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    Jul 26, 2010 5:58 AM GMT
    so i was totally into a guy tonight at a bar but he had a partner of 17 year, impressive in of itself. Well i was totally into one of them, and he was into me, by the way he was feelin and kissing me lol. i would have gone home with him alone, but i wasnt into his partner. So i went home alone (which is ok i dont really care lol)

    what have you all done in a situation where a fuck mean someone you dont want there will be the third???

    in the end i still exchanged numbers and they will be fun guys to be friends with but ill def be attracted to him for a while icon_razz.gif

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    Jul 26, 2010 8:18 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI do not care for three-way sex because usually not everyone is into each other equally.

    When that happens it really is pointless.



    yup and though the IDEA of a threeway is fun, the reality is normally disappointing, rushed, awkward and best forgotten.
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    Jul 26, 2010 10:20 AM GMT
    I've never had a threesome, was offered a couple before but had the situation you describe where I was into one but not both, so turned it down.

    I could only do it if I was really into them both.
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    Jul 26, 2010 10:23 AM GMT
    This happened to me and I just said sorry it's not happening
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    Jul 26, 2010 10:46 AM GMT
    Ahem I did it and I was not sorry, it was with a couple and I liked em both, not in a physical way I mean, I just got along well with both and could talk well, hang out all three of us etc... there was just no bad "tension" there so it all went pretty smoothly... Also, I wasnt gonna go so far as to develop "feelings" for either of them...

    They were also very unjealous of one another.. that too is an important factor, but thats for any open relationship... as long as there is that honesty and understanding among all, I dont think it need be a problem
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    Jul 26, 2010 11:34 AM GMT
    For me threesome is never comfortable esp with a couple. Did it once and I felt as I was an outsider all the time, which was true, and never felt the passion that they had for each other. So in the end it depressed me a bit and so now I just stay away from it.
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    Jul 26, 2010 11:43 AM GMT
    You'll come to realize having two new friendships is more fulfilling than an awkward and temporary one time 3 some.
  • owen19832006

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    Jul 26, 2010 12:03 PM GMT
    i was involved in a similar situation, but in that case the guy i was attracted to decided to tell his bf he wanted to have sex with me, and it seemed they had quite an open relationship, so the other guy just sat there and watched and played with himself...
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    Jul 26, 2010 12:07 PM GMT
    If you don't want there to be a third i would say don't try to hook up with guys that are coupled.
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    Jul 26, 2010 12:22 PM GMT
    If it all feels EQUAL, it's AMAZING! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 26, 2010 12:27 PM GMT
    never had a 3 way. i one had an opportunity but i'm too shy for that. is it so great as it's said?
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    Jul 26, 2010 1:35 PM GMT
    Very seldom have a 3 way because I want to know all participants well or at least have sex with each separately. You can tell right away if it'll work that way when/if you do it.
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    Jul 26, 2010 1:43 PM GMT
    res_ident saidIf it all feels EQUAL, it's AMAZING! icon_biggrin.gif


    YES! icon_razz.gif

    A lot of guys here are dismissive of threesomes because they obviously have not had a good one.

    A good threesome can be out of this world, but you do have to be into both. If you are not, it is unfair to you and them to continue. Since you were not into both, you made the right decision.
  • Timbales

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    Jul 26, 2010 2:27 PM GMT
    seems like a 4 way would be more equitable
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    Jul 26, 2010 2:33 PM GMT
    Wtf? A dude with a partner of 17 years was off kissing someone else? How faithful.
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    I almost had a threesome once when I was studying abroad lol. It was me, a bisexual Cypriot dude, and my good American girl friend. Luckily I cut it short before anything really went down and I'm very glad I did. I agree that threesomes are cool in theory but don't seem to play out that way in real life.
  • LJay

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    Jul 26, 2010 3:04 PM GMT
    Breakers: "How faithful."

    Or you could say How secure. Some couples are like that.
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    Jul 26, 2010 3:13 PM GMT
    breakers saidWtf? A dude with a partner of 17 years was off kissing someone else? How faithful.
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    A couple enjoying no-strings sex with a third is no worse than bringing a sex toy into the relationship. It has nothing to do with faithfulness, which, in my opinion, is knowing you can count on the person no matter what and he will be there to support and love you always.
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    Jul 26, 2010 3:23 PM GMT
    I dunno... I just find the idea a little weird. What's the point of having a 'partner' if they're not your one and only?
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    Jul 26, 2010 3:26 PM GMT
    Totally agree with viveutvivas.

    It's not for everyone, but it can be a lot of fun when it's the right 3 guys.

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    res_ident saidIf it all feels EQUAL, it's AMAZING! icon_biggrin.gif


    YES! icon_razz.gif

    A lot of guys here are dismissive of threesomes because they obviously have not had a good one.

    A good threesome can be out of this world, but you do have to be into both. If you are not, it is unfair to you and them to continue. Since you were not into both, you made the right decision.
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    Jul 26, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
    breakers saidI dunno... I just find the idea a little weird. What's the point of having a 'partner' if they're not your one and only?
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    Everyone has different needs in a relationship. If an open relationship is not right for you, that's ok; just don't judge those who are happy with a less traditional relationship.

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    Jul 26, 2010 3:52 PM GMT
    I have been in that exact situation many times. Totally into one guy but not the other.

    I know myself well enough to know that I would totally put too much effort in to ensuring the guy who I wasn't into was having a good time, and it would ruin the experience for me. I don't go there.
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    Jul 26, 2010 3:57 PM GMT
    U know what odd numbers just don't work. 2 - 4 - 6 - 8 is what u should be looking for

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    Jul 26, 2010 4:11 PM GMT
    i've had a couple good threeways... mostly they're disappointing. when all three are on, it's amazing. when there's asymmetry... not so much.
  • Buddha

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    Jul 26, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
    I've only had one and it was really hot... although I got the feeling that one guy felt a bit left out.
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    Jul 26, 2010 4:53 PM GMT
    charlitos saidU know what odd numbers just don't work. 2 - 4 - 6 - 8 is what u should be looking for


    Threesomes work in my experience because everyone plays together the whole time.

    With 4 it either becomes 2 and 2, or three and a leftover. In my experience too much to think about, which ruins it for me, but maybe I just haven't been lucky.