On Becoming Jaded...

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    Jul 25, 2010 3:01 PM GMT
    How does one become Jaded, prevent it and reverse it. Curious for your responses.
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    Jul 25, 2010 3:35 PM GMT

    Doug's rule:

    Don't let a bad experience in the past control your future.

    -Bill
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    Jul 25, 2010 4:45 PM GMT
    You step up to the curb waiting to cross and some asshole swerves to splash the stagnant rain water mixed with sewage all over you; after this happens a couple times you learn to stand further back from the curb.
    If you allow enough time to pass and there are consecutive sunny days, the puddle will dry up and you can stand next to the curb again.
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    Jul 25, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
    great point dustin...I'm looking at jaded, though, as being like this:

    That asshole that swerved and spattered you means no more walking anywhere near a curb ever again, and that all drivers are inconsiderate assholes.
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    Jul 25, 2010 5:14 PM GMT
    In terms of guys and dating?

    When I catch myself thinking things like "they're all like that" or "all guys are the same" I like to remind myself that most people are 80% good natured and 20% works in progress. Focus on the good and try to turn negatives into positive. A little rational thinking can also negate jaded thoughts- I'm a guy and I'm not like that. This will lead to more reasonable thoughts like maybe they were having a bad day, maybe it was something you said or did. Sometimes there's more to the story and if you could walk in their shoes you'd understand what's going on. Better to give them the benefit of the doubt.icon_wink.gif

    Though, if they are truly jerks than they really need to work on themselves and it's their loss. They'll realize this when it's too late. You don't need people like that in your life anyway.

    Secondly, don't let bad experiences ruin your outlook or attitude as Doug said. Learn from those experiences but don't create a worldview out of only the bad. Put a positive attitude out there and you will attract others with a positive attitude. Everyone wants a guy that's optimistic and has a good personality. Like attracts like.

    And the catch all for not becoming jaded and cynical- remember everything happens for a reason. Sometimes you'll find out the reason and realize the outcome was actually the optimal outcome for you or there is a life lesson to be learned from it.

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    Jul 25, 2010 6:31 PM GMT
    From the book "Vernon God Little," which I quoted before:

    The skin of his face hangs down in pockets, like he has lead implants. Character, they call it. It ain't character, though; you know it's feelings. Erosion from waves of disappointment and sadness. One thing I learned from watching folk these last days is that waves are mostly one-way; you collect them over a lifetime, until finally the least fucken thing makes you bawl.
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:13 PM GMT
    agri_sci saidHow does one become Jaded, prevent it and reverse it. Curious for your responses.


    One immerses oneself too much into cliques and cultures who homosexuality is the main focus of their identity icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:20 PM GMT
    Always grab the penis... with love.
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:20 PM GMT
    It's ok to be jaded if you construct a brilliant and comically self-deprecating fence around you.
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:27 PM GMT
    MsclDrew said
    agri_sci saidHow does one become Jaded, prevent it and reverse it. Curious for your responses.


    One immerses oneself too much into cliques and cultures who homosexuality is the main focus of their identity icon_rolleyes.gif


    Haha. Nice! I like
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:28 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo saidIt's ok to be jaded if you construct a brilliant and comically self-deprecating fence around you.


    From experience?
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:29 PM GMT
    I mean the OP in general not in a gay or dating context.
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:34 PM GMT
    agri_sci said
    Ciarsolo saidIt's ok to be jaded if you construct a brilliant and comically self-deprecating fence around you.


    From experience?


    How dare you I'm little miss sunshine, you ass.

    <3
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:43 PM GMT
    Ciarsolo said
    agri_sci said
    Ciarsolo saidIt's ok to be jaded if you construct a brilliant and comically self-deprecating fence around you.


    From experience?


    How dare you I'm little miss sunshine, you ass.

    <3


    HAHA. I love when you post!
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    Jul 25, 2010 8:01 PM GMT
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    MsclDrew said
    agri_sci saidHow does one become Jaded, prevent it and reverse it. Curious for your responses.


    One immerses oneself too much into cliques and cultures who homosexuality is the main focus of their identity icon_rolleyes.gif


    Haha. Nice! I like


    I concur. Valid point though, immersing oneself into any culture independent of their own lives, does affect an individual.

    Best,

    MLP