Feeling terrible coz of an OFFICE party…

  • hectorjack

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    Jul 22, 2010 4:55 AM GMT
    I have been recently in to an amazing relationship with my gym trainer and life is ( was )amazing until yesterday. I really (had) or may still have what I have been dreaming or what I wanted finally. So here comes the trouble

    Last night was some kind of stupid client welcoming party at my work and I invited him so that I can spend time with him since originally he wanted to go for a movie.. I dint want to disappoint him and in the same time dint wann to miss the party as well so thought this might work well .

    It was all more than good until I started drinking and got worse when I got drunk. I have this chick at work who is kind of interested in me coz I haven’t stepped out of my closet yet. So she was trying to show off to everyone at work that there is something between us so she started fooling around with me say holding hands , kissing cheeks or that hair do the chest tap stuffs. Which all could have made my man mad.

    All that I can see how disappointed this poor guy was sitting at the party he came just coz I invited him and all that he knew was only me. I couldn’t do much coz as I said I was drunk of I was busy socializing with business clients. Which I regret the most now.

    If it was me I would have freaked out right after the party and poured out my anger. But he aint me he did wait until the party got over. Got me home made me sleep and then left. Still he hasn’t asked me a word about what happened at the party. That is what is bothering me and I feel terrible. I love him so much and I don't want any miscommunication later developing into a misunderstanding..

    All that I wann to know is

    1) Is he keeping quite coz he thought it was no big deal knowing this kind of shit happens at office party ??? or
    2) Waiting thinking I owe and explanation since the damage was caused by me???


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    Jul 22, 2010 5:00 AM GMT
    i honestly suggest tht if you care about him tht much then you should explain to him what happened and apologized
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    Jul 22, 2010 5:00 AM GMT
    Well I think he deserves a long and detailed apology. Explain to him what you just explained here.

    Stop drinking, and if you can, office parties. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
  • hectorjack

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    Jul 22, 2010 5:07 AM GMT
    Hey thanks a ton both

    Doug i really dont mind explaining things to him tust me i would have done it even all myselficon_rolleyes.gif all that i am wondering is whats wrong for him to react if someting happens like this or if he is not happy with any of my acticon_question.gif I really cant be this nice and cool with every ting on lifeicon_eek.gif
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    Jul 22, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    Hmmm...well, is he acting distant or is he still warm with you?
  • hectorjack

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    Jul 22, 2010 5:28 AM GMT
    He is for sure more thatn warm with me
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    Jul 22, 2010 5:33 AM GMT
    If he's more than warm with you then what's the trouble, my friend?
    You're a lucky guy to have him in your life, so be happy, be warm to him and cuddle him up when you apologize.
    (and don't do this party scene again. It's not worth damaging a wonderful relationship)

    Earlier you said you would have been very angry and freaked out if he had done that party scene to you.
    Well he didn't. This means dear guy, that he has some things about him you can learn from. It's all good!

    -Doug
  • safety43_mma1...

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    Jul 22, 2010 5:49 AM GMT
    u owe him a big time apology for that. u said u love himm and that wasnt right at all. and yes stop drinking too other wise it might happen again and then he might not deal with it anymore and say good bye. i am not triing to be judgemental or a dick but hey u like him say u r sorry and make it up to him with a great date just u two.
  • Bunjamon

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    Jul 22, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    meninlove said Well I think he deserves a long and detailed apology. Explain to him what you just explained here.

    Stop drinking, and if you can, office parties. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug


    This.

    You are still in the closet at work but you invited your boyfriend to attend a work-related function? That's not cool.
  • hectorjack

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    Jul 22, 2010 5:50 AM GMT
    Thanks Doug it was gud to hear it form you .. Will speak to him about it
  • hectorjack

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    Jul 22, 2010 5:55 AM GMT
    Hey bunjamon,

    This.

    You are still in the closet at work but you invited your boyfriend to attend a work-related function? That's not cool.


    I do accept what you say it might me so uncool of me but i guess it has a lot to do with social factor here in India. But i dont wann to justify things what i have done but i just wann to say i did that coz i really do like having him around all the time.
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    Jul 22, 2010 6:01 AM GMT
    remember the silence comes before a storm. best thing to do is appologize and ask for his forgivness and back off the drinking if it causes you to do this.