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How Can You Tell If a Guy is Gay or Bi?

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    QUOTE Jul 26, 2010 10:52 PM GMT
    There are definately so many attractive, sexy, gorgeous and friendly young guys who I walk by every day on my college campus. Sometimes while we walk by casual eye contact is made, nothing unusual for people, and many times I think to myself "damn, that guy was absolutely perfect..." and then I flip my head to see him walk away and we continue on our day.


    I am sick of not knowing or being able to tell if all of these guys that I pass by are straight or not...it makes me afraid to make any moves or to even entertain the possiblity of initiating something. In short, it keeps me lonely and pent up to myself FOREVER. How will you ever know if you get shut down by this obstacle constantly? Its not as if guys who are into the possiblity of other guys wear a sign on their forhead. I think the possiblity of rejection is just so humiliating. That's really what it is..and so I never give myself the chances that could bring something really amazing into my life to happen. I refuse to settle for the only way meeting a guy is to go to gay bars/clubs and pick from the pool there.

    I know others on this site have had this issue...please share what you did about it? Have you ever took a chance and just initiated something with a really cute guy even though you weren't sure he was gay?

  • Midas426 Posts: 953
    QUOTE Jul 26, 2010 10:57 PM GMT
    I'm just waiting for Paulflexes clever reply. icon_biggrin.gif
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    QUOTE Jul 26, 2010 11:20 PM GMT
    You can't tell unless he's really feminine but no you can't tell unless you ask them or if they say- Let's fuck.
  • LJay Posts: 11253
    QUOTE Jul 26, 2010 11:48 PM GMT
    Oh, it's really very easy!

    It is written just behind their scrotum in india ink.

    Just ask if you can look.
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 12:07 AM GMT
    It gets real complex. Guys even sleep with you and claim to be str8
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 12:19 AM GMT
    . . . I assure you, I play on both sides of that fence; easy enough.
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 12:23 AM GMT
    Yes, Im annoyed by it too icon_sad.gif
  • jgymnast733 Posts: 1783
    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 12:24 AM GMT
    Well eye contact i guess could be an issue considering how i purposely avoid making eye contact with females [ i dont want them to get their hopes up], Anyway....
    Sometimes you never know about guys, i'v been approached by them all,,married, engaged ect...to some guys a fuck is just a fuck...period...
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 12:26 AM GMT
    ...Just a post script:

    You are quite beautiful; coming to Albuquerque anytime soon?
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 12:27 AM GMT
    My gaydar sucks; I can never tell who is straight or gay. My recommendation for the OP is to get over your fear of rejection, or at least try to a little ( I know it's hard). You don't even have to ask the guys you are interested in if they are gay or not, just ask invite them for coffee or a beer (at a straight or neutral place) and see what develops. You can then suggest going to a gay club and see what their reaction is. Worst case, they won't want to go. If they do, then you know the guy is gay or at least gay friendly and you can continue to let things develop from there. Hope this helps.
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:23 AM GMT
    Sylas saidHow Can You Tell If a Guy is Gay or Bi?
    Who gives fuck? He's either into you or he's not. It doesn't matter how he identifies his sexuality.
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:24 AM GMT
    Midas426 saidI'm just waiting for Paulflexes clever reply. icon_biggrin.gif
    Clever...and to the point. icon_biggrin.gif
  • barriehomeboy Posts: 2472
    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:26 AM GMT
    Bi guys don't wash their bums after they take a dump.
  • Space_Cowboy_... Posts: 3738
    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:28 AM GMT
    WELL I've noticed if a guy keeps staring and if I like what I see I smirk at him and if he blushes he's interested, if he keeps staring and just has a stank face he wants his ass beat
  • Space_Cowboy_... Posts: 3738
    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:29 AM GMT
    PAUL HOW THE FUCK DO YOU HAVE MORE POSTS THAN ME?!?!?! You just got here!
  • barriehomeboy Posts: 2472
    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:29 AM GMT
    But as for the eyes thing, people look at what attracts them and look away from what they are offended by. Straight guys don't look at another guy any longer than it takes to decide if you're a threat to their security. If a guy is looking at you, long enought to look into your eyes, he's bi, or gay.
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:30 AM GMT
    Once you know their age, it's easy. There are certain artists, that when played in proximity of gays/bis of a certain age/generation, will cause said gays/bis to loose all sense of self-restraint. icon_rolleyes.gificon_wink.gif
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:34 AM GMT
    If you need to know, YOU ASK
  • Space_Cowboy_... Posts: 3738
    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:36 AM GMT
    RunintheCity saidOnce you know their age, it's easy. There are certain artists, that when played in proximity of gays/bis of a certain age/generation, will cause said gays/bis to loose all sense of self-restraint. icon_rolleyes.gificon_wink.gif



    hahaha not going to lie play Party in the USA and its alllll me
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:36 AM GMT
    The best- no fail method is to ask.
    Best done casually, not aggressively. icon_wink.gif

