metta8 saidPersonally, I don't want perfection.
I like to tinker and improve THINGS, but not PEOPLE, to get as close to 100% as I can. People are people, and I don't think in terms of any kind of scale or percentage rule with them, whether as my friend or my lover.
Oddly, though I'm very precise & demanding of the things I choose to get & keep, with people I'm just the opposite. I have perhaps 4 levels of reaction to people, now that I'm thinking about this subject: those I dislike, those about whom I'm ambivalent, those I definitely like, and finally that one special guy who stands out from the crowd.
And those feelings are pretty much automatic, not truly calculating. I've learned over the years to trust my instincts, letting them work in the background on their own, and not fuss over these matters a great deal (this current post notwithstanding).
Furthermore, as I've also written about here before, once I have a guy of my own, my "hunting" behavior completely shuts down, all by itself. I just stop looking, and couldn't cheat or keep searching for something better if you paid me. For me, the guy I pick as my partner is my final destination, not a mere pitstop along the way.
For some guys the chase is the thing. For me it's the capture, the prize, and once I have it I don't let it go, or jeopardize my keeping it. I don't know if that makes me insecure, or just wiser, that I know what I want and choose carefully, so I don't have to choose again.