What does "add own word" mean? and how others perceive them

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    Feb 15, 2008 11:26 PM GMT
    The laidback thread got me thinking as we often see words on a profile and that sets of alarm bells based on previous experiences.

    So what words make you think oh oh!

    I shall start with mine and being my own worst enemy at times:

    "Chatty" :- definition verbal diaorea! Oh god does this guy never shut up!


    "Outgoing": obnoxious, over the top, has a high opinion of oneself, has to warn me that he is way out there and "whacky"


    "Tidy" :- Analy retentive, total control freak, you must fit in with his schedule
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    Feb 15, 2008 11:49 PM GMT
    I find people who use the acronym "lol" in their profiles make my skin crawl somewhat. I can forgive it, of course, if the person is otherwise decent, but it annoys me.
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    Feb 16, 2008 12:40 AM GMT
    Straight acting- Incredibly insecure, desperately seeking approval from others and perpetually self loathing

    Discrete- married, three kids have to be up early for PTA meeting tomorrow

  • MikePhilPerez

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    Feb 16, 2008 12:42 AM GMT
    "Intelligent", "Educated" I don't understand why anyone feels the need to use those words.

    While I'm at it, the following, get me thinking, what plant are you from?............. "I'm not into fems", "If you're fem, don't message me", "If you don't have a pic, don't message me", "If you're not verified, don't message me"

    Alarm bellsicon_exclaim.gif you'd go deaf reading some of that stuff icon_rolleyes.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 16, 2008 1:21 AM GMT
    [quote][cite]MikePhil said[/cite]"Intelligent", "Educated" I don't understand why anyone feels the need to use those words.




    Hey Mike...

    Well remember, I have "educated professional" in my profile. The reason is really simple... my focus has been my education and my career. It isn't meant as a slight in any way, but it does give the reader the idea of where I've been and how I see myself.
    "Intelligent" does seem a little odd, hopefully we are all intelligent people...

    I do have a word of concern here.. I can see "warning signs" or "red flags" in profiles... but lets not start tearing down profiles that thoughtful people think are important to describe themselves. I think thats overkill.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 16, 2008 1:26 AM GMT
    "Swimmer's build" - has gills
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    Feb 16, 2008 2:18 AM GMT
    I commented on that "laidback" thread because I found it hilarious. I find this one hilarius too about how peoeple find certains words annoying.

    I'm curious as to how guys find certain words to be warnings and where do they get off coming up with there own versions of what the word might actually mean and how they can easily judge a person based off the use of a word? Is it a crime if a person thinks that way about themself? Alot of you treat it like is. I'm guessing you guys had bad experiences with people who used these words and things just didn't work out well. Just a thought mind you.

    I don't have any real turn-offs when it comes to words used as long as they aren't used in a negative way or meant to instigate something cruel and hurtful. What alot people lack is the common decency to actually talk to people and learn something before jumping the gun and pratcically condemming them. Again I'll say it's funny how you guys find certain words irritating and annoying but yet that doesn't stop you from adding them to hotlists. Just seems pretty hypocritical to me...just my opinion.

    You can read my profile and come to whatever conclusion you want. You will not be right until you actually talk to me. Consider that before judging others.
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    Feb 16, 2008 2:24 AM GMT
    Meizer79 said Again I'll say it's funny how you guys find certain words irrating and annoying but yet that doesn't stop you from adding them to hotlists. Just seems pretty hypocritical to me...just my opinion.


    Oh, you meant the Lust List?! icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Feb 16, 2008 2:28 AM GMT
    Yup...the LUST LIST
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    Feb 16, 2008 2:33 AM GMT
    colmdublin saidI find people who use the acronym "lol" in their profiles make my skin crawl somewhat. I can forgive it, of course, if the person is otherwise decent, but it annoys me.


    D to the itto. I find similar degrees of annoyance when they start and end sentences with "lol."

    Kind of like I just did. I hate myself now.
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    Feb 16, 2008 2:52 AM GMT
    Timberoo said"Swimmer's build" - has gills


    I agree, but Manatees also have "swimmers' builds"icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 16, 2008 3:01 AM GMT
    RBY71 said[quote][cite]Timberoo said[/cite]"Swimmer's build" - has gills


    I agree, but Manatees also have "swimmers' builds"icon_lol.gif[/quote]

    I am the walrus

    koo koo kee choo
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    Feb 16, 2008 3:14 AM GMT
    Ppl wrtng lk ths jst fckng crp me out, evn in txt mssgs.

