JayDT saidI feel like I am a very self sufficient and independent guy. But for whatever reason I start dating a guy. I keep it casual and laid back and I don't put any rules or demands on a guy. The only rules I have in a relationship are 1 be honest with me about whatever you are doing and 2 treat me like an equal so that whatever you are doing I can do too. For whatever reason it ends and I just am left laying there wondering "Why doesn't he love me?"
Do guys want you to tell them you can't do this or you have to do that? What am I doing wrong?
Whether we want to admit it or not we all have our hidden prejudices, dislikes, and judgments about everyone we meet but most especially of our dates! you admit in putting no demands or rules on all the guys you date, and yet you do!?
You wish your date be honest with you, but I bet you rather he wasn't the minute he starts confessing to you all the struggles, mistakes, errors, faults and such, that as a human being he like everyone of us had, is, and will go through at some point in our lives.
You want guys to be honest with you but are you being your true self with them? I mean what is the point for an overly confident guy to want to create a warm and affectionate vibe on a date, when in truth I have yet to meet a self sufficient and emotionally independent person willing to, and truthfully accept a person for what they are, and not for what they should be. When I was younger I used to be a very self-sufficient and independent guy. It wasn't until my early thirties that I realized the showing and sharing of our human vulnerabilities are the knots that keep love tighter each time it brings two people together or even more so apart!!
I have gone on dates with your type, and even thou I have nothing against a person's independent and self sufficient self, after having dated and later get into relationships with quite few of them in my life I find such characteristics a huge turn off in a guy! having said that I much prefer a guy who is not afraid to share his vulnerable self or ask for my help whenever he feels the need to do so; and no, I am not referring to needy people, as there is a huge difference between low-self esteem in needy people and those who thrive and grow on love by being emotionally available at all times!