small cities

  • johnny9027

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    Jul 27, 2010 4:29 AM GMT
    Just talked to my friend about why I can't find a bf in my city, and he said, well, small city is definitely a restriction for finding ur soulmate, especially for gay men. I was kinda surprised by his words, cuz seriously all the bf-material ppl I find r from bigger cities. Due to the matter of distance, I kinda missed out so many good quality guys.

    So, if i wanna draw a conclusion here, it should be: if u r still whining about not to be with anyone, maybe it's not ur problem, maybe u should move to a big city and u will be shining!
  • beaujangle

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    Jul 27, 2010 11:04 AM GMT
    I agree, I will definitely move one day, depending on job offers ...
  • owen19832006

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    Jul 27, 2010 11:10 AM GMT
    very true, small cities you dont have choices, and everyone knows everyone, and especially so if you're gay!!
    Glasgow is a mid size city by US Standards(500,000 people or there abouts) and 7 reputable gay clubs/bars, chances are if you go out a few times you will see the exact same people wherever you go
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    Jul 27, 2010 11:59 AM GMT
    I want to live in a small town again... I'm not much of a city person though...
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    Jul 27, 2010 12:14 PM GMT
    owen19832006 saidvery true, small cities you dont have choices, and everyone knows everyone, and especially so if you're gay!!
    Glasgow is a mid size city by US Standards(500,000 people or there abouts) and 7 reputable gay clubs/bars, chances are if you go out a few times you will see the exact same people wherever you go

    I hate to break it to you but in big cities too you will see the exact same people wherever you go.
    The secret is to look for the ones who don't go out.
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    Jul 27, 2010 3:31 PM GMT
    johnny9027 saidJust talked to my friend about why I can't find a bf in my city, and he said, well, small city is definitely a restriction for finding ur soulmate, especially for gay men. I was kinda surprised by his words, cuz seriously all the bf-material ppl I find r from bigger cities. Due to the matter of distance, I kinda missed out so many good quality guys.

    So, if i wanna draw a conclusion here, it should be: if u r still whining about not to be with anyone, maybe it's not ur problem, maybe u should move to a big city and u will be shining!



    I'm from a town of 8,000. The only gays that aren't closeted are the occassional dogs humping each other.

    It wasn't until I moved to a city of 200,000 for college that I finally met other gay guys.
  • Bunjamon

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    Jul 27, 2010 4:22 PM GMT
    chocmandms said

    I'm from a town of 8,000. The only gays that aren't closeted are the occassional dogs humping each other.

    It wasn't until I moved to a city of 200,000 for college that I finally met other gay guys.


    My hometown only has 1,800 people. icon_eek.gif

    I moved to a city of two million for university. icon_cool.gif

    But now I live in a city of 17 million, and ironically I feel more like I moved back to my little village in terms of the gay scene here. Oh, Asia....icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 27, 2010 8:48 PM GMT
    I respectfully would have to disagree with you... here in the larger cities, there are so many of us gay guys (all trying to be at the top of our game).That most tend to get caught up in the "I don't want to be tied down because something better is going to come along". Sad but true, and if you would rather be in a relationship (like myself) people are so jaded that they find it hard to believe or trust your sincerity. So my friend it is a true case of the grass is always greener.