curious_athlete said...would appreciate some feedback and if anyone has been in the same situation.
Yes, I've answered this question many times, but that's OK, I see you don't post here a lot. We lived together 2 years, and our sex included me being the bottom, as well as blowing him, always with a condom on him. He also blew me and did manual on me, as I did with him, no condom. I am still negative.
Now the downside, to give you an honest picture. After about 12 years with HIV, and being in good health under doctors care and having excellent "counts," he suddenly developed an incurable AIDS condition called PML. He was dead within 6 weeks in 2004.
Even with improvements in HIV treatment there remains the risk of some opportunistic disease striking from the blue at any time. There are much better prospects today for a long life than ever before, but there's no guarantee. At the same time, I am seeing survival rates commonly into the high teens now, with the expectation they will continue to improve.
I see no reason not to date him if you are being safe. Actually, I think your risk from doing this while in the US military is greater than your risk from HIV. A longer-term commitment should be entered with your eyes open. I did, and I didn't regret it.