What does "Laidback" mean?

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    Feb 15, 2008 11:53 AM GMT
    Can someone define laidback for me? I see so many guys use this to describe themselves or the kind of guy they are looking for. But what is it exactly?

    LOL. icon_biggrin.gif I've also seen guys who use this term that don't even know how to spell it. I've seen "layed back" and "late back." It's starting to sound kind of silly to me.
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    Feb 15, 2008 12:07 PM GMT
    a bottom? icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Feb 15, 2008 12:10 PM GMT
    LOL! Exactly what I was thinking zim. icon_lol.gif

    Or how about guys who let the other do all the work. icon_razz.gif
  • Timbales

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    Feb 15, 2008 12:13 PM GMT
    They like to get laid on their back? icon_neutral.gif

  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 15, 2008 12:59 PM GMT
    "Laidback" to me has always meant.. to have an informal
    view on life, to "go with the flow", perhaps unstructured, don't take things too seriously, not intense.
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    Feb 15, 2008 1:03 PM GMT
    Hndsm...i agree with you defintition...to me its someone who doesn't feak out unnecessarily over the little things and knows how to take things in stride. A laidback person to me knows when and how to have a good time while still being able to get the job done when needed, they have a "go with the flow" attitude towards most things. In short...they strike the balance between being professional/mature and being fun, spontaneous and affableicon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 15, 2008 1:15 PM GMT
    Oh you Yankees are sooooooo damn serious!!!



    and sexy too.icon_confused.gif


    ...c'mon you guys, take a chill pill and experience the definition of what laidback is all abouticon_cool.gif
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    Feb 15, 2008 3:00 PM GMT
    For me, "laidback" has become a real turn-off in a profile.

    I see it as the profiler knows he is supposed to be "laidback." So he puts it in there. Which kind of indicates that he really isn't laidback, but very concerned about trends and what the world thinks.

    Also, it says to me that the profiler isn't very original. He has adopted this persona of being "cool," of which "laidback" is one of it's most important code words.

    So to me, "laidback" is one of those profile red flags and I just move on.
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    Feb 15, 2008 5:14 PM GMT
    Caslon saidFor me, "laidback" has become a real turn-off in a profile.

    I see it as the profiler knows he is supposed to be "laidback." So he puts it in there. Which kind of indicates that he really isn't laidback, but very concerned about trends and what the world thinks.

    Also, it says to me that the profiler isn't very original. He has adopted this persona of being "cool," of which "laidback" is one of it's most important code words.

    So to me, "laidback" is one of those profile red flags and I just move on.



    May I second that??? I believe it's just used to make themselves more appealing somehow, I just don't get it though. I personally don't want someone who's "just goes with the flow" reminds me of a spineless person! Get a back bone, do your thing!!
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    Feb 15, 2008 5:18 PM GMT
    I think it means low maintenance and easy going. That is just my take on it.
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    Feb 15, 2008 5:22 PM GMT
    Probably related to that are profiles that say something like "I'm a chill guy". It's a verb, not an adjective icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 15, 2008 5:28 PM GMT
    Laidback to me mean's Lazy and Boring!!!

    Too many people use this and it is dumb!


    Like "easy going"

    Easy going no where that's what it mean's to me!!



    YUK!!!!!!!!!!!
  • dhinkansas

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    Feb 15, 2008 5:29 PM GMT
    Maybe it means they haven't been laid since back in the day???
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    Feb 15, 2008 5:33 PM GMT
    or it could mean laid off....
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    Feb 15, 2008 5:33 PM GMT
    I always interpret "laidback" to mean, "I pretend to be about anything other than drama when in covert reality I am actually all about the drama." Or, more succinctly, an undercover drama queen trying way too hard to seem otherwise.
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    Feb 15, 2008 5:36 PM GMT
    It means they are full of drama and are very high-maintenance - at least in my experience. It's similar to the ones who say they are very approachable and to e-mail them and when you do they don't respond or give a one word answer.
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    Feb 15, 2008 5:38 PM GMT
    I have never even considered this too much. Yikes...I find it hard enough to try to describe myself on these websites. I definitely know not to use that term now. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 15, 2008 5:50 PM GMT
    It is just someone that can say "whatever" to alot of nonsense things that some people get their panties in a bunch over. It is someone that loves to just sit back and chill and can have fun doing about anything. I am a laidback guy.
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    Feb 15, 2008 5:55 PM GMT
    I've always read the term as code. Gay code for "I'm masculine and easy going" when in fact they are not. Or, they have severe internalized homophobia that equates queerness with a certain high-pitched dramatic intensity. It's why I also dislike seeing the term masculine over-used in profiles.

    "Methinks he doth protest too much."
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    Feb 15, 2008 6:04 PM GMT
    RunintheCity saidI've always read the term as code. Gay code for "I'm masculine and easy going" when in fact they are not. Or, they have severe internalized homophobia that equates queerness with a certain high-pitched dramatic intensity. It's why I also dislike seeing the term masculine over-used in profiles.

    "Methinks he doth protest too much."



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    Feb 15, 2008 6:10 PM GMT
    It's one of those terms that's so broad that it's almost meaningless.

    It can mean:
    I'm not easily impressed.
    I'm not impressive.
    I'm not high maintenance.
    I don't want to be high maintenance.
    I smoke a lot of weed and do nothing.
    I'm dull.
    I watch 30 hours of TV a week.
    I have comfortable furniture.
    I'm not currently standing up.
    I'm prone.
    I'm not dramatic.
    I'm not a Drama Queen.
    I've suffered a severe spinal injury.
    I can't think of anything else to say about myself.

    You can take it from there.
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    Feb 15, 2008 6:16 PM GMT
    To me laidback means:

    - do not get rattled easily;
    - not hyper;
    - have a easy going approach to life;
    - the opposite of a driven type "A" personality.
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    Feb 15, 2008 6:20 PM GMT
    mellow-yellow
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    Feb 15, 2008 6:52 PM GMT
    The only way to be completely laid-back all the time is to be dead...or at least dead between the ears.

    I'm laid-back to the extent that usually, things don't fluster me or get me worked up too badly. 'Usually' is the key word, though. I think oftentimes the proclamation "I'm laid-back!" is a knee-jerk reaction, as in "Oh, I'm not a drama queen, eww! I'm sooo laid back!" Or maybe people who read laid-back as a nasty red-flag word interpret it as such.

    Because we all know, surely, there is no middle ground.
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    Feb 15, 2008 6:52 PM GMT
    Jeez, what is going on in here. The definition of laidback seems pretty obvious to me: low maintenance and friendly. I don't see why anyone is trying to read into it and translate it into signs of internalized homophobia or selfishness. I don't get that at all. icon_confused.gif