Got Drunk at Nephews Graduation Party...

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    Jul 23, 2010 7:37 PM GMT
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    Last weekend I attended my nephews graduation party. Let me first say that I have a wild streak at the best of times, but I don't drink often for a number of reasons, but had some wine to celebrate the occassion & to relax, as I saw a great deal of family for the first time in many years. Much of the family doesn't drink to begin with, much of them preferring not to exibit emotion in the first place, so my little display of festive celebration wasn't taken very well by many, as I found out later.

    I do feel guilty, but also feel that it was a party and I am use to being around a more festive, lively bunch.
    What is your take/ advice?
    Thanks guys...
  • Paradigm_Shif...

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    Jul 23, 2010 9:06 PM GMT
    Depends on how "Drunk" and "Festive" you were lol.
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    Jul 23, 2010 9:10 PM GMT
    Paradigm_Shift saidDepends on how "Drunk" and "Festive" you were lol.


    Yeah.. uhh... details?
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    Jul 23, 2010 9:23 PM GMT
    Point taken.. Well, at one point I started pouring tequila shots for graduating seniors (only the ones that were not driving) and began dancing to the band so others would, etc. Nothing was set on fire, but let's just say I didn't get the best feed back, after the fact...
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    Jul 23, 2010 9:27 PM GMT
    EccentricStud saidPoint taken.. Well, at one point I started pouring tequila shots for graduating seniors (only the ones that were not driving) and began dancing to the band so others would, etc. Nothing was set on fire, but let's just say I didn't get the best feed back, after the fact...


    Well... it doesn't sound too bad. But if those were HS seniors rather than college... you were committing a crime.
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    Jul 23, 2010 9:29 PM GMT
    No offense guy. I dont like dude who gets wasted at parties and start acting a fool but you were having fun.. so forget them
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    Jul 23, 2010 10:08 PM GMT
    You are an adult, and you are expected to act like one. Getting drunk and dancing around at a party for teens is not adult-like behavior. Save the party antics for when you are hanging out with your own friends and away from underage teens and family.
  • EricLA

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    Jul 23, 2010 10:20 PM GMT
    Sounds like you were definitely lacking in good judgment. It's one thing to be trashed at a function with a bunch of uptight relatives, but another to be trashed at a function with uptight relatives and serving alcohol to minors. NOT smart. They are justified in being pissed. Of course, they should have stopped you if they were witness to it.

    But you are responsible for your own actions. Be a bit more self-aware next time.

    I was worried that by "festive" you meant "getting frisky" with your nephews. At least you didn't go there.
  • shoelessj

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    Jul 23, 2010 10:24 PM GMT
    1) it happened. not a great moment in your life but not the worst thing you could have done. if necessary, offer some apology(ies), don't engage in this stuff very often and move on.

    2) i kind of wonder what is going on (or not) in your life that you would get drunk and act out at a nephew's graduation. you mentioned not seeing some of the family for awhile -- is there a reason for this?
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    Jul 23, 2010 10:29 PM GMT
    EccentricStud saidPoint taken.. Well, at one point I started pouring tequila shots for graduating seniors (only the ones that were not driving) and began dancing to the band so others would, etc. Nothing was set on fire, but let's just say I didn't get the best feed back, after the fact...


    Thats nothing! I once got so wasted- icon_question.gif
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    Jul 24, 2010 2:02 AM GMT
    That doesn't sound that bad to me, sounds like your relatives are uptight, and many people's relatives are. Maybe you pushed it a little bit, by pouring the shots, but seriously... they hired a band for this party and nobody was dancing before you? That screams uptight to me. That's lame. Not to mention alcohol was clearly available so what do they expect? I wouldn't worry about it!
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    Jul 24, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
    Always remember to ask . . . .
    "What would Miley Cyrus do?"
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    Jul 24, 2010 2:04 AM GMT
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  • mybud

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    Jul 24, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    Dude...the people that truly care for you...wouldn't give it a second thought....with that reality.....forget about it....BUD
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    Jul 24, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    chaos444 saidAlways remember to ask . . . .
    "What would Miley Cyrus do?"


    Exactly. What would Miley Cyrus do.? So I take it there was a stripper pole there to make yourself look like a cheap, under age slut.!?!? Ha ha.

    Well getting drunk at a grad party isn't so bad. Those HS kids probably drank more than you anyway. Whatever feedback you may have gotten from this situation can't be as bad as my family. Who likes throwing things like bowls, avon decanters, hammers.... whatever's handy.

    It sounds like you needed a guy less drunk to help you outta there when you were ready to leave. icon_cool.gificon_wink.gif
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    Jul 24, 2010 3:12 AM GMT
    If when you are 80 you still look back on this as one of your biggest mistakes in life, you are a lucky man. Yeah, maybe you should have been a little more careful, but doesn't sound like you trashed the place.
    BTW, my partner and I usually stop over at the Hoiday Inn in Oneonta on our way to Montreal. It's a really beautiful part of the country.


