GIVING YOUR CLOTHES TO YOUR BF: Hand me downs?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 07, 2010 5:21 PM GMT
    So I'm going through my closet, sorting through the ridiculous amount of polo shirts I have and decided to give some of my old "Hilfiger" and "Nautica" polos to my bf. They tend to fit looser than my Ralph Lauren polo shirts (and the custom fit ones, which I like as well). One of the Hilfiger shirts has some special meaning for us as I bought it prior to our trip to Las Vegas (a trip based on business submitted through work). Most have been hanging in my closet for more than 5 years.

    When I mentioned what I was doing to a friend of mine, he said, "You are giving Will your hand me downs"? I thought it was a stupid comment.
    Most of the shirts I gave him have been worn very little (and some are basically brand new.. and haven't been laundered). He will wear them immediately where here they will hang back of the closet along with the other dozens (um, make that a couple hundred) other polos.

    He has given me several shirts, primarily work out shirts in the past. He's 6'3", but there can be some cross over.

    So would you ever give clothes to your bf (if he was close to the same size as you)?
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    Aug 07, 2010 5:42 PM GMT
    Absolutely! I think it is a sound and great idea. Especially in your case - you have great taste in clothes. I imagine your bf is very happy to receive them and it's his opinion that counts.
  • Import

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    Aug 07, 2010 9:17 PM GMT
    hell yeah, id love if my bf gave me some clothes.

    I mean I wouldnt want him to give me shirts that are no longer wearable, but if its a decent shirt and I would wear it then definitely, gimme that!!!
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    Aug 07, 2010 10:39 PM GMT
    I would definitely like that--I don't see a problem with it.
  • rnch

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    Aug 07, 2010 11:05 PM GMT
    i WISH i could fit into my bf's "hand me downs". icon_sad.gif
  • KepaArg

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    Aug 07, 2010 11:25 PM GMT
    totally! I do that with friends similar in size as my bf is much taller and bigger then myself
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    Aug 08, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    Whenever I sort through my clothes to give something to Goodwill, my boyfriend gets first dibs. He loves getting my polos and shirts and wears them quite often. He hates shopping for himself with a passion and so I often buy new stuff for him as well.
  • Regina_Guy

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    Aug 08, 2010 12:13 AM GMT
    Isn't that one of the benefits of being gay? We share clothes and shoes all the time. It's brilliant!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 08, 2010 12:36 AM GMT
    My bf actually asks me for some of my clothes, he says it makes him feel closer to me. But I always pick on him and say "yea, you need more clothes" This is funny due to the fact that he has 3 full size closets and 2 dressers full of just his clothes.

    but the sentiment is nice, hell if your bf doesn't want them, Id be more than glad to take them off your hands, haha!!
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    Aug 08, 2010 1:28 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan said
    So would you ever give clothes to your bf (if he was close to the same size as you)?


    'Give' is one way of putting it - what usually happens is he starts borrowing them more and more until they are effectively his icon_biggrin.gif

    I don't mind though if it's something I don't really wear anymore, I only object if he wears something of mine that I want! I rarely borrow his stuff, maybe socks!
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    Aug 08, 2010 1:36 PM GMT
    Half the shit I wear is hand-me-downs.
    The other half is Underarmour. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 08, 2010 1:37 PM GMT
    My bf is 5'6 and can fit into kid clothes...But on occasion he buys things that actually fit me and are too big on him, and I get those icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 08, 2010 1:42 PM GMT
    Yes, there is absolutely nothing wrong with hand me downs. If I had a man who gave me his practically brand new things I would be more than grateful.

    I'd tell your friend to stop sticking their noise so far in the air and get back down to reality, we are still in a recession. ;)
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    Aug 08, 2010 3:20 PM GMT
    I think it's great- a combination of recycling, bonding and redeeming your closet space.
    I see too much wasted in the City as if no one cares, takes responsibility, or has a deep understanding of what wasteful means. It's great that, for example, both you and your BF can share things like clothes. A win-win situation, with you redeeming closet space which was otherwise inaccessible for years. Seeing each other in those shirts also sounds like a bonding experience. Very socially and ecologically oriented. Well done!
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    Aug 08, 2010 5:10 PM GMT
    ...until we can exchange rings...lets exchange clothes! LOL!


    Hell YES...its fine! Why would you not want to share stuff with your closest friend. partner, lover.. especially if they were interested in it? icon_cool.gif
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    Aug 08, 2010 5:59 PM GMT
    southbeach1500 saidWe are both the same size, so the clothes in our closets and drawers are "community property" in our house! icon_biggrin.gif


    AH HA! So you ARE gay!!! Whew, for a while there a nasty rumor was circulating that you were straight!

    That said, over the years as I have "de-stuffed" my life, I have given away most of my material possessions to family, friends, and lovers. Clothes have been some of the things that I have given to friends, and when they get them, they are usually quite happy because what I'm giving them is high quality and "lightly worn".

    My ex-lovers have been the recipients of extra booty as well. Usually upon "break up" I have generously provided "parting gifts" to include, first and last month's rent and security, kitchen ware, clothes, a bed, a sofa and other furnishings, cash, and other things to "get them started".

    Today, I have a small library, a small wardrobe, my briefcase/computer/office, and some All Clad cookware. That's it. I can live very simply and can travel very light. It's a very free feeling.

    Less is more...more or less.