Hot Listing Etiquette

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    Jul 25, 2010 2:22 PM GMT
    I can't imagine this hasn't been done before, but what's the correct RJ etiquette when someone hotlists you?

    Do you:

    a) Say nothing
    b) Send a message of thanks
    c) Hotlist them back
    d) Thank them (but only if they are hot)
    e) Hotlist them back (but only if they are hot)

    I haven't been hotlisted much but when I have I've not said anything, don't know if that's coming across as rude or what!
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    Jul 25, 2010 2:24 PM GMT
    I always email back with thanks because I am always flabbergasted when someone hotlists me.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 25, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
    I usually don't say anything and it isn't because I don't notice. It is always appreciated.
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    Jul 25, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    NickFit saidI can't imagine this hasn't been done before, but what's the correct RJ etiquette when someone hotlists you?

    Do you:

    a) Say nothing
    b) Send a message of thanks
    c) Hotlist them back
    d) Thank them (but only if they are hot)
    e) Hotlist them back (but only if they are hot)

    I haven't been hotlisted much but when I have I've not said anything, don't know if that's coming across as rude or what!
    a. If it's a pictureless empty profile, yes. (unless I happen to recognize the screenname as someone I know, which happened recently)
    b. Except for those described in (a), yes.
    c. See answer (e).
    d. See answer (b).
    e. I only hotlist if the person has pics that give me an instant hard-on, which is very rare. I have to be really horny to get boned from just pics. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 25, 2010 2:28 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI usually don't say anything and it isn't because I don't notice. It is always appreciated.


    Why do you not say anything, though? Is it because you think that acknowledging it makes you seem conceited?
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    Jul 25, 2010 2:51 PM GMT
    I will always check out their profile. Most of the time I send a thank-you note. The only time I won't, is when by the time I go to their profile my pic is not visible anymore and I'm among the other fifteen-hundred or so hot-listed.icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 25, 2010 2:57 PM GMT
    Say thank you, unless the person hot-listing you is a picture-less person. Then it's creepy.
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    Jul 25, 2010 2:58 PM GMT
    d and e

    if the are not hot, send back a note saying "as if!"
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    Jul 25, 2010 2:59 PM GMT
    I always say thank you but I don't hot list anyone for one simple reason. If I haven't met them how do I know if they are hot? When someone hot lists me I think it is more a comment on how photogenic I am than how hot I am.

    While were at it I feel the same way about buddy lists. How can someone you've never met be a buddy? I think this is why I do so much better meeting people and making friends in real word than the virtual one.
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    Jul 25, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    Moot point for me, not aware I've ever been hot-listed at all. If there's a place to find it I haven't bothered. And if I were to be hot-listed I'd prolly do nothing, out of confusion for the motive behind it.

    Does it mean someone has a crush on me? Don't they see I'm in a monogamous relationship? It wouldn't be because I'm hot-looking (which likely explains why I apparently haven't gotten any). And frankly I'd rather not email back to ask why it was done, which would be awkward to do.

    Neither have I ever hot-listed anyone, again because I don't want to send confusing signals. I don't hit on guys here. But I do buddy-list, primarily as a kind of "book mark" to keep track of guys whose posts I like, or who sent me a pleasant email. But even then I've had some guys mistake my intent over it, reading more into it than meant.

    So I think I'll just leave the RJ Hot List feature totally alone.
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    Jul 25, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    I've been hot listed once or twice and I'm appreciative of it. I figure they like what they see, since, obviously, they don't know my personality. When hot listed, I send them a thank you and usually ask or say something that I hope might start a conversation. Hey, you never know if a relationship of some sort might come out of it.
  • calibro

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    Jul 25, 2010 6:50 PM GMT
    i say thanks
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    Jul 25, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    I think a 'thank you' is always in order whenever anyone pays a compliment.
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    Jul 25, 2010 6:58 PM GMT
    I say thanks, if the person making the hot listing has a profile that has at least one picture and has information in his profile.

    Otherwise, it's a little like getting an anonymous letter in your mail box saying "love to have sex with you."
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:00 PM GMT
    I've often thought about this topic, so thnx for starting this thread.
    I treat hot-listing like an electronic 'wink' some other sites use. I find that cheap and not 'engaging' in any way, so I usually ignore them.
    I DO, however, read their profile and regardless of how hot or not their pics may be, I'll often respond to a well-written blurb that resonates with me.
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:01 PM GMT
    calibro saidi say thanks



    Its true this guy is very nice.
  • Timbales

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    Jul 25, 2010 7:01 PM GMT
    when I am occasionally hot-listed, I say thanks and hot-list them if I think they are hot.
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:02 PM GMT
    scftnsguy saidI think a 'thank you' is always in order whenever anyone pays a compliment.



    Good call! Mama raised you right!
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:02 PM GMT
    Burp, scratch your balls, and mumble, "That's right, bitch."
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    bernd saidI will always check out their profile. Most of the time I send a thank-you note. The only time I won't, is when by the time I go to their profile my pic is not visible anymore and I'm among the other fifteen-hundred or so hot-listed.icon_rolleyes.gif


    The serial hot-listers give me the biggest groan.

    I say nothing because I don't agree with the notion of having hot lists. I don't hot list myself.
  • sportsdude12

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    Jul 25, 2010 7:04 PM GMT
    scftnsguy saidI think a 'thank you' is always in order whenever anyone pays a compliment.


    I totally agree. Also, I feel that it's rude to only say thank you to someone who you think is hot.
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:05 PM GMT
    I think it depends on your reaction to it. How would you respond if the same guy told you you were hot in a bar? Say "thanks" most of the time, I think. And if some guy without a face says it, I think you're well within a justified response to run for cover.

    (Seriously, can you imagine faceless people showing up to social events? Or maybe they just wear bags over their heads?)
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:05 PM GMT
    I think hotlisting someone, for me anyway, is just paying someone a compliment, so do my best to write anyone that hot lists me say thanks.

    I am usually impressed with the guys that I may hotlist and they include a note to ask how my day is going and etc. I think that is so nice and something thats not needed but really personalizes the whole thing. I have made alot of great friends on RJ by hotlisting them and then we get to chatting this way.

    I guess you could consider it an ice breaker also of sorts, or just a plain compliment to someone that is obviously working hard on their physique and should get the respect and kudos for doing so!
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:08 PM GMT
    I always say thank you. It's only polite. and I'm not on anyone's "A" list
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:09 PM GMT
    Xian_Buffed said

    (Seriously, can you imagine faceless people showing up to social events? Or maybe they just wear bags over their heads?)


    These sound like interesting characters that would undoubtedly stand out amongst generic bar fodder.