First time...

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    Feb 14, 2008 4:17 AM GMT
    So I'm thinking about going all the way with my boyfriend and I hear all kinds of stories about how terrible the first time was.

    Any pointers on making it as pleasurable and pain-free?

    Please help!
  • GQjock

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    Feb 15, 2008 11:43 AM GMT
    Just two syllables

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    Feb 15, 2008 2:00 PM GMT
    If you are talking about anal sex, you may be like me and never really enjoy it! Fortunately there are a lot of other things you can do with a guy that brings pleasure.
  • zakariahzol

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    Feb 15, 2008 2:44 PM GMT

    I use to be like you. I dont do anal sex (bottom) and though I do some topping in my 20's. Until I start becoming curious what it all about. I decided to try it. I throughly prepare myself for this experience.I select my top carefully, his penis size , the places, the lube and condom that I gonna use. I even google internet for "postate" that male g-spot that suppose to be pleasureable when its rubbing during anal sex.Just like Madonna looking for a man to father her first child.

    I can say its one of the finest sexual experience of my life. I dont say it really feel that pleasureable but it satisfies my curiosity and emotionally satisfying.
  • Cndpup

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    Feb 16, 2008 5:27 AM GMT
    Full body massage! Helps to relax him, or you...or both!

    Lots of KY, not just on the outside!

    I'd suggest if he's accepting you, then let him take you while you're on your back, that way he can control the depth & speed at which he feels comfortable with. Also, expectations seem to be pretty high with losing one's virginity (duh!), if you rush into things, that's where poor memories come from I think. Take it slow, read him, and communicate with him!

    I'd also recommend warming him up with a finger or two or three before hand. The biggest asset in hot pain-free anal sex is the ability to relax (specifically your anus). I'm definitely no expect but it helped me for my first time; He was a very good coach!


    Oh, and a condom!
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    May 02, 2008 3:24 PM GMT
    Enjoy the exploration, it's fantastic discovering new things.