Long distance rel. need your opinion

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    Jul 28, 2010 10:21 PM GMT
    has any of you been through this? Did it end well?

    ...do you think a guy can still be interested after a year or more?

    just wanna know. Thank you!
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    Jul 28, 2010 10:43 PM GMT
    Oh, man... could I put out a lot of info on this forum.!!!
    First, to answer your question... in MY opinion YES!! A thousand times YES!!
    But, truth is, it's only happened twice in my life...the first one just ended... BADLY. But the guy was a total fake..and I had been warned many times.

    Luckily, I was given another opportunity... with a guy who is REAL!! This I knew ahead of time, because we have daily chats via webcam. But the best part was our first meeting just last week in Denver!
    There were NO surprises...no disappointments. We shared the time touching and fulfilling the senses that cannot be shared online. It was more
    than I had ever dreamed it would be..and I say: Never let the miles keep you apart!! If it feels right, do it...and NEVER look back!!
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    Jul 28, 2010 10:47 PM GMT
    My boyfriend and I had a long-distance relationship for 6 years in Europe before moving to the US (and in with each other). The distance was between Cologne and Amsterdam, we would see each other most weekends and spend vacations together. We also talked almost every night on the phone.
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    Jul 29, 2010 12:31 AM GMT
    it's doomed get out now give it your best shot, hope it works out!
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    Jul 29, 2010 12:33 AM GMT
    Distance is to love what wind in to fire, it blow out the small ones, set ablaze the strong ones.
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    Jul 29, 2010 12:37 AM GMT
    Friendsrbetter saidOh, man... could I put out a lot of info on this forum.!!!
    First, to answer your question... in MY opinion YES!! A thousand times YES!!
    But, truth is, it's only happened twice in my life...the first one just ended... BADLY. But the guy was a total fake..and I had been warned many times.

    Luckily, I was given another opportunity... with a guy who is REAL!! This I knew ahead of time, because we have daily chats via webcam. But the best part was our first meeting just last week in Denver!
    There were NO surprises...no disappointments. We shared the time touching and fulfilling the senses that cannot be shared online. It was more
    than I had ever dreamed it would be..and I say: Never let the miles keep you apart!! If it feels right, do it...and NEVER look back!!


    Is he the guy that's with you in one of your pics? If he is, wow, he is hot!!!
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    Jul 29, 2010 1:01 AM GMT
    It can work, if you both want it to. My partner of nearly ten years and I were apart for the first year or so of our relationship as I was finishing college. Worked out for us, but it takes commitment on the part of both guys.
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    Jul 29, 2010 1:03 AM GMT
    Um.. yeah...

    Mine hasn't always been a long distance relationship.. he was here for 2.5 years. We've been involved for 11.5 so yeah.
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    Jul 29, 2010 1:06 AM GMT
    minox saidDistance is to love what wind in to fire, it blow out the small ones, set ablaze the strong ones.


    E cela, c'est de la poesie! icon_smile.gif Mais vraiment!!!! icon_idea.gif
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    Jul 29, 2010 1:08 AM GMT
    I'm having this problem now, but he decided to be "realistic" about it and break up with me...then I told him if he really cared he would stay with me no matter what, and he just said, "I don't want this to end badly and for me to hurt you."

    So, either way I was going to get hurt I guess.

    It's hard, really hard...but there are planes, trains and cars to go visit! I say give it a shot, make sure you talk your problems through and expect honesty from him, and give your honesty to him...after all honesty is important for any relationship, but I think especially for long distance.

    Hope this helps.
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    Jul 29, 2010 1:25 AM GMT
    I think one of the keys is strong, continuous conversation. If there are gaps that go on for several days..and the person is not willing to be open as to the reason for his absence, as happened in my first attempt, I would suggest you run like hell!! And don't look back... icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 29, 2010 2:05 AM GMT
    minox saidDistance is to love what wind in to fire, it blow out the small ones, set ablaze the strong ones.



    minox, this is beautifully and poignantly stated!

    -Doug
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    Jul 29, 2010 2:07 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    minox saidDistance is to love what wind in to fire, it blow out the small ones, set ablaze the strong ones.



    minox, this is beautifully and poignantly stated!

    -Doug


    I agree, the spanish one is "amor de lejos es amor de pendejos" which translates as "distance love is fool's love" but this s WAAYYYY better icon_biggrin.gif

    It s my new facebook stat LOL
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    Jul 29, 2010 2:23 AM GMT
    I have been in a long distance relationship for over 8 months now. It is going so well. The key is communication. If one person in the relationship is a poor communicator, it won't work.
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    Jul 29, 2010 2:25 AM GMT
    My nephew started a long-distance e-relationship with a girl when he was 16. At age 19 they got married. Now he's turning 21 this year and they're still happy together.

    Personally I wouldn't do it, though, but mainly because I don't want a monogamous relationship anyway.
  • JayDT

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    Jul 29, 2010 2:36 AM GMT
    They don't work. At the end of the day they're fun emotionally because you get to hear all the sweet wonderful things in an e-mail or text or over the phone but eventually being physical beings we need physical contact. And with a long distance relationship you don't get that. It becomes a pseudo intimate relationship that has all the outward trappings of the perfect relationship without any of the realities of an actual relationship.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jul 29, 2010 2:52 AM GMT
    Where relationships are concerned whether long-distance or close, there is no "one size fits all" answer. It all depends on the individuals and how much they are both willing to contribute to the relationship. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 29, 2010 2:54 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidMy nephew started a long-distance e-relationship with a girl when he was 16. At age 19 they got married. Now he's turning 21 this year and they're still happy together.

    Personally I wouldn't do it, though, but mainly because I don't want a monogamous relationship anyway.


    lol, you go boy ;) You'd fit in perfectly in the Caribbean... o wait.. you ARE in the Caribbean! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 29, 2010 3:03 AM GMT
    They work if there is an end to the long-distance aspect of it in the future
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    Jul 29, 2010 6:11 AM GMT
    malefeet saidWhere relationships are concerned whether long-distance or close, there is no "one size fits all" answer. It all depends on the individuals and how much they are both willing to contribute to the relationship. icon_wink.gif


    i'm willing to put everything in this. if that's not enough i'll put more.
    the guy is great, i'll do my best.
    thank you for all the replays