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    Jul 24, 2010 3:19 AM GMT
    chaos444 saidAlways remember to ask . . . .
    "What would Miley Cyrus do?"


    she'd party in the usa
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    Jul 24, 2010 5:01 AM GMT
    If I were at that party I would have done a bunch of tequila shots myself and gone to dance too!! What's a party if you're not dancing??? Heck I would have just brought the bottle of tequila with me onto the dance floor! But I seriously don't think you should worry... It sounds like you were just trying to make it a fun time for everyone and it's not your fault if others aren't as into a good time as you are...
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    Jul 24, 2010 5:07 AM GMT
    Were so drunk you slept with an uncle?

    My family is one of those bbq and crates of box wine sorts of families. Everybody must drink. In my experience, the family folk that don't like the things I do didn't like me before I did the things anyway, and the ones that do like me in spite of it.

    The rest of them are church-whispering hussies that gossip anyway.

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    Jul 24, 2010 11:01 AM GMT
    The pourin' tequila shots for seniors? Not a great idea
    The drunk dancin'? Depends on the level icon_wink.gif
    Were you the guy dancing off beat with his eyes closed with a drink in his hand? ....
    Keep it as a lesson learned
    Once you cross that line drunk or not you have to live with the consequences
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    Jul 24, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    shoelessj said1) it happened. not a great moment in your life but not the worst thing you could have done. if necessary, offer some apology(ies), don't engage in this stuff very often and move on.

    2) i kind of wonder what is going on (or not) in your life that you would get drunk and act out at a nephew's graduation. you mentioned not seeing some of the family for awhile -- is there a reason for this?



    No, not only do I not make a regular thing out of engaging in this sort of thing, but I honestly don't even drink regularly, for better or worse. I do think I should have exibited better behaviour.

    2. Yes, the Family thing was most certainly a factor. I haven't seen the majority of them in about five years, mostly because I have been traveling & living on the other side of the country. Ten minutes around these people and I magically remembered why I limit communication with these people to Christmas cards; chilly, distant, uptight, morose, judgmental,..In part, I was probably "drinking my feeling" a bit, as well as just being myself and saying to hell with them.

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    Jul 26, 2010 4:37 AM GMT
    EccentricStud said
    shoelessj said1) it happened. not a great moment in your life but not the worst thing you could have done. if necessary, offer some apology(ies), don't engage in this stuff very often and move on.

    2) i kind of wonder what is going on (or not) in your life that you would get drunk and act out at a nephew's graduation. you mentioned not seeing some of the family for awhile -- is there a reason for this?



    No, not only do I not make a regular thing out of engaging in this sort of thing, but I honestly don't even drink regularly, for better or worse. I do think I should have exibited better behaviour.

    2. Yes, the Family thing was most certainly a factor. I haven't seen the majority of them in about five years, mostly because I have been traveling & living on the other side of the country. Ten minutes around these people and I magically remembered why I limit communication with these people to Christmas cards; chilly, distant, uptight, morose, judgmental,..In part, I was probably "drinking my feeling" a bit, as well as just being myself and saying to hell with them.



    ah ha!
    well, too bad for them.
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    Jul 26, 2010 4:43 AM GMT
    That doesn't sound to horrible.
    Well actually after reading some of your farther post it does sound pretty embarrassing and bad.

    At my grandpa's wedding i got so drunk that I ran out of money and went around to all the extended family trying to get more booze. I was begging them for money or more shots. Than later that night I was like I am not drunk and tried to walk and just fell over. Now that is embarrassing. This other time at my aunt's house the day after she died of cancer I got so drunk that I was trying to play football with my cousins and apparently just kept falling over. This was a few years ago but still pretty embarrassing. I haven't touched alcohol though since.

    I think you should just do what i did. Just never bring it up to anyone and don't talk about it. That is what I did and it worked just fine for me even after my mom was yelling at me. All i said was sorry to her. . Most people will just pretend it didn't happen and just forget about it. Actually even make fun of it later on or right after. Just have to make sure not to do it again though.
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    Jul 26, 2010 5:11 AM GMT
    I never get drunk at a party unless I'm positive everyone else at the party is drunk as well. Just a rule of thumb.
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    Jul 26, 2010 5:14 AM GMT
    EccentricStud saidicon_redface.gif
    Last weekend I attended my nephews graduation party. Let me first say that I have a wild streak at the best of times, but I don't drink often for a number of reasons, but had some wine to celebrate the occassion & to relax, as I saw a great deal of family for the first time in many years. Much of the family doesn't drink to begin with, much of them preferring not to exibit emotion in the first place, so my little display of festive celebration wasn't taken very well by many, as I found out later.

    I do feel guilty, but also feel that it was a party and I am use to being around a more festive, lively bunch.
    What is your take/ advice?
    Thanks guys...
    Stand up to them and tell them to go fuck themselves if they don't like it.
    That's exactly what I'd do, and have done. icon_lol.gif