Dating a boxer ...

  • SoDakGuy

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    Jul 21, 2010 5:34 PM GMT
    All right, ever since I started boxing four years ago, whenever I mention a guy here in Minneapolis I'm an amateur boxer, most of them cringe and become disinterested.

    I train to fight in a ring. I know the difference between getting into a fight in a ring and also using it when I got assaulted - twice. I know not to use my skills in the relationship and I won't.

    So, would you date a guy who is a boxer? Why or why not?
  • owen19832006

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    Jul 22, 2010 1:58 PM GMT
    why is that a turn off for folk? i find it quite hot!
    is that your only job or do you have another one? either way i wouldnt say no ;)
  • phunkie

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    Jul 22, 2010 2:03 PM GMT
    Most people would judge you to be violent hence the hesitation to date one. They don't want their nice jawline (given that they have one) to be ruined forever.

    As far as I'm concerned, I wouldn't mind dating one. In fact I'd be there supporting and bandaging you in all the fights.
  • Nayro

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    Jul 22, 2010 2:05 PM GMT
    yes I would date a boxer. Especially if they look as good as you do! icon_redface.gif
  • neosyllogy

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    Jul 22, 2010 2:08 PM GMT
    OKay, I'm totally down with fighters, but that line was hilarious!:

    SoDakGuy saidI train to fight in a ring. I know the difference between getting into a fight in a ring and also using it when I got assaulted - twice.
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    'I know the difference between fighting in a ring and ... [confused, look from too many blows to the head] ...and, um, when I get in fights in real life... too.... Yeah, I know the difference between those. I just punch people in both situations though. Just to be safe.'

    icon_lol.gif Sorry, that was just really funny.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jul 22, 2010 2:11 PM GMT
    I have to remember not to do posts the day after sparring. The line made sense at the time. Now ... yeah ... whoops.

    Oh well. icon_smile.gif
  • Buddha

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    Jul 22, 2010 2:34 PM GMT
    I think boxers are hot, I associate it with masculinity... which sounds kind of stupid, superficial and stereotyping; but I do.

    I can kind of understand why people might be afraid; I remember one guy in particular who did karate and enjoyed kind of using it randomly on people. Yeah he was douche. But I've also taken martial arts and I think it should be natural for people to understand that just because you have a hobby that might be seen as violent, it shouldn't necessarily mean that the person themselves are violent overall.
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    Jul 22, 2010 2:37 PM GMT
    Actually, I would date a boxer. Men are naturally aggressive animals and I love them for it. I think a lot of guys are so far removed from the animal side of their nature that the slightest sign of violence in a guy becomes a huge warning flag to them.
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    Jul 22, 2010 2:37 PM GMT
    Dude, are you for real.. where are you? girly-boy town..( no offense - girly boys.) ... Obviously, you havent met your match....LOL icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 22, 2010 2:53 PM GMT
    cold said
    MrNomore said Dude, are you for real.. where are you? girly-boy town..( no offense - girly boys.) ... Obviously, you havent met your match....LOL icon_razz.gif


    icon_eek.gif *face implodes*

    WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU PEOPLE TALKING ABOUT?!


    Sorry man, didnt mean to sound like that , or offend anyone. Just wanted to let him know that. ... some guys might be more into girly things then boyish stuff and doesnt like getting sweaty and tussle. Sorry icon_sad.gif
  • TexasBoeuf

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    Jul 22, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    Could be folks are assuming you will share common traits of those that box...traits those individuals find as a turn off. Or it could be a 'not gay enough' attitude. I've had guys say that my participation in extreme sports is me 'trying to be butch--go home and needlepoint instead'. Kind of a you're not as 'gay' as me therefore you have masculinity issues attitude. That may just be folks in SF though :-) It could also come down to insecurities in others. They might find boxing 'scary' and it/you intimidates them.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jul 22, 2010 8:23 PM GMT
    Well, the guys who use to give me crap no longer do. So, that's actually pretty dope!

    Yes, it's a violent sport, but there's a zen like quality to it too. I'm a lot more calm and my emotions are in check. Beforehand, I was pretty much a mess and really didn't know how to express my emotions. Hell, I live in the Upper Midwest. That's the norm here.

    Anyway, taking up boxing is the smartest thing I could have done. It's saved my life from being an emotional mess; gained a new best friend; tons more respect to the sport and the skills saved me when I was assaulted.

