being popular, outgoing, and having a bunch of friends and now I'm pretty shy and reserved. Some days I feel adequate (sp?), but most days I feel physically unattractive and too self concious to even go out and hang with friends. I'm told from people that I'm a good looking guy but no matter how many times anyone tells me I just hate looking in the mirror.

    Well I don't want to write a book here, but I was wondering if anyone else feels/felt this way or has any advice. Thanks guys.
    Sounds like you're ready for a life changing event.
    Coming out is a life changing event. And it beats the fuck out of being depressed all the time. Even if you're ugly. Personality pwns looks, and being out will help give you a more likable personality again.


    Yea, when I go out I have a good time. It's not like i'm a wet towel, i'm just really shy and self concious, which is the total opposite of what I used to be icon_neutral.gif. I honestly just don't think I could come out icon_neutral.gif
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    Jul 21, 2010 5:39 AM GMT
    Caslon15000 saidYou're depressed about being gay and closeted. See a doctor. But I will warn you that antidepressants are not that great to take.

    Or try exercise, outdoor activities, and sunlight. Dont stay moping in the house or your bedroom. Also, do activities that destress and relax you, and put you in a good frame of mind. Eat well...follow all that 5 servings of fruit and vegetables stuff. Sleep well. Dont skiimp on the sleep.


    Yea I've been exercising and I work outside 8+ hours a day, but I will def. try some of the other things. Thanks for the advice guys.
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    Jul 21, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    you are still too young, I think you need to know yourself, you need to know you can be bi, and enjoy both girls and dude. getting out of the closet is not an option for you. But exploring your sexuality with a guy is, and also explore the sexuality with a girl. In my case I enjoy both I am not out of the closet Iam married with a bunch of kids, but I do have a private golf buddy. I enjoy the best of the both worlds. You should try the same. Ciao