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    Jul 29, 2010 5:22 AM GMT
    The thread title change is for you lot.


    Not you, him!!

    my ex.

    so here is the situation as it stands, those who have hmm followed along in the last 4 or so months will know whats happened. But I'll do a quick recap.

    Last time in the saga of lilTank.

    Had a partner for 9 years, the last few years on and off, we have now seperated completely and happily, I moved in with my brother and started reparing my life.

    now, the continuation of my little saga!!!!!

    I've moved out of my brothers and back in with my ex hahaha, although we aren't getting back together, its a bitch trying to find a place to rent around sydney right now with the economy the way it is and the rentle market booming. Prices are high, demand is even higher and selection is super critical.

    Things with my brother weren't working out very well, to be honest he was driving me absolutely nuts so I moved out and back in with my ex. Its an easy situation to deal with mostly because I know him so well I understand and can work with his routine and he can do the same for me.

    Here in lies what has started to happen for me.

    I've begun to see someone in a new light, the man I once held so dear is no longer that man anymore and I cant for the life of me see what I once had seen in him.
    I can not find that amazing man who I loved, actually what I'm seeing now hurts a lot more, but in a different way. I see a man I never used to see and now I wonder what I had seen in him all those many years, that man I loved has gone and its been replaced is someone that isn't so much pittied but more saddened by and confused.

    Why did I waist nine years with this man? why did I even bother?

    Anyway, walking away from this relationship has actually turned into something SOOOOOO much more worthwhile then I ever realised.. Hows that for personal growth hahaha.

    Within the space of 4 months (well 5 maybe, can't remember the date exactly haha) I've started studying for my cert III, working in a gym, starting gawd knows what with a new guy and finding something in me I thought would take longer then it did.

    I found my joy, I found my happiness, I found me again. I also found out I'm very very sick hahaha damned flu is killing me, but I'm happy icon_biggrin.gif

    Anyway had to share!
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    Jul 29, 2010 5:38 AM GMT
    I got back with my first ex 3 times over 3.5 years.
    They're always more assholeish each time around. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 29, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    There's a reason why exes are exes.
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    Jul 29, 2010 11:51 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidNot you, him!!

    my ex.

    so here is the situation as it stands, those who have hmm followed along in the last 4 or so months will know whats happened. But I'll do a quick recap.

    Last time in the saga of lilTank.

    Had a partner for 9 years, the last few years on and off, we have now seperated completely and happily, I moved in with my brother and started reparing my life.

    now, the continuation of my little saga!!!!!

    I've moved out of my brothers and back in with my ex hahaha, although we aren't getting back together, its a bitch trying to find a place to rent around sydney right now with the economy the way it is and the rentle market booming. Prices are high, demand is even higher and selection is super critical.

    Things with my brother weren't working out very well, to be honest he was driving me absolutely nuts so I moved out and back in with my ex. Its an easy situation to deal with mostly because I know him so well I understand and can work with his routine and he can do the same for me.

    Here in lies what has started to happen for me.

    I've begun to see someone in a new light, the man I once held so dear is no longer that man anymore and I cant for the life of me see what I once had seen in him.
    I can not find that amazing man who I loved, actually what I'm seeing now hurts a lot more, but in a different way. I see a man I never used to see and now I wonder what I had seen in him all those many years, that man I loved has gone and its been replaced is someone that isn't so much pittied but more saddened by and confused.

    Why did I waist nine years with this man? why did I even bother?

    Anyway, walking away from this relationship has actually turned into something SOOOOOO much more worthwhile then I ever realised.. Hows that for personal growth hahaha.

    Within the space of 4 months (well 5 maybe, can't remember the date exactly haha) I've started studying for my cert III, working in a gym, starting gawd knows what with a new guy and finding something in me I thought would take longer then it did.

    I found my joy, I found my happiness, I found me again. I also found out I'm very very sick hahaha damned flu is killing me, but I'm happy icon_biggrin.gif

    Anyway had to share!


    Well good for you Ben! Bravo!
    So, is this the season finale? Oh who am I kidding, theres more!

    Tune in next time when LilTank gets his cert...icon_wink.gif
    Good luck!
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    Jul 29, 2010 11:54 AM GMT
    Never call someone an idiot in print unless you use proper spelling. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 29, 2010 11:59 AM GMT
    Lol, sorry mate, but your use of grammar is appalling in this post, from the subject heading "(your an idiot"?) and all the way through the content.

