Father's advice about sex

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    Feb 14, 2008 6:51 PM GMT
    What's the single best piece of advice you ever got from your father or father figure about sex? Mine was the profound phrase "just don't bring home anything you can't wash off"! Very helpful.
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    Feb 14, 2008 7:01 PM GMT
    No advice from either parent, "We are British we do not talk about sex" was their attitude.
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    Feb 15, 2008 6:57 AM GMT
    hmm... not advice actually. To echo jb, "We're Filipinos, and we don't talk about sex."

    However, an experience:

    In my preteens, I was reading some magazine and I came across an article that was about Janet Jackson apparently collecting condoms.

    We were in the living room with my dad and two older sisters who was minding our youngest (still a toddler back then).

    I asked my dad:

    "Pa, what's a condom?"

    They all broke out laughing. My sisters were laughing so hard there were tears in their eyes. One ran and told my mom and she also laughed.

    All the while I stared at their reactions dumbly. They never told me what it was, they just laughed.

    I did some researching on my own... and discovered what a 'condom' actually was... (I thought it was some sort of bubblegum that comes in different colors)

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  • Sirkit

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    Feb 17, 2008 2:25 AM GMT
    My parents didn't talk about it until I brought it up. At that point I had already rapidly learned about as much as they knew so they didn't have much to add. I was about fourteen at that point, lol.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Feb 17, 2008 2:34 AM GMT
    The Irish dont talk about sex either. My father is probably thinking, (if I just talked to him about sex, he would be straight)

    Mike
  • BlackJock79

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    Feb 26, 2008 1:51 PM GMT
    I probably would have died from embarrasment if my parents had tried to talk to me about sex. icon_redface.gif My Mom said what she wanted, she would have been the one that would have got down to the nitty gritty about sex. I think my older brother was more open with her about sex. My father... I think he assumed we learned all that we needed to know about sex at school in our sexual education classes. icon_rolleyes.gif He never gave any advice on sex, just not to have any or make any babies if you do have it.
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    Feb 26, 2008 4:16 PM GMT
    Dad said "don't get sick, don't fall in love with the first person u see"

    Mom said "Don't trust anyone, protect yourself, you don't know who has what"

    I think i'm the only one in my family and ethnic communuty who's gotten a sex talk from their parents.
    Most just get told "sex is evil...don't have it"

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    Feb 26, 2008 5:13 PM GMT


    We had a quick conversation once...

    "Don't get her pregnant..." unless you're ready to take care of the child

    If he only knew I wasn't into "hers" then.
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    Feb 27, 2008 2:02 AM GMT
    Coming from a Christian background my father said "Dont have sex before your married". Im a hard headed bastard.icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 27, 2008 3:46 AM GMT
    I've never had a conversation about sex with either parent. I was always amazed when with my friends' families and the topic of sex came up. There were no topics off limits.

    Since being an adult, I've even had superficialy conversations about sex w/ my Grandma ... but still nothing with my P's. It's the same with both my siblings.
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    Feb 27, 2008 4:40 AM GMT
    never got the sex talk. well not from my dad. my mom told me once "i found the history in the web-browser. so you know. that isn't what sex looks like most of the time"

    best general advice i've ever gotten was from my dad the day after i came out and that was
    "things are gooing to change for you. some people might not be your friends anymore, we're here for you. i was hoping for a grandson from you seeing as you are the end of the name. but hopefully you can find a decent guy someday and have a kid and label him a (lastname here)"