pessimism vs. optimism

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    Jul 28, 2010 2:12 PM GMT
    Do you think a pessimist and an optimist can make a successful long term relationship???
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    Jul 28, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    I am positively certain that the relationship will fail.
    Is that being pessimistic or optimistic? icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 28, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    I, on the other hand, am absolutely uncertain that there would be any guarantee of success.

    I assume you ask this looking more for actual thoughts on a relationship you are considering? With that in mind, I can not see any reason it could not work providing that your partners optimism or cynicism does not wear too much on your nerves and yours on his nerves. If the cynic in the relationship is completely unable to ever see any possibility of something positive happening then it may be difficult as the relationship progresses. (he doesn't love me... we won't make it a month... the marriage is just short term... I'm positive he's cheating...)
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    Jul 28, 2010 2:54 PM GMT
    An optimist thinks this is the best of all possible worlds.
    The pessimist fears he is right.

    I think there are a lot of different dynamics in a relationship and that you can't really pare (pair!) it down to just this.
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    Jul 28, 2010 2:58 PM GMT
    I must be doing something right, I'm the optimist and my bf of almost 6 years is the pessimist. it does start to wear on me but i'm generally pretty good at turning things around. recently though it's been tough cuz we are in some financial troubles and only have one car at the moment.

    thanks for the replies guys, always like to hear what others think. as long as they are respectful.
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    Jul 28, 2010 3:33 PM GMT
    A pessimist would help the optimist stay grounded and exercise caution, and the optimist would help the pessimist see the good in everything around him, and dare to dream. icon_wink.gif

    We take it in unscheduled turns being either one.

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    Jul 28, 2010 3:35 PM GMT
    meninlove said A pessimist would help the optimist stay grounded and exercise caution, and the optimist would help the pessimist see the good in everything around him, and dare to dream. icon_wink.gif

    We take it in unscheduled turns being either one.




    I really like that ----- Thanks
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    Jul 28, 2010 3:42 PM GMT
    *snaps heels together, doffs hat politely*

    You're welcome. icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Jul 28, 2010 10:59 PM GMT
    meninlove said A pessimist would help the optimist stay grounded and exercise caution, and the optimist would help the pessimist see the good in everything around him, and dare to dream. icon_wink.gif

    We take it in unscheduled turns being either one.



    That first paragraph kinda reminds me of the gay couple in the movie A Simple Man. So yes, I think it could definitely work! Hope you guys see clear skies soon.
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    Jul 28, 2010 11:03 PM GMT
    Every relationship has a Brick and a Balloon
    They're tied to each other, and the Balloon keeps the Brick from sinking into the mud, while the Brick prevents the Balloon from floating into the stratosphere and bursting.

    It can, and often does, work. Balance in all things.