Looking to relocate - suggestions?

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    Feb 13, 2008 11:04 PM GMT
    Six years ago I found true happiness - I left my family/friends and moved 500 miles to be with him - just over a week ago my "soulmate" told me that he was no longer in love with me. Now I'm at a crossroads - where do I go from here? I live in a small midwestern city (Nebraska) and I'm not looking to move clear across the country. Any ideas? Instead of responding on the forum feel free to email me.
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    Feb 14, 2008 1:49 AM GMT
    Chicago is great. It's very laid back, but still has a million things to do. It's also not much more that 4 hour flight from anyplace in the continental US.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 14, 2008 2:11 AM GMT
    I've lived in Oregon my entire life, and it is beautiful, but I find the weather dreary. So, I've been thinking a lot lately about relocating within the next few years. You might find these links fun, and maybe even helpful:

    http://www.bestplaces.net/fybp/Default.aspx

    http://www.findyourspot.com/
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    Feb 14, 2008 2:15 AM GMT
    I love South Florida. (Winter? What's that?)
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    Feb 14, 2008 7:56 AM GMT
    Whataman,

    Sorry this happened to you, man. Sometimes a change is good at a time like this. How about Phoenix when you're considering new cities? The sun, sports, people, growth - all of it is a tonic. It is also an outdoor friendly place - you'll meet new guys cycling, running, swimming, lifting, just doing a ton of things outside.

    Your profile sounds great - you deserve someone who is also great - I'm betting you find him in your near future. If you were here, we could talk some more - in person!
  • GQjock

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    Feb 14, 2008 11:51 AM GMT
    Nebraska?....

    Where's that?

    Somewhere next to Siberia or somethin'?

    Come down to Miami where good men are warmly appreciated icon_cool.gif
  • iHavok

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    Feb 14, 2008 1:10 PM GMT
    Have you lived in the midwest your whole life?
    Consider Iowa City. It's pretty close to Chicago and Omaha that you can travel and visit, but enjoy a fun college town (UIOWA ROCKS).
    If you want to escape the midwest, try a new place entirely I'd suggest the west coast. It's expensive, but you can find places that are relatively affordable, like northern california, or southern oregon.
    Just be aware, the californian men are TOTALLY different than midwesterners
  • in773guy

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    Feb 14, 2008 1:45 PM GMT
    You can easily find yourself feeling at home in Chicago....your already used to winters there.....come and see what a summer is like in Chicago.....you will never want leave...
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    Feb 14, 2008 1:58 PM GMT
    Hey Whataman - very sorry to hear about your relationship ending. I lived in Nebraska for 42 years and relocated to New York last July. I love it here! However, I had also considered Minneapolis, Chicago, Denver, and Kansas City. Any of those cities would be a great place to relocate. They still have the Midwestern vibe but offer more in terms of arts, entertainment, restaurants, and dating. Are you looking for a bigger city or someplace small?

    Also, be cautious about your move. You don't want to make a decision you'll regret while you are mourning the end of your relationship.
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    Feb 14, 2008 2:03 PM GMT
    First i have to say how sorry i am to hear the news!

    But in life whatever happen's happen's for good or Bad.

    l suggest you take a long vacation and have a good time then come back to your town and really think of what you want now and where you would be happy.


    Maybe California as there seem's to be plenty to see and do there and the weather is pleasent also?


    Or The Big Apple?

    Anyway i wish you love and Luck and who know's what's waiting around the corner?




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    Feb 14, 2008 2:57 PM GMT
    it looks to me that the City of Brotherly Love would be happy to have you! ;)
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    Feb 14, 2008 3:07 PM GMT
    Chicago really is awesome and would be good for you, but let me suggest Austin, Texas, since you don't want to move to one of the coasts. Austin is one of the best cities in the country, with a welcoming gay community, all the benefits of a major city but with the personality of a small town. It has the University of Texas for great sports and a great offering of arts events. Aside from the hot summer weather, it's damn near perfect.
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    Feb 14, 2008 3:08 PM GMT
    Nah don't go to Filthadelphia!
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    Feb 14, 2008 3:38 PM GMT
    I have to echo Austin. I lived her almost 9 years ago and recently moved back. I've lived in NYC, PA, NC, Miami and San Francisco. I always knew I would be back to Austin. Very young, active and attractive city. Tons of things to do and interesting people to meet along the way. My only beef is that it needs to be more metropolitan. however, there are tons of museums, concert halls and other "big city" ammenities on their way in the next few years.