    Oh, and "straight-acting" bothers me. Why can't you just act like yourself? Are you ashamed of who you are? Or maybe, you're insecure about who you are, is that it? Just be you, the rest will sort itself out.

    Usually, "lol" doesn't really bother me. But, it does bother me lol if every sentence has lol in the middle of it lol or its repeated several times in the sentence lol or every sentence ends in "lol". lol This makes me wonder... are you laughing because something is funny, or are you nervous, or are you insecure about saying what you mean?

    spelling mistakes i can usually overlook because it happens to all of us and there's no spellchecker on this site but when there's no punctuation and no capitalization and the sentence runs on and on and on like this one does it really bothers me because i wonder then if you ever really learned grammar in school or are you typing like this because you talk like this and if you talk like this does that mean I'll never get a word in edgewise because you never ever ever shut the hell up i mean i'm southern and i can talk the horns off a bull but i always shut up and let someone else participate in the conversation because i want to hear what they have to say too
  • GQjock

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    Feb 16, 2008 11:56 AM GMT
    Workout?
    That can mean you once saw the inside of a gym fifty years ago
  • AirForceGuy75

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    Feb 16, 2008 12:12 PM GMT
    AMT87 saidStraight acting- Incredibly insecure, desperately seeking approval from others and perpetually self loathing

    Discrete- married, three kids have to be up early for PTA meeting tomorrow



    Uhm have you ever thought about those that are in the Military. We still have to be discreet it doesn't mean we are married and with kids. We are just trying to keep a job so that you and others may sleep well and not be judged.
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    Feb 16, 2008 12:24 PM GMT
    Judging by your screen name, AirForceGuy75, and the fact that your on a blatantly gay site, extolling the virtues of your Prada wardrobe and tasteful Architectural Digest decor, all the while employed in the military, I wouldn't say that discretion is your forte.

    Hell, just look at your initials – A F G !!!

    Nah, not very discrete that. You, sir, like your handsome black suit, are bold!
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    Feb 16, 2008 12:45 PM GMT
    RBY71 said[quote][cite]Timberoo said[/cite]"Swimmer's build" - has gills


    I agree, but Manatees also have "swimmers' builds"icon_lol.gif[/quote]

    Shamu has a "swimmers build too! icon_biggrin.gif



    I don't even bother if someone uses the word "kewl" while IM'ing or in their profile. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 16, 2008 12:51 PM GMT
    LOL..I find that generally people who don't like "str8 acting" are the flaming fems who talk about project runway and their prada purses all through dinner..

    I find "str8 acting" and "masculine" helpful in weeding some of those people out...though in truth I've met some "str8 acting" guys who were anything but...LOL


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    Feb 16, 2008 12:51 PM GMT
    jock_itch saidJudging by your screen name, AirForceGuy75, and the fact that your on a blatantly gay site, extolling the virtues of your Prada wardrobe and tasteful Architectural Digest decor, all the while employed in the military, I wouldn't say that discretion is your forte.

    Hell, just look at the letters you've capitalized: A F G.


    well, if I'm out and about and were to meet someone I have to be discreet....but I don't go about with a rainbow flag and flame like no tomorrow. So, is it ok to be proud that I'm in the military?...I can have a private life too and plus it helps that I don't have to live on base....But I wasn't saying that for myself but I know many people that are family and in the Military and they are very discreet due to where they are working from...So I was being general and not selfish but thanks for pointing all that out on me...much appreciated.
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    Feb 16, 2008 12:59 PM GMT
    ^^^ "a good sport"; Definition of ~ .
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Feb 16, 2008 1:11 PM GMT
    Meizer79 said I'm guessing you guys had bad experiences with people who used these words and things just didn't work out well.


