How would you define this??

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    Aug 05, 2010 5:47 AM GMT
    I am getting to know two guys: one is an asshole and the other is a total sweetheart. The two guys are opposites both physically and mentally. The sweetheart is built like Vin Diesel and has a heart of gold. The other one is sweet but has been sour towards me and very authoritarian like and also has a nice body but he is shorter than I and muscular as well. However, i have some feelings towards the two of them. The down side to the sweetheart is that well he is here illegally, but going to fix his paper soon, and he is younger than i :s. To the other one is he is in the army.
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    Aug 05, 2010 10:48 AM GMT
    I have a good friend who was here illegally a couple years ago. Well not completely illegal, but he let his green card expire. He got married to become a citizen, but got impatient and tried to find work before his paperwork went through - and after his green card had expired - and got caught and deported back to Brazil. I told the little fucker a million times to lay low 'till the paperwork went through...his family had the money to keep him supported until then. He wouldn't listen, and now he's gone. Not that I'm sad or anything...I still fuck with him about it via email. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 05, 2010 12:55 PM GMT
    Grimaldi01 saidI am getting to know two guys: one is an asshole and the other is a total sweetheart. The two guys are opposites both physically and mentally. The sweetheart is built like Vin Diesel and has a heart of gold. The other one is sweet but has been sour towards me and very authoritarian like and also has a nice body but he is shorter than I and muscular as well. However, i have some feelings towards the two of them. The down side to the sweetheart is that well he is here illegally, but going to fix his paper soon, and he is younger than i :s. To the other one is he is in the army.


    Younger than you? what is he 15?
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    Aug 05, 2010 12:57 PM GMT
    I'd define it as typical.
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    Aug 05, 2010 1:18 PM GMT
    Dude why would you want to date an asshole? Are you looking for trouble? I always said, "you either have the tools for a healthy relationship or you don't." Just marinate that a bit.icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 05, 2010 11:48 PM GMT
    Go for the asshole, then post here again in five years asking why it's so hard to find a good guy. It's incredible how so many guys are blind to the bad choices they're making then complain that there are no good guys. Wrong! The good ones just end up with other guys who know their worth.

    Advice: The answer to your question is obvious. Wake up before it's too late. Grow a pair and make good decisions with your life.
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    Aug 05, 2010 11:59 PM GMT
    RudeMech saidGo for the asshole, then post here again in five years asking why it's so hard to find a good guy. It's incredible how so many guys are blind to the bad choices they're making then complain that there are no good guys. Wrong! The good ones just end up with other guys who know their worth.

    Advice: The answer to your question is obvious. Wake up before it's too late. Grow a pair and make good decisions with your life.


    Very correct. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't treat you well?
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    Aug 06, 2010 12:39 AM GMT
    Well the reason i liked the asshole is because i am attracted to him. :s He is 2 years younger nonetheless younger. Well i was concerned that i may have been viewed as a player seeing to guys, that was my question. Anyhow i did however choose the sweetheart. Plus most guys have a tendency of being assholes, so it makes it hard to find the really good one. Specially when they seem to be nice at first.
  • LJay

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    Aug 06, 2010 12:46 AM GMT
    First, what is with the ": s" ?

    Secondly, why define it? If you think you can handle two guys at once, each of which has age, attitude or immigration status problems, then go ahead. Life is its own reward.
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    Aug 06, 2010 1:42 AM GMT
    Grimaldi01 saidWell the reason i liked the asshole is because i am attracted to him. :s He is 2 years younger nonetheless younger. Well i was concerned that i may have been viewed as a player seeing to guys, that was my question. Anyhow i did however choose the sweetheart. Plus most guys have a tendency of being assholes, so it makes it hard to find the really good one. Specially when they seem to be nice at first.

    I find it a little sad that you think most guys have a tendency to be assholes. I think it's more likely you have an affinity for bad boys. However, it's your heart and you can play with it how you will. I just wanted to point out the mindset you're exhibiting.

    BTW I'm attracted to eating 3 chocolate cakes a day, but that doesn't mean it's healthy for me! I dont do that because that's where making good choices comes in.
  • solak

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    Aug 06, 2010 1:43 AM GMT


    the reason why you like the asshole..

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    i just saved you years of therapy bills...
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    Aug 06, 2010 1:53 PM GMT
    solak said

    the reason why you like the asshole..

    thegame.jpg

    i just saved you years of therapy bills...


    THank you that is very sweet of you.
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    Aug 06, 2010 1:55 PM GMT
    RudeMech said
    Grimaldi01 saidWell the reason i liked the asshole is because i am attracted to him. :s He is 2 years younger nonetheless younger. Well i was concerned that i may have been viewed as a player seeing to guys, that was my question. Anyhow i did however choose the sweetheart. Plus most guys have a tendency of being assholes, so it makes it hard to find the really good one. Specially when they seem to be nice at first.

    I find it a little sad that you think most guys have a tendency to be assholes. I think it's more likely you have an affinity for bad boys. However, it's your heart and you can play with it how you will. I just wanted to point out the mindset you're exhibiting.

    BTW I'm attracted to eating 3 chocolate cakes a day, but that doesn't mean it's healthy for me! I don't do that because that's where making good choices comes in.


    The example is a bit odd but i get what you are trying to imply. THank you for your pearls of wisdom.
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    Aug 06, 2010 2:16 PM GMT
    gay men and magical thinking... the reason my husband psychiatrist and i get to go to Europe every year
  • voyager1977

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    Aug 06, 2010 2:24 PM GMT
    Go with the sweetheart. The asshole will always be an asshole; and coming from the military he'll have that authoritarian element driven into him...if you don't like that part of him now, it likely won't get any better in the years to come.

    Yep, sweetheart all the way!

  • Geoedward

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    Aug 06, 2010 2:55 PM GMT
    Grimaladi,
    I agree with RudeMech.
    He said it perfectly!
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    Aug 06, 2010 11:17 PM GMT
    voyager1977 saidGo with the sweetheart. The asshole will always be an asshole; and coming from the military he'll have that authoritarian element driven into him...if you don't like that part of him now, it likely won't get any better in the years to come.

    Yep, sweetheart all the way!



    yes i did kick the other one to the curb and well the sweetheart and i are doing good