I don't know what to do

  • Lupena

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    Jul 30, 2010 12:45 AM GMT
    Hi.. I'm rather new to this Real Jock site, as my friend has used it for a while and always encouraged me to get on it. I was always apprehensive, but I've run out of ideas.

    I don't know what to do about fitness and health anymore. I desperately want to get my body back that I had when I was say, 14 and very into health and fitness. Several terrible events in my life have helped me become lazy and disinterested. I go to the gym and tear it up when I go, but my eating is the killer. I work at a mall and eat mall food way too much. I eat pizza.. A lot.. It's embarassing, and it makes me cry.

    My self esteem is in the absolute gutter. My weight has ruined my relationship and that's all I had for the last however many years of my life. Because of it I keep making excuses as to why I do or don't do certain things... Who do I have to impress, right? I think nothing of ordering a large pizza and eating it all. Then I'll go to the gym for an hour and a half later in the day.

    I'm fairly certain my eating habits are my biggest downfall but with everything that's happening it's just so hard... I'm tired of feeling ugly and unattractive. But I don't know what to do anymore. I'm just lost.

    What do I do, guys?

    -Unmotivated schmuck

    Edit: I apologize if this is in the wrong area.
  • Lupena

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    Jul 30, 2010 1:42 AM GMT
    That's something I always thought about trying to do, and I guess it really is something I should do... I've always gotten discouraged when I think about doing it. That or I have a huge issue with willpower and break down and order a pizza or something.

    My will and weakness is a huge part of the problem too, large in part from self esteem.

    What would you think some good healthy snacks are, or any reccomendations for lunches and dinners and stuff? One of my friends tried to have oatmeal for breakfast, apple for snack, turkey sandwich for lunch, banana for snack, then chicken on rice for a month STRAIGHT... I sadly cannot stomach that haha.

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    Jul 30, 2010 2:35 AM GMT
    In the last six months I've done a "food makeover" for myself.I've made the concerted effort to only stock healthy and whole foods in my house and really try to cook and bring my meals with me to work. It's been a real challenge, but it can be done. Try and shop on the outer isles of the store as this is where most of the wold and healthier items are. Try to stay away from processed foods as much as you can because that's where they like to hide high fructose corn syrup, and fillers that add no nutritional value. You've already passed the first hurdle of recognizing yo want to eat better.
    Also, don't deny yourself getting a pizza every now and then or going out to eat. Just try to make the best choices you can when you do. ie choose a whole wheat crust get more veggies on it than fatty meats and pass on the breadsticks, extra cheese, and dipping sauces. Take heart that you can do it, just be patient. You didn't get out of shape in a day and you can't get back in shape in one either. I've heard that it takes 20-30 days to make/break any habit.
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    Jul 30, 2010 2:42 AM GMT
    For snacking I suggest stocking apples, baby carrots, unsalted almonds, lowfat cottage cheese, lowfat no sugar added yogurt, I also like cucumber witha little balsamic vinegar and evoo. My fav is the little grape tomatoes for a quick snack too.

    My lunches are usually a chicken breast, a personal steamer bag of veggies (usually brussell sprouts or broccoli), 1 slice of multi grain bread, and then an apple or other fruit and maybe a yogurt. I'll also sometimes make chicken tacos with whole wheat tortillas. If you like fish try the tuna or salmon in the pouch.
  • Lupena

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    Jul 30, 2010 2:43 AM GMT
    I guess it really does take that serious, incredibly determined attitude to get to that point, and really being aware of what you're doing.. Thanks so much to the both of you so far btw, I really, really appreciating you taking the time to give me a hand. icon_smile.gif

    I think overcoming the convenience of some of those other habits like mall food is a big one for me too...Like I can just grab a burger easy peasy, right?

    I'm trying to think of what I can prepare in a day that will last me a while in the fridge so I have something else easier to just grab and go.
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    Jul 30, 2010 2:51 AM GMT
    I've been using the "lose it" app on my phone for a week now and it has helped in so many ways. If you can I highly reccommend getting it, it's free. It will help you journal your food and fitness.
  • Lupena

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    Jul 30, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    Those are all a lot of good ideas, thank you, I need to take some of them to heart and get them in my fridge haha... I'll definitely give them a try.

    I have an iPhone so I can look that app up too.

