Spotting an over eager bench presser

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    Jul 29, 2010 10:02 PM GMT
    What is protocol when spotting a guy benching way too much weight. It seems I am taking on alot of his weight and he is adding more and more each session! Do I tell him hey look dude I am lifting about 20 pounds of your weight already almost every rep? I want to rest during my sets not take on a second workout lol...maybe I need to go to the gym at a different time and show him whats happening...or maybe another dude will be doing the same thing as I am.

    I should add hes hot as fuck...Hey I wouldnt do all this work for nuthin!
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    Jul 29, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    Let him struggle more.
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    Jul 29, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
    jocktalk_TO saidWhat is protocol when spotting a guy benching way too much weight.
    I tell them to find another spotter, because I'm not going to be held responsible when they stack too much weight for both of us.
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    Jul 30, 2010 12:28 AM GMT
    I have the exact same problem atm..

    I have a gym buddy that I also work with that does not understand the how the body actually builds muscle.

    Every workout we do, more and more weight is added to not only his sets, but also tries to push me to do more.. I can't even engage muscles sometimes because i am just pushing fast and low reps just because the weight is too heavy!

    Can't say how many times I have tried to make him understand the science behind building muscle.. he thinks push more weight equals more muscle gain.. He even weight lifts 6 to 7 days a week.. he just does not understand the way to build muscle.

    I should be too hard on him, since he does get me motivated. icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 30, 2010 12:50 AM GMT
    viveutvivas saidLet him struggle more.


    This.

    Just let your hands shadow the barbell all the way through the rep without actually touching. Let him do the work. And when he fails, that's when you actually step in, providing minimal support, in case he is just at a sticking point and can lift through the rep past it. Of course when he's gonna crash and let the barbell drop, you take it.

    Doing that, surely the message will get across if he is repping less than x6 per set?!?
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    Jul 30, 2010 12:54 AM GMT
    jocktalk_TO saidWhat is protocol when spotting a guy benching way too much weight. It seems I am taking on alot of his weight and he is adding more and more each session! Do I tell him hey look dude I am lifting about 20 pounds of your weight already almost every rep? I want to rest during my sets not take on a second workout lol...maybe I need to go to the gym at a different time and show him whats happening...or maybe another dude will be doing the same thing as I am.

    I should add hes hot as fuck...Hey I wouldnt do all this work for nuthin!


    Yeah...don't pick up the slack. He should be able to get several reps before you have to exert any pressure. I find I can bench considerably heavier weights just by having a spotter there, even if he's not touching the bar. It gives me more confidence.

    If it's too heavy for him... just lightly place your fingers on the bar to be ready, and follow his rep, but make him do the work. When he struggles... help him gradually, don't yank the bar up. He'll get it, unless he's just hot and stupid.
  • EricLA

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    Jul 30, 2010 1:53 AM GMT
    I agree with the above feedback. You're basically enabling this guy, literally. You should be putting forth a minimum of the work.

    If you feel uncomfortable, tell him you're really tired and really need to save your energy to finish your own workout.
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    Jul 30, 2010 2:36 AM GMT
    you should spot him with two finger, it's supposed to be the just right help to finish that damn last rep.
    If he can't finish the rep with two fingers helps, grab the bar to help rack it, and tell him the set is over.

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    Jul 30, 2010 2:36 AM GMT
    sdgman said
    jocktalk_TO saidWhat is protocol when spotting a guy benching way too much weight. It seems I am taking on alot of his weight and he is adding more and more each session! Do I tell him hey look dude I am lifting about 20 pounds of your weight already almost every rep? I want to rest during my sets not take on a second workout lol...maybe I need to go to the gym at a different time and show him whats happening...or maybe another dude will be doing the same thing as I am.

    I should add hes hot as fuck...Hey I wouldnt do all this work for nuthin!


    Yeah...don't pick up the slack. He should be able to get several reps before you have to exert any pressure. I find I can bench considerably heavier weights just by having a spotter there, even if he's not touching the bar. It gives me more confidence.

    If it's too heavy for him... just lightly place your fingers on the bar to be ready, and follow his rep, but make him do the work. When he struggles... help him gradually, don't yank the bar up. He'll get it, unless he's just hot and stupid.


