What's stereotypical about you, and what's not.

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    Feb 14, 2008 2:35 AM GMT
    I'm interested in your personal views of gay stereotypes in a specific context: yourself.

    What aspects of yourself would you say were stereotypes. What parts are counter to it. Now I realize that on this site there are lots of aspects that are counter to a stereotype.

    Stereotypical:
    Love Classical Music and Opera
    I play harp.
    I like theatre.
    I like gardening.
    I've never slept with a woman.
    I've got 12 pairs of jeans and I know every brand.
    Almost all of my shoes are Kenneth Cole.
    I love Lucy, Bette Midler, Patti Lupone, Cher.
    I know who Charles and Ray Eames and Aero Saarinen were.
    I know who Matthew Rush and Josh Weston are.
    I can make an incredible Tarte au Poire a Maconnais.

    Non-stereotypical:
    I can rebuild a carberator.
    I do wood turning and other woodwork.
    I've never worn drag.
    I love (club) dance music
    I liked 'Cats'.
    I love Science Fiction.
    I love technology that's not based on 'coolness'.
    I wash with Ivory Soap and hardly use 'creams, lotions, and other toiletries'.
    After a shower, I spend 30 seconds or less on my hair.
    I know the names of the last three Secretary Generals of the UN.
    I know who Ted Williams and Carl Yastrzemski were.
  • GeorgeNJ

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    Feb 14, 2008 3:33 AM GMT
    (BG, where have you been all my life?)

    Stereotypical vs Non-stereotypical:

    Love theater - Know very little about theater

    Love classical music - Know very little about contemporary music

    Never slept with a woman - Have only 2 or 3 female friends

    Love jeans - Only wear Levi's 501s

    Love beautifully decorated homes - Live in a plain co-op

    Don't get too excited about sports - Don't get too excited about Judy Garland

    Love the summer - Hate Christmas


    (I'm sure I'll think of more)
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 14, 2008 3:50 AM GMT
    Stereotypical: Love Christmas
    Buy way too many polo shirts
    Brand queen (about shirts only, not
    suits)
    Very clean house
    Picky
    Make wreaths for fall other occasions


    Non Stereotypical: Love all sports and play baseball
    and basketball

    Work in the yard, "grub in the mud"
    Not much of a cook
    Into cars
    Career choice
    Not into many of the gay "typical"
    social activities
  • roadbike

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    Feb 14, 2008 5:11 AM GMT
    bgcat57 saidI'm interested in your personal views of gay stereotypes in a specific context: yourself.

    Hi BGCat57: Good topic!

    Stereotypical:

    Cooking is my artform, and I love to spoil my dinner guests - just like Albain from La Cage aux Folles, but healthy, gourmet, vegetarian ethnic cuisines: Italian, Mexican, Mediterranean, Asian, and American.

    Gardening - Tree roses, annuals, and perennials - something is always in bloom. I've had some good luck with indoor gardening, too.

    Underwear and sexy clothing fetish - I love to see fit, hot guys in any kind of clothing that is revealing enough to show the outline of their dicks: Speedos, bike shorts, mesh and dazzle gym shorts, underwear, track pants, sweatpants, and white boardshorts. Gets my pulse racing every time. Sunglasses keep me from getting busted.

    Non-Stereotypical:

    I'm not the fashion decorator type - my home is a small apartment suitable for me. It has nice hardwood floors, but would never be featured in a magazine.

    I'm not into jewelry - I have a stainless steel Swiss Army watch. It's very nice, but I never wear it. My bike, car, cell phone, and computer all have clocks. I don't do rings, bracelets, earings, or necklaces.






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    Feb 14, 2008 7:21 AM GMT
    Wow - this is interesting!

    Stereotypical:
    I am very clean - personally plus my house / cars.
    I iron my own cotton clothes.
    I shop at Ralph Lauren and other good stores.
    I like women singers / Judy Garland, Shirley Bassey, and others.
    I like good stores, restaurants, hotels, spas.
    I am kind of a clothes horse - tons of really good clothes.
    I like architecture, art and history.
    I don't have or like trucks.
    I prefer clean sports, i.e. swimming over dirtier sports.

