It seems to me, that there are many animals, who fight for dominance, in order to build their Harem, not only for their gratification, but also to procreate, their particular genetic traits. Yet, there are other species, like Cardinals who mate for life. With out getting Darwin about this, if we are, some how evolving as Mammals, GAY People are truly living in a Brave New World of Sexuality. I'm sure it's only natural to want multiple partners, if our ancestors are any indication, that's our history. Yet mans existence has been here for only a blink, in the Eyes of the Eons of Time. Just like our Religions and Moralities, which are relatively, a recent Life Stile choice. So when you study the Natural World, you actually will see both Monogamy, and Promiscuous, actions displayed, depending on the Species. I'm sure Children and Disease, undoubtedly, had a huge, influence on conforming to Marriage, as we developed through out History. So now, we still have disease, and more and more of us are Adopting Kids. So in the Twenty First Century, we are free, to choose what ever Life Stile, suits us best. This is the first time in History, that we know of, as Gay Men, we are able to chose, whether or not to have a family. More, and more, our Equal Rights, are going to be given to us, because we won't stop fighting till we get them. With our rights, will come the burden of choice, between what we collectively will display as our Morality, or not. I suspect like in the Heterosexual World, in our Community, there will always be people acting out, in both sexual directions. Like in the rest of society, there will all ways be debate, over which is the right choice, to make. No one ever wants to really embrace, that the one person they are most attracted to, would much rather Fuck some one else. Until it happens to you, it may seem unimportant, but just wait. If you are experiencing that level of hurt, you may lean strongly toward monogamy. Yet, when the next guy, with the handsome good looks, that makes your knees week, cruises you, then make your choice, and see which side of the coin you're on. It's a tough issue, to mature over, but at some point, you do have to make the choice. Is your Ego more important to you, than the Man your in Love with ? I've always put my Lover first, because I've always wanted some one to treat me that way. How ever, I've yet to find some one with the same out look as mine, who is Single. But lots of folks, like me who are in couples, so I know I'm not wrong. But then, no one is really right, or wrong, about this. Both choices are natural, depending who you are, and what you want out of life.