Why is everyone so down on Valentine's Day?

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    Feb 14, 2008 5:01 PM GMT
    I don't get it. I'm single, and thats ok. There is no reason to be freaking out about it. Are people really that self concious about being single?
  • justjk

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    Feb 14, 2008 5:05 PM GMT
    Well i was with someone for sooooooo long, 16 years and now that i'm single, it does kinda freak me out!!!
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:07 PM GMT
    I don't mind being single, it's just the constant reminder coming from all the lovebirds around me that annoys me.

    "How come you don't have a date"
    "What are you getting your loved one"
    "I am getting my boy/girl-friend..." icon_rolleyes.gif
  • shoelessj

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    Feb 14, 2008 5:28 PM GMT
    When you consider that according to one of the legends, St. Valentine was killed because he performed secret marriages against the orders of Cladius II, he should be held up as a sort of icon when it comes to the fight for marriage equality for gays.

    Other than that, coupled or not, people who are so very anti-(St.) Valentine's Day are just bitter. If people want to get all lovey-dovey and silly and fill up the restaurants and send flowers on V Day, let them. So what? I've never made a big deal of the day, single or coupled. I don't go all out on New Year's Eve, either, but if people want to make it a big night, hey, they've got every right to. There's so much else to get worked up about.
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:28 PM GMT
    I am single as well and not bitter at all. Im happy for those that do have that special someone in their life. Been there, done that. It will happen again someday but for right now, I dont have to worry about getting someone the right gift and if he is going to like it and all that shit. Its all about me this year!
  • Alan95823

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    Feb 14, 2008 5:30 PM GMT
    Well, if you live every day focused on love, then this day is just another day, really.

    I'm not down on it, but I do think it's a bit sad how a day that's supposed to be about love is really (for the majority of couples out there) a huge stress about the right gift, and the right romantic getaway spot. There's a lot of disappointment in relationships on this day, fights that last days, and people sleeping on the couch.

    The expectations based on the hype cause a lot of trouble, but I think if more people focused on expressing their love and not on what they were getting, it would be a lot more fun on this day.
  • SoDakGuy

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    Feb 14, 2008 5:36 PM GMT
    Hell, I'm not! I gave myself a Valentine's gift ... I'm taking tomorrow off from work! icon_biggrin.gif It's going to be freezing cold here in Mpls, but I'm going to SLEEP IN. Heaven!

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    Feb 14, 2008 5:39 PM GMT
    dudeswithbeards saidits a day dedicated to love.. there are all types of love.. i dont understand the bitterness and hatred towards it.. are there not already enough days of hate in the world?


    g.


    I'm not hearing bitterness or hatred here, dudes. I think danielryan's noting the craziness of people that get caught up in hating the day or stressing out about not spending it with anyone.

    I agree with him...I've never had any problem being single. In fact, I really, really enjoy it. It's important to be able to appreciate being single in order to more fully appreciate what you have when you do end up in a relationship. When I'm seeing someone, I like knowing I'm in it for the relationship itself, not out of a desperate desire to have a relationship.

    As for Valentine's Day, sure...it's nice to have a day dedicated to romance and love and all...but as far as some folks going so far as to call it Black Thursday and carrying on like it's the end of the world to be alone today of all days...yes, that's a little weird.
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:39 PM GMT
    I think bitterness is a strong word for those who don't care for this day. Some long for a love that really penetrates the heart and when Hallmark sets aside a day for that, and they don't have that special someone, it's a constant reminder of the hurt they feel from being alone. It's an in your face day. It's not bitterness, it's a longing, a longing that if you already have that someone special or you're OK being alone in life, you don't truly understand.
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:39 PM GMT
    Some people are down, some people go down.
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:41 PM GMT
    Personally, I'm down this Valentine's because the man I was in love with, wasn't in love with me, and now I'm left to fend the single life again.
    I've never really been a fan of fucking random strangers, dating a whole bar full of men, just too see who the less neanderthal of the group is, or knowing that I can spend my nights intoxicating myself to a state emotional numbness on any given weekend. I've always sought more from men. More than they even know they're capable of doing.
    And no sonny, I'm not self concious about it. I put myself out to the world as I am. The gay single lifestyle however, doesn't fit well with the way I want to be able to live my life. Partying, drugs, fucking around and all the rest, though 'fun', get boring, don't satisfy completely at the end of the night, and are a poor excuse for a social structure to meet other men with. Clubbing isn't a means to the ends I want. The white picket fence, the kids, and the house are what I want most. And talking down to me because you don't understand commitment will never change that.
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:42 PM GMT
    zdrew, will you be my valentine today? icon_lol.gif
  • SoDakGuy