    Perhaps I'm just being fussy today?

    Regardless, always good to hear a apositive tale of self-discovery/renewal.

    Congrats!

    x
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    Jul 29, 2010 11:59 AM GMT
    Lol hark at my use of grammar above! We call this irony peeps! x
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    Jul 29, 2010 12:19 PM GMT
    Brit_Bloke saidLol, sorry mate, but your use of grammar is appalling in this post, from the subject heading "(your an idiot"?) and all the way through the content.

    Perhaps I'm just being fussy today?

    Regardless, always good to hear a apositive tale of self-discovery/renewal.

    Congrats!

    x


    Isn't there an unwritten forum rule that says never correct someones grammar / spelling!
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    Jul 29, 2010 12:26 PM GMT
    icon_biggrin.gif I'm happy for you Ben and sorry that I've been in Germany icon_rolleyes.gif but I am happy that you've found yourself. I hope you get everything you want/ need in the next couple of months icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 29, 2010 12:26 PM GMT
    Thisuserexists said
    Brit_Bloke saidLol, sorry mate, but your use of grammar is appalling in this post, from the subject heading "(your an idiot"?) and all the way through the content.

    Perhaps I'm just being fussy today?

    Regardless, always good to hear a apositive tale of self-discovery/renewal.

    Congrats!

    x


    Isn't there an unwritten forum rule that says never correct someones grammar / spelling!


    I can only hope for your sake that the answer is yes. Correctingvv someone(apostrophe)s grammar is so not cool ;-) x
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    Jul 29, 2010 12:31 PM GMT
    YEAH! get it tanker!!!! now go put jello in your exes shoes!
    everyone involved will get a kick out of it! icon_biggrin.gif
    ...and if not... at least i will!!!!!
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    Jul 29, 2010 12:49 PM GMT
    Brit_Bloke said
    Thisuserexists said
    Brit_Bloke saidLol, sorry mate, but your use of grammar is appalling in this post, from the subject heading "(your an idiot"?) and all the way through the content.

    Perhaps I'm just being fussy today?

    Regardless, always good to hear a apositive tale of self-discovery/renewal.

    Congrats!

    x


    Isn't there an unwritten forum rule that says never correct someones grammar / spelling!


    I can only hope for your sake that the answer is yes. Correctingvv someone(apostrophe)s grammar is so not cool ;-) x


    What does "correctingw" mean?
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Jul 29, 2010 1:00 PM GMT
    okay this is extra not english class, have some respect for the OP's post and stop being douche holes
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    Jul 29, 2010 1:04 PM GMT
    Space_Cowboy_89 saidokay this is extra not english class, have some respect for the OP's post and stop being douche holes


    haha its like we're seeing the harsh historical tension between Great Britain and Australia unfold right before our eyes
  • drypin

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    Jul 29, 2010 1:09 PM GMT
    I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through Tank. I mean, there are those short-term BFs/FBuds who you later realize are pricks in the guise of human beings, but someone you loved intensely for 5+ years. And suddenly you can't even imagine being friends with the guy because you're both so incompatible or maybe he's just an ass.

    I've never gone through that with a boyfriend, but I have had it happen with friends and it's pretty heartbreaking. Still, it sounds like it was the best thing to help you process emotionally and move on.

    It's a new day out there Ben. Let's home there are new living quarters on your near horizon, too!
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    Jul 29, 2010 1:11 PM GMT
    Thisuserexists said
    Brit_Bloke saidLol, sorry mate, but your use of grammar is appalling in this post, from the subject heading "(your an idiot"?) and all the way through the content.

    Perhaps I'm just being fussy today?

    Regardless, always good to hear a apositive tale of self-discovery/renewal.

    Congrats!

    x


    Isn't there an unwritten forum rule that says never correct someones grammar / spelling!


    No. We only tend to do it though when the person is chiding another for their poor spelling etc, or when the person is an insufferable prick. Instead we just think badly of them in silence.
  • Celticmusl

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    Jul 29, 2010 1:22 PM GMT
    Thisuserexists said
    Brit_Bloke saidLol, sorry mate, but your use of grammar is appalling in this post, from the subject heading "(your an idiot"?) and all the way through the content.

    Perhaps I'm just being fussy today?

    Regardless, always good to hear a apositive tale of self-discovery/renewal.

    Congrats!

    x


    Isn't there an unwritten forum rule that says never correct someones grammar / spelling!