    Non-stereotypical:
    I can't really cook and have little interest in it.
    Played H20-polo in h.s. and college.
    Not really into typical gay activities.
    Love old cars / and go to auto shows sometimes.
    Sometimes do heavy gardening work - when I don't have a gardener.
    Used to change oil and filters on my own cars.
    Used to fantasize about being a Navy Seal.
















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    Feb 14, 2008 12:26 PM GMT
    Stereotypical:

    -I'm a visual artist
    -I once designed the costumes of three successive years of United Nations celebrations in high school (including one I wore myself as the class representative - It was turkey I think LOL)
    -I like writing and reading, including poetry
    -I appreciate beauty in all forms
    -I like female vocals and techno and cheesy lovesongs
    -I love chick flicks
    -I got slender fingers and good nails (artist's hands)
    -I have no fascination with cars (Though I have a fascination of aircraft and spacecraft icon_razz.gif)
    -I hate watching sports on TV
    -I don't like getting my feet dirty. My hands and everywhere else are fine. But I wet my feet like at least 10 times a day. LOL
    -I'm sensitive/empathetic, I can sense what someone is feeling, and more often than not absorb it as my own (e.g. if someone near me is mad, I get mad too)
    -I don't act tough at all. icon_razz.gif I back off first in fights unless I'm really angry. I'm always the first to apologize
    -I'm pacifist, but I like wargames


    Non-Stereotypical:

    -I have absolutely no desire to wear women's clothes or be a woman
    -I have no sense of fashion
    -I like heavy metal
    -I hate disco music
    -I can't dance for shit
    -I can't cook for shit
    -I don't have a "fag hag"(close female friend)
    -All my close guy friends are straight
    -I love Sci-Fi
    -I do not have special 'beauty regimens'. Just regular bathing and all that stuff. Heh. No lotions etc.
    -My room looks like a tornado was in it yesterday
    -I prefer beer over 'fancy' drinks
    -I love nature, and I'm not scared of earthworms, bugs, mice, cockroaches etc (except caterpillars - a phobia developed from a childhood experience)
    -I don't like most classical music, theater, fine dining, hate formal wear, have no patience for social BS
    -I don't manicure, pedicure, style or dye my hair, have no body piercings, never wore makeup
    -When startled or frightened, I don't scream or squeal, I either howl or say 'Fuck!' LOL. And yes, I say 'Fuck' and not a cussword in my own language

    Anyway, I don't believe in stereotypes. It all depends on what you consider stereotypical. We're all different in our own way. icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 14, 2008 1:42 PM GMT
    I just keep it brief

    Stereotypical
    -Love my Divas (MARIAH!!)
    -Drink a lot
    -Arogant
    -Dress very well
    -My best friend is a Drag Queen
    -Anal retentive about being clean and making sure my house is clean
    -I own over 40 pairs of jeans. I have a "Jeans Closet"


    Nonstereotypical
    -Have no problem sleeping with girls
    -Though I don't sleep around
    -Not impressed by tans, muscles, or clothing
    -NO DRUGS
    -LOVE kids, can't wait to have a few of my own

  • art_smass

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    Feb 14, 2008 3:33 PM GMT
    Stereotypical

    Not only do I love gardening, but I'm the chairman of the local horticultural society's annual garden competition.

    I've been a columnist for a few major fashion magazines.

    I love disco music.

    "America's Next Top Model" is my favorite TV show.

    I work out at the YMCA.

    Non-Stereotypical

    I won't let anyone do anything in my garden, including the hardscaping. I haul around tons of rocks, patio blocks and dirt myself.

    Despite my success as a fashion writer, I was rejected as a guest on "The View" after the producer decided that I wasn't gay enough.

    I love late 80s/early 90s rap music more than I love disco music.

    Hour for hour, I probably watch more "Hockey Night in Canada" than "America's Next Top Model."

    The YMCA I work out at is the straightest gym in town.
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:08 PM GMT
    This sounds fun.