    Good luck.
  • NerdLifter Posts: 1457
    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:40 AM GMT
    Sylas saidThere are definately so many attractive, sexy, gorgeous and friendly young guys who I walk by every day on my college campus. Sometimes while we walk by casual eye contact is made, nothing unusual for people, and many times I think to myself "damn, that guy was absolutely perfect..." and then I flip my head to see him walk away and we continue on our day.

    I am sick of not knowing or being able to tell if all of these guys that I pass by are straight or not...it makes me afraid to make any moves or to even entertain the possiblity of initiating something. In short, it keeps me lonely and pent up to myself FOREVER. How will you ever know if you get shut down by this obstacle constantly? Its not as if guys who are into the possiblity of other guys wear a sign on their forhead. I think the possiblity of rejection is just so humiliating. That's really what it is..and so I never give myself the chances that could bring something really amazing into my life to happen. I refuse to settle for the only way meeting a guy is to go to gay bars/clubs and pick from the pool there.

    I know others on this site have had this issue...please share what you did about it? Have you ever took a chance and just initiated something with a really cute guy even though you weren't sure he was gay?


    This exemplifies my life. I completely refuse to have to go to gay bars/clubs since I just don't like that scene, too loud and often dark. I cannot give you an answer bud, I'm in the same boat, and I'm guessing what it comes down to is just pushing yourself out of your shell. I've often been tempted to just want to go up to a guy on campus and ask him out, but I've seen guys beat up and taunt gay people in town, so that really has been inhibiting, for all I know the guy I'm about to hit on is a gay basher.

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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:47 AM GMT
    Take a casual shower together... If he starts to wash his left ear first you're in luck, but if he starts washing the right one chances are he's going out with Sally, the fat chick from CHEM 100!
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    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:50 AM GMT
    Assumptions are bad...mmmmmkay...
    You want to know, I agree, ASK.
  • gumbosolo Posts: 382
    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:52 AM GMT
    Space_Cowboy_89 said
    RunintheCity saidOnce you know their age, it's easy. There are certain artists, that when played in proximity of gays/bis of a certain age/generation, will cause said gays/bis to loose all sense of self-restraint. icon_rolleyes.gificon_wink.gif



    hahaha not going to lie play Party in the USA and its alllll me


    And that gay-ass song is on
    And that gay-ass song is on

    Yeah, I go pretty crazy for that, too . . . then again, so does my straight roommate, explaining why girls never pay him any attention.

    If you think a guy is attractive, look him in the eye. If he holds it and matches you a smile, go on to the step two of your choice. If he looks away, he's either uninterested or scared. If he gets hostile, you can always say you mistook him for someone. Knowing someone's sexual orientation is none of your business; knowing if they're attracted to you is. icon_smile.gif
  • Space_Cowboy_... Posts: 3738
    QUOTE Jul 27, 2010 1:58 AM GMT
    gumbosolo said
    Space_Cowboy_89 said
    RunintheCity saidOnce you know their age, it's easy. There are certain artists, that when played in proximity of gays/bis of a certain age/generation, will cause said gays/bis to loose all sense of self-restraint. icon_rolleyes.gificon_wink.gif



    hahaha not going to lie play Party in the USA and its alllll me


    And that gay-ass song is on
    And that gay-ass song is on

    Yeah, I go pretty crazy for that, too . . . then again, so does my straight roommate, explaining why girls never pay him any attention.

    If you think a guy is attractive, look him in the eye. If he holds it and matches you a smile, go on to the step two of your choice. If he looks away, he's either uninterested or scared. If he gets hostile, you can always say you mistook him for someone. Knowing someone's sexual orientation is none of your business; knowing if they're attracted to you is. icon_smile.gif



    I agree icon_biggrin.gif and lulz about your roomie icon_razz.gif