    I totally agree, unless it's the title, which also can easily be changed. I usually send an email directly to the Poster making a suggestion to change or update the title.

    Grammar and spelling in the actual post is a non issue, unless this site is the Grammar School Of Wayward Gaybois. We all have our own rhetorical approach and voice, incorrect spelling and grammar be damned.
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    Jul 29, 2010 1:26 PM GMT
    At least Bello hasn't chimed in with his large purple lettering and punctuation-less comments.... lol.
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    Jul 29, 2010 1:26 PM GMT
    devilish_intentions saidThere's a reason why exes are exes.



    love it
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    Jul 29, 2010 1:28 PM GMT
    ZbmwM5 saidAt least Bello hasn't chimed in with his large purple lettering and punctuation-less comments.... lol.


    If you say his name three times he appears. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • silverfox

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    Jul 29, 2010 1:28 PM GMT
    lilTanker said

    Why did I waist nine years with this man? why did I even bother?

    Anyway, walking away from this relationship has actually turned into something SOOOOOO much more worthwhile then I ever realised.. Hows that for personal growth hahaha.

    Within the space of 4 months (well 5 maybe, can't remember the date exactly haha) I've started studying for my cert III, working in a gym, starting gawd knows what with a new guy and finding something in me I thought would take longer then it did.

    I found my joy, I found my happiness, I found me again. I also found out I'm very very sick hahaha damned flu is killing me, but I'm happy icon_biggrin.gif

    Anyway had to share!



    Tanker who knew this about you? That is what I love about RJ...

    Truth is... if you didn't stay 9 years with him perhaps this second stage of your life wouldn't be happening at all. Wasted 9 years of your life? Well.....what if you STAYED with him for 15? Or 20? Maybe things were just "ok" enough....not worth rocking the boat....but maybe you would not have given yourself the "push" you needed to do what you are doing now.

    I believe we are responsible and accountable for the things we do.
    So, I believe you are responsible and accountable for staying with this man for 9 years...for good or for bad.

    I also think you are responsible and accountable for all the positive changes you are making in your life now. Bravo Tanker. icon_smile.gif
  • Celticmusl

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    Jul 29, 2010 1:30 PM GMT
    drypin saidI can't even begin to imagine what you're going through Tank. I mean, there are those short-term BFs/FBuds who you later realize are pricks in the guise of human beings, but someone you loved intensely for 5+ years. And suddenly you can't even imagine being friends with the guy because you're both so incompatible or maybe he's just an ass.

    I've never gone through that with a boyfriend, but I have had it happen with friends and it's pretty heartbreaking. Still, it sounds like it was the best thing to help you process emotionally and move on.

    It's a new day out there Ben. Let's home there are new living quarters on your near horizon, too!



    My ex of 7 years turned out to be a complete stranger a few months after we broke up. After this happens to you, you will find there are numerous songs about it that you never really understood. Some of these songs might already be in your collection. Sometimes the songs will talk about the "ghost" of the ex. I used to take that as a literal ghost. It's not, it's just a lingering idea of what they used to mean to you.

    I'm going to bore everyone once again by listing the words to a Keane song:

    We Might As Well Be Strangers"

    I don't know your face no more
    Or feel your touch that I adore
    I don't know your face no more
    It's just a place I'm looking for
    We might as well be strangers in another town
    We might as well be living in a different world
    We might as well
    We might as well
    We might as well

    I don't know your thoughts these days
    We're strangers in an empty space
    I don't understand your heart
    It's easier to be apart

    We might as well be strangers in another town
    We might as well be living in a another time
    We might as well
    We might as well
    We might as well be strangers
    Be strangers
    For all I know of you now
    For all I know of you now
    For all I know of you now
    For all I know
  • Thomas757

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    Jul 29, 2010 1:32 PM GMT
    Just tuned in....
    I'm glad you have been growing, and that you are happy that's amazing!
    Keep up the progress lilTanker.
  • Celticmusl

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    Jul 29, 2010 1:33 PM GMT
    ZbmwM5 saidAt least Bello hasn't chimed in with his large purple lettering and punctuation-less comments.... lol.



    OMG I cant wait that would be so BELLO right? LOL BELLO spelled like JELLO only chewier and not clear
  • Space_Cowboy_...

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    Jul 29, 2010 1:45 PM GMT
    I'll put it like this, Bello likes his life and doesn't want to die he's having fun right now.