    Stereotypical:

    Love classical music and opera;
    Love my brand names, from ties to shirts and everything in between;
    Prefer cocktails to beer,
    Have too many shirts and pair of jeans for my own good,
    Love art and architecture,
    Have sunglasses for every day of the week,
    Like ritzy hotels.

    Non-sterotypical:

    Have no idea what exfoliating is,
    Hardly know how to use product,
    Have no idea what the difference is between hair mud and wax,
    Have no problems having a girl in bed,
    Have no man jewellery or find diamond ear-studs a must,
    Prefers straight clubs and bars (don't stone me),
    Hardly keep up with entertainment or fads.
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:49 PM GMT
    Stereotypical:

    I enjoy theater
    I love musicals
    I have more then 2 pairs of shoes
    I have never slept with a women
    I Love 'I Love Lucy'
    I enjoy classical music
    I like to cook
    I LOVE Halloween
    I love Art, especially pre-Columbian
    I hate watching sports on TV
    I wish I could dress well
    I wish I could dance
    I like men
    And I like shinny things

    Non-stereotypical:

    I would rather camp out then stay in a hotel
    I only own 3 pairs of shoes
    I only own 2 pairs of jeans
    I love the outdoors and hiking
    I don't like clubs or dance music
    I will try to play any sport
    I don't talk with a lisp
    I don't have a limp wrist
    I like to shoot guns (not at animals though, so I guess this is somewhere inbetween non-stereotypical and stereotypical)
    I love to travel and explore
    And if I had a choice between sleeping with Ryan Reynolds or playing soccer with my friends, I would pick soccer.
  • jarhead5536

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    Feb 14, 2008 5:58 PM GMT
    Stereotypical -

    My close friends are mostly women.
    I love opera and musical theater.
    I am addicted to shoes and fashion in general.
    I can't throw a ball.
    I cry at sad movies.
    I drink cosmopolitans.
    I go to foreign films.
    I am afraid of spiders.

    Not stereotypical -

    I live in the suburbs in a little house with my husband.
    I am a tattooed former Marine.
    I play soccer.
    I am an excellent shot with a rifle.
    I go to church.
    I like mindless action/adventure films and teen sex comedies.
    I seriously hate shopping.
    I love camping (the real kind where you live outdoors for a short period).

  • Csrobbie2000

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    Feb 14, 2008 7:05 PM GMT
    My former boss told me that he had to fight hard to get the owner of the company to hire me for the software engineer position I applied seven years ago. It seems like the owner of the company thinks that I am too young to take on the challenges. I certainly proved him wrong.
    My current boss sometimes asks me questions such as what is 355 divide by 26 as if I am a calculator. He must have thought I'm a Math genius because I'm asian.
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    Feb 14, 2008 10:05 PM GMT
    Stereotypical:

    - non-athletic;
    - not handy with fixing things;
    - like opera;
    - like dancing;
    - like ABBA and disco music.

    Non-stereotypical:

    - could not care less about fashion;
    - hate shopping;
    - mainly male friends;
    - never wanted to dress up in women's clothes;
    - love sports (watching and playing);
    - masculine;
    - interested in "male" hobbies (aviation, cars, military history, etc.);
    - non-promiscuous;
    - never taken a party drug.

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    Feb 14, 2008 10:34 PM GMT
    Queen:

    I'm fascinated by mechanical ingenuity––submarines, tanks, airplanes, et c.––all thanks to that avant-garde überfag, Da Vinci.

    I've installed dry-wall, wired up lighting fixtures and countless dimmer switches, soldered copper plumbing (PVC is so suburban), installed wall-to-wall carpeting (no doubt invented for fags that were too damned faggy to operate a rotary sander), stripped-sanded-stained-and-sealed hardwood floors, tarred flat-top roofs, re-shingled my dad's garage, and for my brother’s business, laid stone, brick and tile for patios, ponds and garden walls. Do what needs doing; learn to do what you cannot yet do, because, in the end, all that matters is that it be more exquisitely gorgeous than the neighbors’. Make it beautiful, or don't bother!

    I’d have queen-sized (110mm) cigarettes on me when I worked on the loading docks, because I knew that the blue-collar blokes would rather go into withdrawal than suffer the indignity of being caught begging for a “bitch stick”. Also, I was so waiting for the day when one of them would sprout the balls to call me a faggot to my face, if only to interrupt the mind-numbing monotony.