    My relationship just ended recently because of my weight so it's been a lot of stress which hasn't helped and I'm trying to get used to the one-man apartment deal now since he's gone. Will take a lot of work. x.x
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    Jul 30, 2010 3:10 AM GMT
    RudeMech and Aussiebody have good tips.

    I was once heavier and I had to snap a switch in my head and make it my priority to loose weight and dedicate my time to good fitness. It also helps having a good support system. I'm not saying go join Jenny Craig but maybe goto a few classes at your gym if you can and have a buddy system with someone.

    It may sound funny but it can work, when your feeling down you can call your buddy or text them instead of ordering food.

    As far as ordering fast food I suggest steer clear of any mall eating areas if you can. Constantly chew on something to help relieve cravings you have. Gum will work out or carrots or some "Healthy" nutrient rich peanut butter w/celery. Make some snack to take on the go also. Theres a bit of planning involved but if you want make your goal then you gotta work for it.

    Lastly make a goals sheet, set some realistic goals for the weeks, the month, then a 4 to 5 month goals and strive towards those.

    With some work, patience, and determination you can do it man! I'm rooting for you!

    *and drink water, copious amounts!
  • Lupena

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    Jul 30, 2010 3:25 AM GMT
    I would KILL for a gym buddy I know if I was trying to outdo someone I'd be able to do so much better haha.

    That's a huge help. I think it's those times I'm like "I'm hungry" that I just don't think about going and getting something unhealthy, and I should just grab some baby carrots or snow peas instead (I'm addicted to snow peas, oddly enough)

    Once again thank you all so much for these tips and suggestions, I appreciate it as you wouldn't believe.

    I can't wait to get off work and get a damn picture up haha
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    Jul 30, 2010 5:14 AM GMT
    Stop feeling sorry for yourself. You got yourself fat, you know how to get yourself lean again, and whining about it does nothing but propagate your self loathing.

    Oh and being fat is nothing to be ashamed of to begin with. For most people it's a choice. If you choose to not be fat anymore, just do what you know needs to be done and get yourself lean.

    Signed: Former fat-ass.
  • DCguy2001

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    Jul 30, 2010 5:36 AM GMT
    Here's a good way to stay motivated - at least something that worked for me:

    * Take some "before" pics in basic, easy to replicate poses.
    * Change your eating habits to more healthy stuff based on some of the advice you've gotten on here. You don't have to be perfect, but no more pizza!
    * Get yourself into a routine of going to the gym - maybe 3 or 4 times a week if you have time to do that.
    * Every month or so, take some "after" pics in the same poses.

    If you are good (again, perfection not required) about your diet and exercise, you'll start to see results. And that will motivate you to stick with it. Good luck!
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    Jul 30, 2010 5:59 AM GMT
    DCguy1999 saidHere's a good way to stay motivated - at least something that worked for me:

    * Take some "before" pics in basic, easy to replicate poses.
    * Change your eating habits to more healthy stuff based on some of the advice you've gotten on here. You don't have to be perfect, but no more pizza!
    * Get yourself into a routine of going to the gym - maybe 3 or 4 times a week if you have time to do that.
    * Every month or so, take some "after" pics in the same poses.

    If you are good (again, perfection not required) about your diet and exercise, you'll start to see results. And that will motivate you to stick with it. Good luck!


    I totally agree with DCguy! I'm about to take my latest pics on the first (an easy date for me to remember to do it) I'm also taking my weight, measurements, and bf% each time I take pics. I NEVER do it in between. Seeing the differences month to month is much more motivating for me, and gives me a goal to shoot for, and it makes me compete against myself rather than other guys
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    Jul 30, 2010 6:01 AM GMT
    Love all these posts! I am in the same boat, OP. For another motivating tip, I wrote down what I needed to stay away from/cut back on a notepad, clearly visible in my kitchen. Writing things down somehow makes them more meaningful and urgent.
  • Lupena

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    Jul 31, 2010 1:15 AM GMT
    Thank you once more to everyone who's been posting such helpful and encouraging things... I'm taking a lot of them to heart and can't wait to do a lot of them. I gots me my pens and paper, I stocked up the place with healthy food, I even wrote out a whole meal plan for an entire week. Not only that but I cut up my credit card... Maybe if I don't have the ability to use it everyday and don't carry cash all the time it'll help!

    You are all wonderful, thank you.