    So, who WOULDN'T want to date someone who is in a hobby (even a violent one) that made him a better person?
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    Jul 22, 2010 8:32 PM GMT
    I would be first in line to date one! I use to date a kick boxer years ago when I was younger. I will admit my first thought was he might snap and try to beat me, then I thought omg I gonna have to kill him LOL.Just kidding. Turns out because of his training he was the most respectful, gentle, and caring person I have ever met.
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    Jul 22, 2010 8:32 PM GMT
    Boxers don't have the most shining reputations, and aren't known for being the brightest bulb on the X-mas tree.

    Would I fuck a boxer? Sure, why not, though I'd prefer to fuck someone whose brain hasn't been rattled around inside their skull by consistent blows to the head ... a football player, diver/swimmer would do nicely.

    Would I date a boxer? Nope.
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    Jul 22, 2010 8:35 PM GMT
    My boyfriend is a MMA fighter in the WEC division. I do not have a problem with his career, however, its his constant traveling that annoys me sometimes.
  • MisterT

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    Jul 22, 2010 8:42 PM GMT
    I prefer to get my workouts on the bag now, it's got enough weight to it to take a good beating w/o flying around like the 100lb bags. I do like sparring, but wear headgear, however dorky it looks.
  • Techboxer

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    Jul 23, 2010 5:18 AM GMT
    Would I date a boxer... HELL YEAH! Of course given my Alpha Male Boxer mentality it would be interesting to see if we had to fight it out for dominance in the relationship shortly after we met. And/or if it would continue thereafter. I have a wrestling friend who's BF wrestles. They're both very aggressive on the matts so they don't fight one another.
    However the reality of me dating another gay boxer is extremely remote. Sure we're out here, but the majority are not "out" or seriously on the "DL!" Not to mention the off chance that we would like each other emotionally I'm certain the physical attraction would be there. But let's face it as previously mentioned... some fighters are complete douches'
    Still I know two other couples were both guys are boxers... I suppose dreams do come true for some, but I'm not that optimistic.

    On the flip side, I've found that most guys won't date me because they think I'm violent. This couldn't be farther from the truth. I would never raise my hand to another human being unless they were being a complete dick pestering me and/or were threatening a family member or someone close to me. I train hard and spar to relieve stress. The fact that it keeps me in tip top physical condition is an added plus. Usually I only get hit on by other athletes or wanna be fighters.

    Keep your guard up and come out punching.
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    Jul 23, 2010 5:23 AM GMT
    Wouldn't matter either way... and I can take a boxer.
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    Jul 23, 2010 5:36 AM GMT
    I couldn't have a guy come home to me every day looking like he got beat with a bat.
  • zenny

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    Jul 23, 2010 5:42 AM GMT
    Would I date a boxer? Yes I would.
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    Jul 23, 2010 6:07 AM GMT

    I wouldn't mind dating a boxer. I think that you have to think about the person when your dating. A guy that may be a software engineer may be very violent while the boxer is a big old sweetheart. I also like boxing and kick boxing so it would be common ground
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jul 23, 2010 3:23 PM GMT
    I'm not on the DL w/ the boxers. They usually find out I'm gay after knowing me for awhile. I never hide it, but training is more important than me saying I'm gay. Doesn't even cross my mind. All that crosses my mind is not to get hit in the head.

    And yes, I've been hit in the head many times. I'm still fine and I'm still intelligent. There is brain damage to boxers, but only 10 to 15% of boxers.

    And I would love to date another boxer. Would have a lot in common and learn many things from each other too. That would be great! Rare, but freaking awesome! And if we have an argument, deal w/ it the way we know how: sparring. Three rounds, three minutes. Whoever wins is right. icon_twisted.gif

    There are times when I am fuming mad, I want to hit someone, but I walk away or leave the place entirely. I really don't want to end up in jail for assault or even permanently damage the guy.

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    Jul 23, 2010 3:36 PM GMT
    I think there are guys with fragile egos. You can be the nicest guy in the world, but they know (and they know you know) that you could physically destroy them any time you wanted. That's pretty tough for them to deal with.

    I love friends or a partner having your skills. I take pride in a friend's accomplishments. Only issue for a LTR is I would worry about long term effects. Mohammed Ali and Jerry Quarry come to mine. Seeing Quarry in his prime compared to his later years was very sobering.
  • calibro

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    Jul 23, 2010 3:38 PM GMT
    no, i would not date a boxer or any other type of dog for that matter icon_wink.gif
  • SoDakGuy

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    Jul 23, 2010 5:15 PM GMT
    Funny. icon_twisted.gif

    calibro saidno, i would not date a boxer or any other type of dog for that matter icon_wink.gif