    I listen to classical music every day, from dawn until dinner, though I have little stomach for Chopin and Britten – they’re music is so terribly un-gay, it’s an embarrassment. Funny thing is, as a teenager, I wasn’t considered queer for liking classical music; I was called pretentious––close, but no cigar!

    I wear ball-caps nearly every day, mostly because I have more hair than patience, but also because I’m always seeking external props to signal my homosexuality to the world––discreetly, you understand, otherwise it’s gay!

    I’ve skinned rabbits, plucked chickens and helped butcher hogs. Like my favorite chef would say: If you are incapable of growing food and killing food––have never done so––then who are you to judge what is fit to eat and what is not? By the way, I've only ever fallen for straight chefs––I must be yearning for my daddy.

    I frequently go on weekend hikes in the regional parks because there’s nothing quite like mountain treks to make my ass perky and rock-solid––vanity––and I also really need to every-so-often wear my Madonna t-shirt without setting the whole town on fire.

    I argue with my mother while doing the dishes. I mean like in my head… about things that took place another lifetime ago.

    I pack the same unopened pouch of creatine in my lunchbox every day, just for show, so that the buffy moes at the office will think I’m one of them and not report me to Manthrax HQ.

    I routinely turn down offers of sex with hot guys because they didn’t approach me the way my scripted fantasy required them to.


    Dude:

    I’m totally hooked on sushi, spicy thai and szechuan food, and topless breakfast diners; what lengths us guys will go through to be straight when the company is compelling enough.

    Black leather apparel––jeans, perfectos, patrol boots, gauntlets, et c. ––simply shout “I am man”. Practical color and material, enduring style, matches with everything, and goes everywhere. Of course, I need to travel for hours to wear them somewhere.

    Dislike of busy patterns: the wallpaper, tablecloths and runners, Belgian waffle-cloth hand towels, French linen dishrags, Italian percale sheets of Egyptian cotton with discreet satin piping… all of these must be plain, or tone-on-tone textures, or with very subtle stripes––woven, not printed––are hallmarks of super chic, masculine style. You know, very discreet. So no one will ever have the gall to suppose that you pack fudge for fun.

    Clubs, dancing until noon with homos: In large, multi-environment nightclubs, I usually disappear for long stretches into the R&B/Hip-hop room, so I can get away from the gays, divas and synthetic drugs for a couple of hours. Besides, it cracks me up to see straight, 18-year-old wiggers imitating my moves.

    I never wear gloves when washing up the dishes, and the water must be scalding hot, and I’d rather use stretched-out jockey shorts to clean my plates rather than ever buy a pink sponge, even if it were the last one left in the store. Pink doesn’t go with anything in my home I’m afraid and it always reminds me of those rubber washing up gloves––too 1950's hostess.

    I enjoy making out with Black girls. Those luscious lips, the tropical scent of their hair, and the rhythmic whining and grinding of the hips against mine––and without stubble burn!

    I’ve worn a dress, along with the rest of my soccer team-mates, to drink-ups on pub-crawls. It’s tradition; the losers are the winners’ bitches for the night. Tradition is manly.

    I often wear berets. I guess it’s the G.I. Joe in me, although occasionally someone will say I look like a Frog with it on, but I remind myself that it’s totally cool, because babes like it––the dreamy foreigner fantasy––and when the babes are all over me, I don’t appear the slightest bit gay.

    Dyed hair, earrings and tinted lip-gloss: like my straight, metrosexual buds, not like them swishy sissies--huge difference!

    I routinely turn down offers of sex with hot guys just because strangers happen to be around or there's work to be done.
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    Feb 15, 2008 2:40 AM GMT
    Stereotypical

    I like...
    shopping
    sound of music
    cooking

    I am friends with a lot of girls

    Not Stereotypical

    I can go without product in my hair
    I don't drink Vodka or fruity drinks
    I don't hit on my gay friends
    I don't try to convert straight guys
    My cell phone was never the latest thing
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    Feb 15, 2008 2:45 AM GMT
    bgcat57 said
    Stereotypical:
    Love Classical Music and Opera
    I play harp.
    I like theatre.
    I love Lucy, Bette Midler, Patti Lupone, Cher.
    I know who Charles and Ray Eames and Aero Saarinen were.
    I know who Matthew Rush and Josh Weston are.

