Relationship status on FB

  • Onemoresummer

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    Aug 02, 2010 2:09 AM GMT
    So my bf and I have decided to make our relationship official after 5 months.
    He mentioned changing the relationship status on fb.
    I'm excited about this but there's a couple of things.

    I'm out to my close friends but not to my family and I have my 2 sisters on fb.
    I'm thinking of just hiding the change status to them and telling them in person.
    Also, there's a few people (old high school friends, people I work with) that don't know.

    Do you think it matters at all?
    I guess i'm just a bit worried about what people will think, even though all of true friends already know..
    thoughts?
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    Aug 02, 2010 2:12 AM GMT
    As you said, you can always hide the relationship status from them. Facebook allows you considerable flexibility in allowing who gets to see what on your profile. So you can have your Facebook page say you are in a relationship and only your closest friends would be able to see it.
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    Aug 02, 2010 2:24 AM GMT
    Get off bloody Facebook. It is a waste of time and energy, as you are now finding out. Why would you let yourself be ruled by an internet toy?
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    Aug 02, 2010 3:01 AM GMT
    Somethings need to be done in person. Coming out is an intimately private conversation that should only be held in person. Your sisters will be shocked and hurt that they found out not through you, but through an informal electrical curtain.

    Remember, face to face, they will see you.Their emotional reaction will be accompanied by all their memories and their love of you. The may think it rude if done through a faceless expressionless entity.
  • TristanLane

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    Aug 02, 2010 7:34 PM GMT
    Change it and find out. But if your so concerned about people seeing your FB status how can you even expect to be in a serious relationship?
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    Aug 02, 2010 7:36 PM GMT
    viveutvivas saidGet off bloody Facebook. It is a waste of time and energy, as you are now finding out. Why would you let yourself be ruled by an internet toy?


    Yes..facebook = crapbook!
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    Aug 02, 2010 7:36 PM GMT
    TristanLane saidChange it and find out. But if your so concerned about people seeing your FB status how can you even expect to be in a serious relationship?


    I completely agree with this...
  • Onemoresummer

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    Aug 04, 2010 3:21 PM GMT
    So I did it.
    Got about 10 'likes' on it so all good.
    Pretty big deal to me. The world hasn't stopped turning.

    Anyways the only issue is I'm not out to my family so i had to hide the changed relationship status from them.

    I'm pretty sure one of my sisters knows.
    She is only a year older than me and lived with me for 2 years (I haven't lived at home for 3 years).
    She would be pretty accepting, and I'm already 99% sure she knows.

    Given that the entire facebook world knows now I feel that it is eventually going to get back to my family.

    Should I start by telling my sisters.
    How exactly should I word it.
    "Sooo I'm seeing this guy now.." or something like that?
  • owen19832006

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    Aug 04, 2010 3:39 PM GMT
    why would you announce to the world you;re in a relationship its not like youre married or anything...in my book until you're married youre single
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    Aug 04, 2010 3:41 PM GMT
    serriously, FB doesnt matter no matter what it is. according to facebook ive been in a relationshi with my roomates 15 year old sister, been in a 10 month relationship with a girl that i havent seen in 3 months, and been married to a cat. i wouldnt think it would matter. then again i dont think it really "matters" to put it up on facebook in the first place
  • nv7_

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    Aug 04, 2010 3:45 PM GMT
    Remove relationship status permanently from your Facebook. You'll thank me later. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Aug 04, 2010 3:49 PM GMT
    nv7_ saidRemove relationship status permanently from your Facebook. You'll thank me later. icon_rolleyes.gif



    I agree. Just tell your friends you're in a relationship. No need for it to be announced on FB
  • Onemoresummer

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    Aug 04, 2010 3:53 PM GMT
    Wow, you guys serious?
    I actually felt pretty good about it until reading this.
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    Aug 04, 2010 4:02 PM GMT
    I think it's nice having a relationship status on fb
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    Aug 04, 2010 4:04 PM GMT
    Loco11 saidWow, you guys serious?
    I actually felt pretty good about it until reading this.


    you should def feel good about haveing a great guy and/or relationship. but being able to "tell everyone els" who hapends to be ur friend on facebook i think is a bit narcissistic. it should bring u anywhere near as much joy as the relationship itself

    but thats jsut my opinion
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    Aug 04, 2010 4:05 PM GMT
    dsato17 saidI think it's nice having a relationship status on fb


    I think it's a good idea, but I changed it last week to in a relationship before consulting the guy I'm seeing. So I immediately changed it before there were repercussions. Always ask the other guy.
  • Riahtherockst...

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    Aug 04, 2010 4:08 PM GMT
    Oh the joys of facebook!

    Honestly, I feel that, like many other's have said, that coming "out" should be done in person. However, I suggest you talk to your boyfriend about your concerns and see what works best for both of you as a couple. Communication is key. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 04, 2010 4:14 PM GMT
    yeahh ive had some drama with those, especially if they request name specific. I have gay shit all over my facebook so I personally dont care, but my late ex sprung it on me, and he was very sensitive so I accepted not to make problems for myself. But of course, when he broke up with me for 5 minutes over something I said he immeadiately ripped it down, something like a week after it was up.. and I just removed the status and coincidentally broke the connection permanently after I got back from vacation.

    It can also be bad for family and stuff
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    Aug 04, 2010 4:18 PM GMT
    It is sad to see people who need Facebook to validate their existence.
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    Aug 04, 2010 4:19 PM GMT
    Technology hasn't really made life any easier, has it?
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    Aug 04, 2010 4:25 PM GMT
    viveutvivas saidIt is sad to see people who need Facebook to validate their existence.


    Get used to it. Before long, no online existence will = no existence.

    And Big Brother is wanking as he watches.
  • nv7_

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    Aug 04, 2010 4:35 PM GMT
    viveutvivas saidGet off bloody Facebook. It is a waste of time and energy, as you are now finding out. Why would you let yourself be ruled by an internet toy?


    A bigger waste of time than RJ forums? One example... "Fuck or pass part II?" No way. This is me shocked... icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 04, 2010 4:38 PM GMT
    Brit_Bloke said
    viveutvivas saidIt is sad to see people who need Facebook to validate their existence.


    Get used to it. Before long, no online existence will = no existence.


    Ha! I don't even have a cellphone. I don't believe in them. I move through society like a ghost. icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 04, 2010 4:39 PM GMT
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    viveutvivas saidGet off bloody Facebook. It is a waste of time and energy, as you are now finding out. Why would you let yourself be ruled by an internet toy?


    A bigger waste of time than RJ forums? One example... "Fuck or pass part II?" No way. This is me shocked... icon_rolleyes.gif


    It is one thing to have fun online. It is quite another to be ruled by it, like the OP.
  • nv7_

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    Aug 04, 2010 4:49 PM GMT
    viveutvivas said
    nv7_ said
    viveutvivas saidGet off bloody Facebook. It is a waste of time and energy, as you are now finding out. Why would you let yourself be ruled by an internet toy?


    A bigger waste of time than RJ forums? One example... "Fuck or pass part II?" No way. This is me shocked... icon_rolleyes.gif


    It is one thing to have fun online. It is quite another to be ruled by it, like the OP.


    Some people find being ruled, fun. I don't, but hey, to each his own. icon_cool.gif
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