Gay Club Virgin - Advice?

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    Jul 28, 2010 5:40 AM GMT
    Hey. What's going on? So, basically, as the subject says, I've never been to a gay club before; however that's going to change this Saturday. Long story short, I'm moving (like in...9 hours) to a new/larger city that actually has gay clubs... (and I'm guessing a "gay community" ...although it is Mississippi, so who knows).

    Anyways, I'm going by myself (since I don't know anybody there, let alone anyone else that's gay) and was hoping for some advice. ...dress style/tips/ what to do/what not to do.... how to keep from meeting crazy people, the usual. Any advice?
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    Jul 28, 2010 6:34 AM GMT
    Think of it like going to church but you can drink and don't have to hide your choir boys.
  • ThePsychonaut

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    Jul 28, 2010 7:55 AM GMT
    No different to any bar, be aware of your surrounding, don't drink to excess and just enjoy yourself really. It might take a few goes to find a bar you like, they're all different, and let us know how you go!
  • Bunjamon

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    Jul 28, 2010 8:38 AM GMT
    ThePsychonaut saidNo different to any bar, be aware of your surrounding, don't drink to excess and just enjoy yourself really. It might take a few goes to find a bar you like, they're all different, and let us know how you go!


    This. A gay bar is just a regular bar where most of the clientele is gay, and the rest are gay friendly. Put on a clean shirt, a nice pair of jeans, comfy shoes, and put yourself out there. Tell people you meet that you're new in town and that you want to make new friends. Nothing to be nervous about! icon_biggrin.gif
  • SFGeoNinja

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    Jul 28, 2010 8:52 AM GMT
    Be sure to make friends with the bartender wherever you go! They will introduce you to the regulars and can help let you in on upcoming events in the area also.
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    Jul 28, 2010 9:02 AM GMT
    Its just like a regular bar, just more gay guys hitting on you ;)
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    Jul 28, 2010 9:22 AM GMT
    Why not see if there's any guys on here in the area that you could go with?

    It can be quite intimidating going to places alone.

    Have fun!
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    Jul 28, 2010 10:10 AM GMT
    KEEP YOUR CLOTHES ON!!!
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    Jul 28, 2010 11:06 AM GMT
    Arfurnas saidKEEP YOUR CLOTHES ON!!!


    Nah, if it's a tits-out party club, get your shirt off and join in the sweaty fun! icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 28, 2010 11:46 AM GMT
    Run around screaming "STICK IT IN!!!" repeatedly
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    Jul 28, 2010 4:38 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidRun around screaming "STICK IT IN!!!" repeatedly



    HAHAHAHAHA! oh this is soooooo wrong! icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 28, 2010 4:40 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidRun around screaming "STICK IT IN!!!" repeatedly


    LOL that's so funny icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 28, 2010 5:28 PM GMT
    Arfurnas saidKEEP YOUR CLOTHES ON!!!


    Easier said than done...for some of us anyway. ; ) But since it will be your first time this is good advice. You want to play a little hard to get your first time out.
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    Jul 28, 2010 5:33 PM GMT
    why would u go alone awwww ill go with u....well gay bars are so boring i myself never go to a gay bar because to much drama i always get my ass touched and i always kick someone in the balls if they have any.have fun and remember to fist pump lmfao
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    Jul 28, 2010 5:39 PM GMT
    grab some friends like girl coworkers... or a neighbor or SOEMTHIGN! if u cant find anyone or if u can... just go out like you would be going to a straight club jsut have fun!
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    Jul 28, 2010 5:43 PM GMT
    I tend to avoid gay clubs but that's me icon_razz.gif

    If you go with friends, it's more fun than going by yourself.
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    Jul 28, 2010 5:46 PM GMT
    Arfurnas saidKEEP YOUR CLOTHES ON!!!
    Oh fuck that! I won't frequent a bar that does not allow people to be shirtless. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 28, 2010 5:47 PM GMT
    Steel231 saidI tend to avoid gay clubs but that's me icon_razz.gif

    If you go with friends, it's more fun than going by yourself.
    It's easier to get laid if you go by yourself...or at least take separate cars.
  • Regina_Guy

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    Jul 28, 2010 5:58 PM GMT
    davidp7 saidBe sure to make friends with the bartender wherever you go! They will introduce you to the regulars and can help let you in on upcoming events in the area also.


    I agree with davidp7. It's also best to go before it gets too busy. When I hit the gay bar for the first time, I sat at the bar in the lounge section. I went around 9pm, so It was pretty dead still, but there were five or six guys sitting around, chatting with with the bartender. It really helped to break the ice, and I met some pretty cool people.

    Have fun!
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    Jul 28, 2010 6:12 PM GMT
    I don't like going to gay bars, like someone said too much drama, unwanted groping and some guys get mad if you don't sleep with them like WTF icon_eek.gif
  • JESIE

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    Jul 28, 2010 6:30 PM GMT
    It really depends on the location/type of bar/club. generally speaking:

    bars are more laidback

    clubs are more upbeat

    now I live in SoCal
    so I club/barhop in LA, OC, and LB

    LB (beach city area) more laidback and chill
    OC (in between LA and LB) a mixture of people...so u can have good times and bad times
    LA (city area) is alot more LOUDER, expressive and flashy

    ALL in all, go with friends you know will have your back and that you'll have fun with icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 28, 2010 10:48 PM GMT
    NickFit saidWhy not see if there's any guys on here in the area that you could go with?

    It can be quite intimidating going to places alone.

    Have fun!


    Definitely more fun with friends... but don't worry about it if you don't know anybody yet.

    I love popping into a bar in a new town, and they will notice you right away... and guys will come sniffing around.. ur new!
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    Jul 29, 2010 6:02 AM GMT
    Tough call - since so much might depend on the energy you put out I don't know whether to advise that you go in with high expectations which might encourage you to put yourself out there and appear more open to meeting new people, or to not have any expectations or preconceptions so you'll be more relaxed and possibly less disappointed. Could depend on which approach best suits you, or maybe a balance of the two.
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    Jul 29, 2010 6:17 AM GMT
    sdgman said
    NickFit saidWhy not see if there's any guys on here in the area that you could go with?

    It can be quite intimidating going to places alone.

    Have fun!


    Definitely more fun with friends... but don't worry about it if you don't know anybody yet.

    I love popping into a bar in a new town, and they will notice you right away... and guys will come sniffing around.. ur new!


    Yeah, I wish that there were people that I knew around... besides my roomie, who's straight and wouldn't go near that place I know one person near by...who also happens to be straight and wouldn't go anywhere near that place.

    Thus leaving it just me... and I dunno, I'm both excited/apprahensive about it, but always just that tinge of worry. ...like I've heard some bad stuff about gay bars from different people, so I dunno. I can say that I hope to have fun, though.
  • DallasCali6Da...

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    Jul 29, 2010 7:11 AM GMT
    The fact that you're going to venture out is a good thing. Experience is just that and it's yours ;-). I go out by myself all of the time. Make eye contact with those you want to, smile and be personable. It may be the complete opposite of what you'd imagine or you may like it. You'll know when you're heading out the door and going back home. Have fun!