    Ya I guess I am not spotting correctly! Now I know what to do for next time. Plus it will save my back. I hate that awkward bent position for lifting anything heavy.
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    Jul 30, 2010 2:55 AM GMT


    Ya I guess I am not spotting correctly! Now I know what to do for next time. Plus it will save my back. I hate that awkward bent position for lifting anything heavy. [/quote]

    Some benches aren't made to properly assist as you have to stand too far back. Make sure you get as close in as you can, and bend your knees. You should be using your legs as much as your arms. I spotted for a buddy of mine who is a powerlifter. He did four slow complete reps with #465 lbs. I was shitting my drawers.. but didn't have to help and he knows what he's doing.
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    Jul 30, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    Let him deal with his own drama. I go the gym for me and am concerned about me and my work-outs -- NOT someone else's who doesn't take the proper precautions at bench-pressing and is one step from the emergency room.
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    Jul 30, 2010 3:22 AM GMT
    Let the weight drop on his larynx. Then tell him 'that's right bitch, that's what you get'.
  • Celticmusl

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    Jul 30, 2010 3:28 AM GMT
    OK.....so how do you not get "excited" when they are looking up between your legs chatting with you?
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    Jul 30, 2010 4:43 AM GMT
    Proper position is standing at the end of the bench, "behind" his head so that if you squatted just a bit your cock and balls would be in his face, if not right in his mouth.
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    Jul 30, 2010 5:05 AM GMT
    I agree with everyone else. When you dont pick up the slack for him, then he'll be like...what the hell? Why did i get weaker? He will have no choice but to go down in weight and be more realistic.

    You an be like... well... thats bc you might have been lifting too heavy of a weight for you. There are ways to tactfully tell him that he's trying too hard. icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 30, 2010 5:10 AM GMT
    Act like you're not paying attention, and let them drop it on themselves. Oh wait...icon_twisted.gif
  • Abc123456

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    Jul 30, 2010 5:29 AM GMT
    Tell him you're lifting too much? And stop lifting so much. He should reach fail, and you should help him a little on the next two, three max. If you're lifting that much, you're not spotting properly... unless it's the last set.

    Is the guy's form ok? Cuz I would bet he's probably arching his back and shit too... and you wanna make sure he's not.
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    Jul 30, 2010 7:45 AM GMT
    You should have at least one of your legs directly under the bar as you grab it to assist. Do not touch the bar until it stops, just before it begins to descend (from his exhaustion).

    Is his form OK? If you're braced well, are you in danger of injuring yourself (or him)? It can be a great workout for you, BTW.

    Praise him for his strength and beauty, get him drunk later, then fuck him.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Jul 30, 2010 7:49 AM GMT
    tea bag him
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    Jul 30, 2010 8:01 AM GMT
    Fart on him. See what happens.
  • Markebri

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    Jul 30, 2010 8:03 AM GMT
    Ugh, whats the point in having a spotter if they're doing most of the work for you? You should be spotting him by only using your pinky fingers to guide the bar upwards while he engages in the positive phase of the exercise. As hot as he may be, I wouldn't like working out with someone who doesn't put 100% effort into their workouts. Call him out on his blunder and hopefully he'll agree to using weights that are still challenging to lift, but doesn't require others to easily initiate the lifting sequence for him.
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    Jul 30, 2010 9:07 AM GMT
    HKboi said
    viveutvivas saidLet him struggle more.


    This.

    Just let your hands shadow the barbell all the way through the rep without actually touching. Let him do the work. And when he fails, that's when you actually step in, providing minimal support, in case he is just at a sticking point and can lift through the rep past it. Of course when he's gonna crash and let the barbell drop, you take it.

    Doing that, surely the message will get across if he is repping less than x6 per set?!?


    I agree,

    Spotting should be just that, I just follow the bar with my hands to allow me to grab it at any stage,

    at no point do I ever take the weight or interfere with the persons lift. In fact that's dangerous, as what happens when you suddently give him back that 20 pounds.

    The most I will ever do is help the guy on the last rep but that's straight to the rack and not to 'squeze' in a second assisted rep (not unless I know him)
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    Jul 30, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    jocktalk_TO said
    Ya I guess I am not spotting correctly! Now I know what to do for next time. Plus it will save my back. I hate that awkward bent position for lifting anything heavy.


    This is the perfect recipe for herniating a disc. This is how medical researchers herniate (cadaver) discs in the lab, by loading a forward-flexed spine.

    A herniated disc never really heals, so you are risking lifelong health problems for this idiot. Stop it.
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    Jul 30, 2010 2:58 PM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidI am a good spotter for guys at the gym. I only use my index fingers to guide them through the range of motion. The only time I put any effort into is is when I see them go down with the weight and cannot lift it up. From my experience, guys do not want you to do the work. They want to know that they can lift the weight. At least the ones that are honest with themselves.



    yup. make the bish work. i tend to spot in a very "cold" way. i make them go slow, make sure their form is right and don´t do any of the work for them. I´m just there to stop them from suffocating if they drop the bar on their neck. hell, if they arch their back I tell it´s over.