The "Who is this?" Text..

  • InsatiableBlo...

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    Jul 25, 2010 6:08 PM GMT
    Ouch...

    I usually take this as the hint that a person doesn't want me in their life anymore and typically I don't respond unless I have reason to believe they got a new memory card, etc..

    Is it better to retain your dignity by not responding?
    What do you do?
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    Jul 25, 2010 6:10 PM GMT
    It doesn't always mean you were deleted on purpose, so respond and then if you don't get a reply, you have your answer!

    I've only sent it to guys I've deleted though, usually ex f***buddies!
  • InsatiableBlo...

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    Jul 25, 2010 6:15 PM GMT
    How do you delete someone out of your contacts NOT on purpose?

    ..Butt Deleting I suppose.
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    Jul 25, 2010 6:40 PM GMT
    I am bad at saving numbers so I am guilty of this a lot...
  • InsatiableBlo...

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    Jul 25, 2010 6:43 PM GMT
    czechshadow saidI am bad at saving numbers so I am guilty of this a lot...


    You must have a lot of lovers, who you care deeply about you.
  • ChilaxinJOCK0...

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    Jul 25, 2010 6:44 PM GMT
    yea, you should respond. Im bad at saving numbers as well....
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    Jul 25, 2010 6:46 PM GMT
    lol i never respond to them....
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    Jul 25, 2010 6:46 PM GMT
    Hmm, let's look at it from this angle:

    I get the transitory nature of many people these days. I also like to maintain a certain level of control over things and operate simply. My facebook thing has less than 70 friends and my phone has less than 100 contacts, most of which are work numbers and such.

    When it comes to the various men you meet in a single dating life...my rule is...if I don't hear from you in a month, you are deleted. Grown ups know how to communicate, even in passing, if there is interest or a necessity to maintain contact/interaction. If he texts me suddenly and expect me to remember his number, he's an idiot I'm better off not knowing in all his flakiness.
  • MrXanderM

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    Jul 25, 2010 6:48 PM GMT
    czechshadow saidI am bad at saving numbers so I am guilty of this a lot...


    I'm terrible at saving numbers...

    and.. when i get a new phone for some reason my contacts never transfer (There is always some "error")
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    Jul 25, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    InsatiableBloom saidOuch...

    I usually take this as the hint that a person doesn't want me in their life anymore and typically I don't respond unless I have reason to believe they got a new memory card, etc..

    Is it better to retain your dignity by not responding?
    What do you do?


    I have a terrible memory for names. Will never forget a face, but name !!!!!
    Even one year into my relationship, I would sometime look for the name of my partner.
    I've never been able to remember the name of the boys and girls in my classroom.
    So, if I was your friend, and had not heardaboutf you for a time, I might very very well ask you 'who is this', just because I can't easily link a name with the person.
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    Jul 25, 2010 6:49 PM GMT
    I have been doing this alot as I was having problems with a software update verizon sent me for my droid. I had nothing but problems after the software update and had to to keep doing hard resets which erased everything off of my phone until I resynced it with my gmail account.

    This would cause me to send out alot of "who is this" responses.

    Also, I am a throw away kind of person. This means with material things and etc. I like this clean neat and NO CLUTTER!! This has to do with my house, car, phone, life, whatever, so usually if I don't hear from a person or don't plan on it for a while I do delete them.

    But IT NEVER FAILS as soon as I delete lets say 10 people, I get 5 texts from those people the next day!!! WTF?!!!
  • TristanLane

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    Jul 25, 2010 6:50 PM GMT
    Dont respond at all. Just delete the number.
  • jeepguySD

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    Jul 25, 2010 6:52 PM GMT
    I don't save every incoming phone number from a text message or phone call. I like to keep my contacts list clean and simple. I certainly do not memorize every number that calls or texts me. So, if I get a message from a number I don't know it seems reasonable to ask "who is this?" The alternative is simply to ignore any message from an unrecognized number. Which is worse?
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:16 PM GMT
    I agree with redbull... although most assume the worst about an innocent text message, the person could genuinely have lost your number do to a list of things, i.e. software failure, new phone, damaged phone, jumped in the ocean with the phone in their pocket (ha-ha).

    Guess it just depends how well you know/knew this person. After a couple of text messages, you should be able to tell, one way or another, if this person is telling the truth.

    James
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:21 PM GMT
    I have like 4 people I text...
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    Jul 25, 2010 7:22 PM GMT
    When someone texts me and I dont know who it is but they insist we know each other, and I still dont know who it is I never pass up an opportunity to mess with them.

    Especially when it appears they met someone the night before at a bar and that person gave them the wrong number. icon_biggrin.gif

    Gotta get your fun whenever you can.
  • Parker817

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    Jul 25, 2010 8:26 PM GMT
    czechshadow saidI am bad at saving numbers so I am guilty of this a lot...


    Same here. Usually I'll exchange numbers with someone, either they'll call me or I'll call them and we'll wait til the other person's phone rings to make sure they get the number, but then I typically forget to go back later and add them as a contact.

    That, or it's an old trick that I deleted from my phone. Either way, I don't get offended by the "Who is this?" text.

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    Jul 25, 2010 8:28 PM GMT
    Anyone with any class, says something like...

    "Hey, this is Chuck Lastname. Just checking back."

    "We met at the Internet meeting 3 weeks ago. I'm the short fat ass."

    or

    if they have even MORE class,

    they pick up THE PHONE and TALK.

    The voice, and phone, are a MUCH better intervention, and a text is no substitute for a conversation.
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    Jul 25, 2010 8:31 PM GMT
    I don't take things in some possible meaning, so I always respond.
    I try not to pre-empt someone's message by just assuming the worst.
    keep yourself open, you never know.
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    Jul 25, 2010 9:09 PM GMT
    Who is the OP?
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    Jul 25, 2010 9:17 PM GMT
    I usually respond back, but then if I text him again a few days later and he says who is this?, then he is gone for good.
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    Jul 25, 2010 9:49 PM GMT
    Theres so many ppl I meet and the ppl I meet meet so many ppl (ok, not bragging, more frustrating) that I always have to re-ask and ppl have to ask again for me, especially if its a common name of which there are many, we'll usually pass info such as "such-and-such from such-and-such and you called me to do such-and-such," Its a million times worse if you live in big cities, so no dont be offended, I certainly wont be and I wont hang up rudely untill I get to the bottom of remembering who you are and why you have my number ;)

    PS, If I didnt want you in my life anymore, I never would have responded asking in the first place...
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    Jul 25, 2010 9:57 PM GMT
    Pride is what you make it. I respond to those. I SEND those. If they don't want to talk to me, they won't.

    Sometimes i get a text from a random number and when I find out who it is, am really happy to hear from them.

    I guess the trick is not handing out your number to gobs of fence sitting tards. lmao
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jul 26, 2010 12:15 AM GMT
    why would that get you upset. most times you are not in someone's phone. i never put guys i just met in my phone. actually, i never put anyone in my phone i just met because i never know if i am going to meet them again. anyhow, just respond back and if they give you a reason that is acceptable to you then there you go. stop being so dramatic jeeze