NoCityGuy saidLMFAO... I hotlisted a guy who kindly responded "Thanks for the hotlist. I think your hot too, but I see you look your HIV+." Yep, I see YOU LOOK. Okay... so maybe he's not the brightest guy in the bunch. But I find it hilarious that if your HIV+ you can't be hotlisted. It wasn't as if I was asking him to fuck me. I just simply hit the "Hotlist" button on him. Oh well... at least I am thick skinned and could take it with some humor. But a small part of me is still in shock that people can be so stupid that you can't hotlist HIV+ guys. Its not like this is a dating service or Manhunt.
There is still tremendous stigma around being HIV+, even though there are other, less treatable sexually transmitted diseases "on the market".
Also, "serosorting" has become an approach to "filtering" the dating pool of "undesirable" partners. The practice is not only ineffective, it also gives people a false sense of risk reduction. People lie, people are ignorant, people are in denial, and some people are outright angry and want to spread their disease to as many people as they can our of resentment, revenge and self-hatred.
I am HIV+, and this month I am observing 26 years of surviving and thriving.
I shatter stereotypes. And, for me, the HIV disclosure is a "filter" that I use on my dating pool. Those guys who can't handle it aren't worthy of my time nor attention.