Prejudices and stereotypes before you even meet someone.

  • Moishendlishu...

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    Aug 03, 2010 5:03 PM GMT
    So I was just thinking about something. You know how we all have an image of somebody we've talked to via email, listened to on the radio, or had some form of communication with but have never met? How often do we say "they don't look anything like I pictured them"

    What visual prejudices do you make before you actually do meet someone? For example, I recently met a fellow designer who works for one of my clients. We had spoken via email numerous times and I had a picture in my head of what he looked like. Of course he looked totally different than I pictured...including the fact he was blond. I realized...I have NEVER thought a male is blond. Women maybe once or twice....but in my brain everyone seems to be a brunette.

    Anyone else noticed they do this?

  • jgymnast733

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    Aug 03, 2010 10:41 PM GMT
    I'v gone drinking with coworkers only to hear someone say to me '' My god your so much fun, at work your too professional''icon_eek.gif.. I dont know, maybe i'm wrong ya'll but arent you supposed to maintain a certain protocol when your dealing with high end clients' shelling upwards of $ 12,500. and up a night...
    I assumed a muesum security officer [ we met up one night], didnt know anything substantial about the art world, but i was totally wrong because he know more than i did......
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    Aug 03, 2010 10:43 PM GMT
    I do this too. Particularly over the phone. Like in my past jobs, I did phone interviews with the hiring manager, prior to meeting in person. And I try to visualize what they look like. And I've been wrong every time when I actually go meet them. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 04, 2010 12:01 AM GMT
    Back when I worked helpdesk, I had a client that I talked to weekly. With his deep, smooth voice and a name like 'Leeroy', I always assumed he was black. I was quite surprised to meet him face to face at a conference and find out he was Vietnamese. icon_lol.gif

    Similarly, I once got hooked up with someone through a mutual friend. I saw photos of him and talked to him on the phone for awhile before we agreed to hang out one weekend. Like Leeroy above, he had this super-deep, masculine voice, and I could tell from his photos he was quite buff (and I found out during one particularly raunchy phone chat that he was very well endowed).

    To this day I dont know why I never thought to get his (other) stats, to complete my mental picture of him; until we met in person, based on his physical traits, I was under the assumption he was a big guy. Imagine my surprise when I met him finally, and he was all of 5ft3. icon_eek.gif

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    Aug 04, 2010 12:55 AM GMT
    A long time ago I thru myself a birthday party at a club (oz) in the city. While making reservations over the phone for a guest list the manager tells me

    Manager
    " yah no it's blk nite that nite"
    Me
    " What"
    Manager
    " Saturday nite is mostly a blk crowd"
    Me
    "HUh"
    Silence....... and although I've been told numerous times I sound "white" I was just baffled that a manager would just say something so stupid over the phone. so after I snapped back to reality.....

    Me
    "I am black idiot"
    Manager
    "No your not, You sound white and Jewish"
    Me
    "Is this guy for real" (now on speaker and my friend is listening)
    " I'll can back when I'm sure"


    To my embarrassment I did call back and I did have my party there At the time it was a funny story that I told my friends that we laughed about thru the night. It's not so funny now that I realize he still got my money. God I was a MORONicon_mad.gif
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    Aug 04, 2010 1:14 AM GMT
    I started realizing that people were way more interesting than I originally thought back when I was taking lots of shitty jobs. You get forced to interact with lots of people that way. But, one of my games became to find out at least one thing that made someone interesting. I'll grill them about their life and their interests til I figure it out. It really helps in getting along with the relationships in your life that you don't get to choose.