    Non-stereotypical:
    I've never worn drag.
    I love (club) dance music
    I liked 'Cats'.
    I love Science Fiction.
    I love technology that's not based on 'coolness'.
    I wash with Ivory Soap and hardly use 'creams, lotions, and other toiletries'.
    After a shower, I spend 30 seconds or less on my hair.
    I know the names of the last three Secretary Generals of the UN.
    I know who Ted Williams and Carl Yastrzemski were.


    These are the parts of your list that are true of me. I can't garden for crap and I'm not much of a foodie, and harp for me is piano....but otherwise...check.

    I guess I'd add for non-stereotype that I held my own for years working in one of the most homophobic environments in the country: Wall Street.
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    Feb 15, 2008 3:17 AM GMT
    Sedative14 saidcaterpillars - a phobia developed from a childhood experience)


    Explain, please.

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    Feb 15, 2008 3:35 AM GMT
    stereo:

    i am only sexually aroused by other men
    i prefer the company of other gay men
    my politics
    my sense of humor

    non-stereo:

    everything else, i guess (my taste in music, clothes, the arts, how i deal with other people - i'm kind of a prick)
  • irishkcguy

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    Feb 15, 2008 3:48 AM GMT
    I like musicals. That's about it.
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    Feb 15, 2008 4:33 AM GMT
    This time Alice waited patiently until it chose to speak again. In a minute or two the Caterpillar took the hookah out of its mouth and yawned once or twice, and shook itself. Then it got down off the mushroom, and crawled away in the grass, merely remarking as it went, `One side will make you grow taller, and the other side will make you grow shorter.'

    `One side of what? The other side of what?' thought Alice to herself.

    `Of the mushroom,' said the Caterpillar, just as if she had asked it aloud; and in another moment it was out of sight.
    Alice's Adventures in Wonderland, Lewis Carroll
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    Feb 15, 2008 4:38 AM GMT
    Interesting to see what you guys consider the stereotypes; seems like some characteristics are considered stereotypically gay for some and the same are non-gay for others. That's cool; maybe the lines are blurred.

    Stereotypical:

    I love designer clothes and have loads
    I LOVE to shop as recreation
    I'm neat and clean
    I enjoy Broadway musicals
    I enjoy watching beauty pageantsicon_redface.gif
    I have lots of hair and skin care products
    I have track lighting (halogen)

    Non-Stereotypical:

    I like cars and never miss the auto show (in 2 weeks)
    I can shower and be dressed in under 5 minutes
    I can fix stuff around my house; electrical & plumbing
    I'm good with power tools (see above)
    I love to paint (my house exterior & interior)
    I love to shop at Walmart
    I don't "get" Judy Garland


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    Feb 15, 2008 4:42 AM GMT
    USMmmm said
    I don't "get" Judy Garland


    I never did either. And I had a boyfriend who worshipped at the shrine. Didn't get it then, don't now.
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    Feb 15, 2008 4:47 AM GMT
    Well i do love my hot sauce, quesadillas, tortillas and Tequila. as for what doesnt stereotype me, well i dont think im illiterate, i am a US citizen and apparently i speak english good. whoops i meant well icon_biggrin.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 15, 2008 4:48 AM GMT
    "`One side will make you grow taller, and the other side will make you grow shorter.' "

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    Feb 15, 2008 5:08 AM GMT
    Stereotypical:

    Like to:
    cook (not really high on grilling)
    decorate
    neat freak
    iron my clothes
    particular
    match my socks with my pants
    Like to sing
    Can easily cry with a sad movie


    Not so stereotypical :

    Like to:

    Mt Bike
    Brew my own beer
    Can fix most anything (except autos, hate autos)
    married (for now)
    Go to church every Sunday
    Love action packed movies (IE: Bourne series)