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    Feb 14, 2008 5:44 PM GMT
    Man ... it's been awhile since someone has gone down on - WHOOPS! TMI! Sorry! icon_redface.gif


    McGay saidSome people are down, some people go down.
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:46 PM GMT
    wrkoutbud30 saidzdrew, will you be my valentine today? icon_lol.gif


    I will!
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:46 PM GMT
    'Cause they want a pity party for themselves!!
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:46 PM GMT
    I am not down on it, mind you I have a partner! We are going to try and find a restaurant tonight in the gay ghetto to have dinner at, then open our gifts to each other, and top it off with snuggling in front of a sappy movie.
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:48 PM GMT
    So... Despite me saying I was not celebrating, My boyfriend just came by my office to drop of a card and my favorite homemade orange cake.

    I'll forgive him for the calories this time... Very sweet of him
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:52 PM GMT
    Alan95823 saidWell, if you live every day focused on love, then this day is just another day, really.

    I'm not down on it, but I do think it's a bit sad how a day that's supposed to be about love is really (for the majority of couples out there) a huge stress about the right gift, and the right romantic getaway spot. There's a lot of disappointment in relationships on this day, fights that last days, and people sleeping on the couch.

    The expectations based on the hype cause a lot of trouble, but I think if more people focused on expressing their love and not on what they were getting, it would be a lot more fun on this day.


    Hear, hear! That's my thinking of the day as well. The expectations just get so overwhelmingly complicated that ultimately you feel disappointed for not getting that "perfect day" or "perfect gift". Besides, why single out one day to show your affection for another when you can do it every day?
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:52 PM GMT
    SoDakGuy saidMan ... it's been awhile since someone has gone down on - WHOOPS! TMI! Sorry! icon_redface.gif


    SoDakGuy, I find that VERY ummm . . . HARD to believe! But I willicon_wink.gif
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:53 PM GMT
    Aww, biowunderkind, it sounds like you need a hug today.

    And workoutbud: of course! I'll be sitting right here at my desk waiting for the flowers and chocolate to arrive. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 14, 2008 5:54 PM GMT
    you got it zdrew. I will deliver them myself icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 14, 2008 6:13 PM GMT
    I don't get it either.

    I'm single, and I still like Valentine's Day just as much as any other day.

    That being said...if anyone wants to be my Valentine, just say so. icon_biggrin.gif

    -Joe

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    Feb 14, 2008 6:17 PM GMT
    joescorpio1970 saidI don't get it either.

    I'm single, and I still like Valentine's Day just as much as any other day.

    That being said...if anyone wants to be my Valentine, just say so. icon_biggrin.gif

    -Joe



    I would Joe, but my partner is the jealous type (all that Spanish blood in his Filipino body).

    But hugs from Toronto anyways.

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    Feb 14, 2008 6:24 PM GMT
    Oi Mate ime not down????

    l am onluine reading all your lovely forum's boo hoo hoo while my b/f is in Ankara at University but he did call me and he will call later again so as long as he loves me that's all i care!!

    Now i know who Perry is i am happier and wow he is cute slap slap kebab!
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    Feb 14, 2008 6:25 PM GMT
    Just another day to me.

    I can see why most people aren't fans of it. People put some much emphasis on this particular day regarding love and at times it can be rather sickening how it's pressured (thanks hallmark) but then considering other holidays its pretty much the same as far then to please and buy gifts for that someone special.

    Just another day to me and I enjoy being single. I've got 365 days to express my love. This particular day won't be remotely important to me when I find that someone special. Some other day will have that purpose because it will hold significance and value to me.

    If anything I just like V-day because of the candy. I LOVE the candy.