how can i tell him

  • life_kiss

    Posts: 26

    Aug 06, 2010 12:00 PM GMT
    if there is some one you want to tell about the really you are but still afraid of losing him what will you do?
    one day i stayed in my dad's friend's house for one night and i met his son he's older than me i just had watched him the whole dinner time he was very handsome and cute i wanted to talk to him but i was afraid if he isn't gay so i didnt talk to him but ever since then i still thinking about him and regret why i didnt talk to him
    he's from another city,a little far from where iam
    but i wish i did even if he's not a gay at least i wont think about him until now so what shall i do???
  • HndsmKansan

    Posts: 16414

    Aug 06, 2010 12:14 PM GMT
    Well let me ask you a question.... you took the initiative to send me a personal note here on RJ. Why did you feel you could do that if you can't "talk to" a guy sitting at your father's house? What if I had been sitting there, could you talk to me?

    Now I probably understand the answer, if I (or anybody) doesn't answer a message on a site like RJ, you aren't put out, probably wouldn't feel like you've been rejected as you might if they were there in person and wasn't friendly.

    Let me say you had the perfect scene to get to know him in a way that
    allowed little chance for you to be hurt. Listen to the conversation with him and take the initiative when he talks about some of the things that are important... whether that be sports, some of the things he likes, etc. Interject your interest in that .. and just start talking. Its not the kind of conversation where you'd feel
    like an're in your Dad's house. Evaluate whether he's gay and that kind of interest after getting to know him. You could even find you don't like his personality very much.

    Good luck... you were great to me in your note.. do the same with the guy and you will be fine.
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    Aug 06, 2010 12:24 PM GMT
    Growing them can take time, and definitely takes effort. Keep pressing forward and maybe next time you'll be able to strike up a conversation.

    Not that I have any room to talk because I actually "ignored" (aka watched and stared at) a super hot guy at the gym a couple days ago...but it was only because he was with his group of almost equally hot friends and I couldn't make up my mind which one I wanted. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 06, 2010 12:49 PM GMT
    Can you find him on Facebook? Try initiating contact with him, saying something like, "Hey it was nice meeting you the other night. Let me know if you'd like to hang out again." Non-threatening and non-committal. If he's not interested, he won't respond and can always claim he didn't get the friend request to save face for both of you.
  • life_kiss

    Posts: 26

    Aug 06, 2010 3:19 PM GMT
    thanks dudes for your advices i'll try to do so and let you know if there is any progress you are very helpful
    and for you mr hndsmkansan i talked to you cuz i found you very nice and kind and in this site every body can understand you not like in the real world so thanks again and waiting for more advices
    take care