FUNDRAISING OPTIONS: Is "Bid A Date" Appropriate?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 12, 2008 9:57 PM GMT
    I serve on the board for a local gay & lesbian organization and we are in the process of establishing some ideas for a fundraiser. Last year we had a very successful garage sale, but want to do something with a little more interest from the community.

    It was suggested we have a "Bid a Date" for several of us on the Board as well as members (and non members of the organization that are willing to help us raise money). Several restraunts are willing to donate dinners so it looks promising.

    Question: It has been voiced that "it isn't appropriate for those of us with bf's or partners to be bid on. My bf certainly has no issues with the idea at all. Its a fund raiser.

    *"Bid a Date" simply means that the successful bidder is willing to (basically) donate money and will receive a dinner and a dinner (only) with the person bid on.

    SO..... Do you think it isn't a big deal.. and do you have any experience with this kind of fundraiser and if so, what do we look out for?
  • GQjock

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    Feb 12, 2008 10:58 PM GMT
    LOL...no
    They have to be single if you're gonna bid on them
    Otherwise what fun is that?
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    Feb 12, 2008 11:01 PM GMT
    I have been members of GLBT organizations in three different cities. All of them have done that very fundraiser. It is totally appropriate as long as no hanky panky goes on where hanky panky shouldn't.
  • ShawnTX

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    Feb 12, 2008 11:11 PM GMT
    I think it's a great idea. Let's face it, sex sells, and when a bidder finds a potential 'date' attractive, they'll be much more willing to hand over their money.

    I think it's a bit juvenile to think that it's inappropriate for individuals in a couple to be bid on. It's for a good cause, and the bidder knows that all they're really intitled to is a free dinner and hopefully, good conversation.
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    Feb 12, 2008 11:18 PM GMT
    i feel if the boy/girlfriend is cool with it, then go ahead and get bid on. if the partner doesn't feel comfortable, then that person should personally choose not to be bid on.

    i know it's a lil different for university life, but instead of dates alot of the clubs here do the "bid a butler" kinda thing.
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    Feb 13, 2008 12:05 AM GMT
    An organization that I'm involved with here in Portland has a great idea for a fundraiser. They get people in the community to donate dinners at thier homes. Both GLBT and straight couples donate with the expectations that each of the guests will donate a minumum amount (usually $100-$150 per person). There are two types of dinners:

    Public: People on the organization's mailing list can sign-up as guests for the dinner

    Private: The hosts invite guests to thier dinner.

    We have had local chefs donate dinners, get-away dinners at the coast, mountains, Palm Springs and everything in-between. This year there are a total of 64 dinners in the series. We have had Private dinners at our home for the past couple of years and have really enjoyed it - as well as making approx. $2,000 per dinner for the charity.

    I've attached a link in case you are interested.

    http://www.ourhouseofportland.org/events/dinnerseries/home/
  • treader

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    Feb 13, 2008 12:19 AM GMT
    I agree with GQjock. If it's 'Bid a Date' then partnered guys can't do the date part. You should call it 'Bid a Dinner' instead.

    They did a similar event here in Boston. The auction-off guys had to be single. You were bidding for a date. A friend pushed me to do it since I hadn't had a date in a while. Frankly, it was pretty embarassing but it's a funny story to tell. They had us answer a set of questions before and photograph our favorite body part (LOL!), then called us randomly up to the stage for a particular question. One guy came up to me and asked if he could sample the merchandise before buying. Another guy didn't want to bid but instead wanted to 'hang out' afterward. And the kicker, the guy who won me had a partner already! We never did go on the dinner. I never called him and he never called me. Thank god. Oh well, you got take some chances now and then. icon_redface.gif

    As for recommendations, if I ever do this again I would make sure that I had a friend in the audience who would bid on me if no one else did. There's nothing worse than seeing your bid sheet empty while others have several offers. It's just like being the last one picked on a team.
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    Feb 13, 2008 1:05 AM GMT
    I'm also on the board of directors of a GLBT non-profit. Maybe your boyfriends could donate to your cause and settle this quickly. It'll look really good, too.
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    Feb 13, 2008 1:36 AM GMT
    I think I would be really pissed if my partner weren't high bidder... icon_lol.gif

    I have done this kind of thing with charities several times... the more local 'celebrities' you can get involved the better. Also think about looking for a local formal wear shop to sponsor you with formal wear for each person who goes up on the block. Several years ago I also did one for an organization that got the sponsorship of a car service... winning bidders were picked up, taken to lunch or dinner and entertainment (concert, show, etc), and then driven home.

    Good luck.
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    Feb 13, 2008 4:33 AM GMT
    It's basically a "Bachelor Auction" which is done in a lot of places and is an "old" fundraising event...do your homework, have they been done there before, if so, did it work, and if not, why?

    Make the event classy...ItJock had some good ideas to dress it up and make it special...

    Local celebrities will draw much more than mere "board members"...

    Make it a live auction instead of a silent auction...get a great emcee/auctioneer...and try to plan it far in advance so that you have a chance at getting a real celebrity...

    Good luck!

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    Feb 13, 2008 5:20 AM GMT
    As long as everyone understands what is going to happen. If people in your group still think that the Bid a Date is a problem the idea Treader and call it Bid a Dinner.
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    Feb 13, 2008 5:25 AM GMT
    treader saidI agree with GQjock. If it's 'Bid a Date' then partnered guys can't do the date part. You should call it 'Bid a Dinner' instead.

    Or "Bid a Dinner Date" ... emphasize the great social and companionship qualities of the dinner date...like,

    "Avid toy car collector with exciting expertise and insight in the sport of toy car collecting!"
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    Feb 15, 2008 11:33 PM GMT
    Non-singles could work as long as that information was disclosed somewhere. I'll bet the non-single ones wouldn't be bid on too much though.