    Well, yes, kind of. Not a relationship thing and nothing to do with being gay, either. My brother is the "Educated" one (what ever that means). Years ago, when he was in collage (I never went to collage, and in fact never finished school) he was kind of famous for his achievements (and fare play to him for that). So there is this teacher, that knows the family (never taught any of us) and she thought, I was my brother, so she walks up to my father, and I, with her hand out to shake my hand. My father said, no it was my other son. Well, you never saw anyone to pull there hand away so fast. What can I say? I just wasn't good enough after that. Even though I was working, and earning a living.

    What is "Educated"? What does it mean?

    I'm really not trying to have a go at guys that put "Educated" in their profiles, but saying that, I don't like to see that word. It is a red flag for me.

    Saying that, HndsmKansan uses that word, as he says, and I find him to be one of the nicest, friendliest, respectful, guys on here.

    It's a red flag, but when you get to know the person, you may find yourself, pulling down the flag.

    Mike
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    Feb 16, 2008 1:36 PM GMT
    It's a red flag for me when a guy has a profile up. I mean, doesn't he have a social life?

    With that said, it's also a red flag for me when he doesn't have a profile up. I mean, is he a straight fat guy or something? creepy.
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    Feb 16, 2008 2:15 PM GMT
    Well, calll me uneducated, because despite my innate talent for ripping and shredding, cutting and pasting, I never got into collage.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Feb 16, 2008 2:18 PM GMT
    Meizer79 saidWhat alot people lack is the common decency to actually talk to people and learn something before jumping the gun and pratcically condemming them. Again I'll say it's funny how you guys find certain words irritating and annoying but yet that doesn't stop you from adding them to hotlists. Just seems pretty hypocritical to me...just my opinion.

    You can read my profile and come to whatever conclusion you want. You will not be right until you actually talk to me. Consider that before judging others.


    I agree with you, that alot of people lack common decency to talk to people, and get to know them. That's why I cant understand why some guys feel they should only talk to verified guys. It's like they want a website to do the work for them. The only way anyone will verify me, is by getting to know me. The only true verification, is through communication, and in this processes, the fake will always rise to the top.

    As for the hotlist thing. I have guys on my buddy list, and I don't agree with their views on everything, and they may have something in their profile, that I may not like, but does that mean we cant be friends? Do you agree with everything your friends say and believe?

    Mike
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    Feb 16, 2008 2:23 PM GMT
    Good topic. Personally, I find I have issues with a few words here. I won't go into "laidback" as I did that already.

    "str8 acting" is distinctly pejorative, homophobic and myopic. I will accept "masculine" even though that is in the eye of the beholder. It's directly descriptive. It doesn't have to be anything beyond that. I've got friends who range from "Just Jack" to "Mister Drummer". All are good friends and I'm not embarrassed to be in public with any of them. (How they feel about me is up to them.)

    The issue of making the choice between "Muscular" and "Truly Ripped" seems to imply that the later is both heavily muscled and cut. It also allows that the former can mean anything from one step below morbid obesity and 8 weeks from a body building competition. These should not be mutually exclusive choices. (Truly ripped is for me a goal that seems a long way from now, though not totally inaccessible.)

    "Swimmer's build" is a descriptor that always makes me laugh since I've had a number of friends that described themselves that way and I always thought, and in some cases said, that it doesn't mean that you can swim. If you don't look like Micheal Phelps, or Mark Spitz (back in the day) then you don't have a "swimmers build."

    "Considered VGL". Sorry, but mom's opinion doesn't count. I think of myself as average looking. If someone says otherwise, I can always come back with "I'm not being driven out of town by a crowd of torch baring villagers." or "Strangers don't hit on me on the street or compliment me more frequently than every 5 years or so" depending on which side of average they're pushing towards. I tend to ignore most web based posts as being irrelevant. I appreciate them, but my 'attractiveness factor" seems inversely proportional to the distance of the person giving me the compliment. (I must be a God to Martians.)

    As to the communication in the for that NativeDude mentioned, I agree and find it really annoying as well. I don't have the time to converse with someone who doesn't have the time to use vowels. Additionally, getting a first message from someone I don't know who's only text is 'Sup' makes me what to type an infinity symbol and end it there. (Don't get me going on the messegeless "I've unlocked my private pictures for you.")

    I will always assume that the individuals self description is literally accurate until they prove otherwise.

    Incidentally, I'm dyslexic, so I'm really forgiving of typos.