    If I had to move and could endure the winter, I would try Chicago. However, Sydney would be my dream place to relocate.
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    Feb 14, 2008 3:51 PM GMT
    whataman, a BIG OLE WARM HUG to you!!

    I am considering Austin myself in about a year or two. As what DJBens77 mentioned, I had a "thing" for that city and I SO MISS the warmth that I had in SoCal! However my DREAM would be Spain!!! Siestas anyone???
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    Feb 14, 2008 3:56 PM GMT
    I appreciate everyone who has responded on the forum as well as emailed me. The biggest issue as well is a job. Without a degree (another screw up in my life) I'm somewhat limited. I currently work retail (national supplement provider) and would like to stay in the retail industry. Once everything settles down and I can think clearly I will need to check out my options.
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    Feb 14, 2008 4:08 PM GMT
    a1972guy saidwhataman, a BIG OLE WARM HUG to you!!

    I am considering Austin myself in about a year or two. As what DJBens77 mentioned, I had a "thing" for that city and I SO MISS the warmth that I had in SoCal! However my DREAM would be Spain!!! Siestas anyone???


    1972 I'm waiting for ya!
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    Jun 03, 2008 3:02 PM GMT
    bringing this one back....

    I love love love the city I live in, but I often get caught up in "the grass is greener" syndrome with where I live. Having just ended a 9 year relationship, I wonder if I would benefit from living somewhere else (mind you I have lived in nyc, sf, miami, NC). Austin is great, but it lacks a cosmopolitan feel - read gay culture, arts, clublife, city feel, etc). On the other hand, there is so much to do outdoors and on the water, I could never feel right in a concrete jungle. I need urban with water and nature and tolerable weather. Am I nuts...

    So two questions:

    1) do you find value in planting roots and sticking with a city?

    2) if you could live somewhere else as a chance at a second phase of life, where would you move?
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jun 03, 2008 3:34 PM GMT
    Well, I moved here to the Phoenix area (Scottsdale) after living in Los Angeles for 20 years to the day...and I am here to stay. Love it here. Great mix of small town mentality and a big city feel....and 9 months out of the year the weather is like living in Paradise...and then there's those nightly sunsets --- WOW!
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    Jun 03, 2008 4:06 PM GMT
    Have you considered Canada. Wide variety of climates to choose from. Good weather, good people, Legalized Same Sex Marriage and Non discrimination laws. All in all as long as you can stand winter its awesome. Even Winter ain't that bad, depending on where you live of course. The coldest I have ever seen has only been -43C excluding windchill. My cousin on the west coast has never been to temp below -15C though. his winter average is like 10C
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    Jun 04, 2008 1:02 AM GMT
    My vote would be for Scottsdale (Phoenix), too. Been here 6 years and love it. However, since you've picked Colorado, would you mind a suggestion?

    From all of the RJ Members who've responded, you have an incredible network of friends and contacts already building. We know people, who know people, and one of our peoples would be able to help you locate housing and/or employment.

    Therefore, use us; ask us questions - one on one, or in these forums. But DON'T be shy about asking. There isn't one in the bunch (including ChuckyStud, if he were here), who wouldn't want you to be happy and successful.

    Best of luck to you in your move! And GQJock may have a few empty moving boxes for you to use.
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    Jun 04, 2008 1:16 AM GMT
    the DC metro area has its attractions:

    pretty much recession proof because of the federal govt..and if your company does lay you off, there is another in the area to hire you.

    large gay community...lots of bars, social activities, clubs, sports teams, etc.

    lots of cultural amenities: art galleries out the wazoo, museums, historical sites: houses, buildings, forts, battlefields, america's revolutionary and civil wars, Kennedy Center, Wolf Trap for music, Warner Theater, cosmopolitan, urban but not overwhelming like NYC...you can see the sky, the sun, and feel the breeze, mountains, sea, rivers, the Chesapeake Bay, boating, kyaking, horse country

    proximity...easy to get to places in the world...europe, caribbean
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    Jun 04, 2008 1:33 AM GMT
    Anywhere but Calisinnerland.

    That wretched land of Sodom will fall into the sea any day now.
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    Jun 04, 2008 1:36 AM GMT
    somewhere warm
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    Jun 04, 2008 1:39 AM GMT
    I have a feeling Roadbikerob will be able to tell you where NOT to move to.

    (*waits*)