Aug 03, 2010 5:20 AM GMT
has anybody here ever been forced out of the closet, or made one big mistake that blew your cover, or have some jealous ex or stalker out you? how did it happen and how did you/ your friends and family deal with it?
from my story ... My sophomore year of South Dakota State, I was SLOWLY coming to terms with my sexuality. After I gained 40 pounds of fat my Freshmen year, I knew I had to make a change. So, I took a weightlifting class and instantly fell in love with working out. Instead of a rotund guy who ate McDonalds and Domino’s Pizza on a regular basis, I slowly became a health nut and my body started to take shape into the build I’ve always wanted.
paulflexes saidMy dad caught me and my bf (now ex) in bed, getting ready for a nice romp.
ruck_us said@Andreas73 - My story is eerily similar to yours. I am in a much better place now, though it took time.
moscowmikey saidAbout a year ago, I had to call the police on my wife because she has become increasingly violent and abusive...started with pushing and screaming and ended with her trying to stab me. The police removed her from the home and then she began to plot her revenge. Over the last year she has chased down nearly my entire family including my 82 year old dad and all my co-workers to angrily scream at them that I'm gay to try to isolate me.
She brought it up numerous times in our custody battle and divorce.
For the record...she had known for years that I was attracted to men too, but I had never acted upon it.
I lied to my dad, but everyone else I let them draw their own conclusions. I simply don't talk to family/co-workers about my sex life.
Does that qualify as being outed? lol
Geesh...what a year.
ChilaxinJOCK09 saidYea, last summer I slowly started telling a few friends and one of the girls I told decided to become the newspaper and let everyone know....but most ppl are cool with it so i dont mind....but i t was kinda tough not being able to be the one to tell some of my friends
RoddenShaw saidTen years ago, at the age of thirteen, I started a relationship with somebody I knew at school. We 'messed around' a bit, however after a few months he decided to break it off (saying that he was in fact straight). He proceeded to tell our classmates that I had given him a blow job (he spun the story so that it didn't reflect 'badly' on him) and, to cut a long story short I was effectively ostracised from the entire community (I grew up on a small island in Scotland, a country where gay sex was illegal until 1980 and an area where homosexuality was considered immoral and disgusting).
One year later I had enough and ran away to London (at the age of 14). The police ended up returning me to the island, where I stayed until I could run away again at the age of 16 (at which point I was legally free to leave home).
The experience was close to unbearable and very nearly ruined my life at the time, however I am undoubtedly stronger as a result and given where I have gotten to I would not change a thing.
Whilst gay rights have advanced a huge about in the last seventy or so years in many parts of Europe and the United States, many young gay/bi/trans people still face extreme difficulty when dealing with their sexuality, which is still considered 'abnormal' by many (if not most) people. Outside of major cities it is usually particularly difficult and I am angered no end when 'older' people dismiss the struggles faced by the youth of today as being less difficult than their own.
amar_m saidDammit these stories really suck
@Space Cowboy *shudder*