The Hard To Get Game

  • NyRuinz

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    Aug 08, 2010 2:14 AM GMT
    Have any of you ever been a victim or played the "Hard To Get Game" and it backfired. I recently met a guy who seemed very interested in me, and we exchanged numbers. He told me to call him so we could have dinner, I called him twice to set it up and no response whatsoever. I never contacted him again, and a month has since passed and he his now blowing up my phone like a bill collecter, with no explanation as to why, he did not return my voicemails. Every time he calls I hit ignore, he was not courteous enough to return my call, we have nothing to discuss. I feel games like that are for the immature and insecure
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    Aug 08, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    maybe he was out of the country so he couldn't pick up the phone. i would have at least picked up the phone and listen to his explanation/excuse and try to decide later.
  • NyRuinz

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    Aug 08, 2010 2:43 AM GMT
    frenchatheart saidmaybe he was out of the country so he couldn't pick up the phone. i would have at least picked up the phone and listen to his explanation/excuse and try to decide later.


    French thanks or playing Devils advocate lol, but my friends go to his gym and saw him on a daily basis. When I listened to the first voicemail his exact words were "Call me, let's hang out". I have not heard from this guy in a month, it's apparent he's playing games.
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    Aug 08, 2010 5:43 PM GMT
    Awwww.....Gio.....

    Cut him a break....maybe he was skeered.....

    Show him how it's done, rather than playing the "game" yourself...
  • DCEric

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    Aug 08, 2010 6:02 PM GMT
    Call back once, if you like what you hear, go for it, otherwise move on. Call back just to make sure that there wasn't a good reason.
  • NyRuinz

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    Aug 08, 2010 9:24 PM GMT
    turbobilly saidAwwww.....Gio.....

    Cut him a break....maybe he was skeered.....

    Show him how it's done, rather than playing the "game" yourself...



    Awww Billy (Hugs). You may be right, next time he calls I will pick up and hear him out, but if I smell a mind game he's done.
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    Aug 08, 2010 10:03 PM GMT
    He was probably otherwise occupied. Now he is not. It is normal and it happens.

    It is not all about you, Princess. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • Moishendlishu...

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    Aug 08, 2010 10:09 PM GMT
    I give flakes 2 chances. Flake on me once and don't respond...I'll hear you out and an apology. Second time though, you are too busy or not interested enough for me to waste my time. Simple as that
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    Aug 08, 2010 10:18 PM GMT
    I never check voicemail unless I'm expecting an important business call.
    Sounds like your ego cost you a potential date. icon_wink.gif
  • NyRuinz

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    Aug 08, 2010 10:45 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI never check voicemail unless I'm expecting an important business call.
    Sounds like your ego cost you a potential date. icon_wink.gif


    First off Paul, to you and the other worthless poster who tried to imply I have an ego, it's not about ego it's about courtesy. Unlike you I have standards and will not tolerate inconsiderate behavior. It does not take much time out of anyone's day to send a courtesy text or e-mail for that matter. My so called ego may have cost me a date, but I'm not worried there will be other's. You Queens kill me with the sarcasm icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 08, 2010 11:00 PM GMT
    NyRuinz said
    paulflexes saidI never check voicemail unless I'm expecting an important business call.
    Sounds like your ego cost you a potential date. icon_wink.gif


    First off Paul, to you and the other worthless poster who tried to imply I have an ego, it's not about ego it's about courtesy. Unlike you I have standards and will not tolerate inconsiderate behavior. It does not take much time out of anyone's day to send a courtesy text or e-mail for that matter. My so called ego may have cost me a date, but I'm not worried there will be other's. You Queens kill me with the sarcasm icon_rolleyes.gif
    So why didn't you have the courtesy to send a text or email?
    Voicemail is outdated, inconvenient, and there's no way of knowing if it even went through properly. If you're in an area that may have inconsistent service the voice message will be choppy and impossible to understand.
    I never leave voicemails for that very reason...it fucking sucks.
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    Aug 08, 2010 11:02 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    NyRuinz said
    paulflexes saidI never check voicemail unless I'm expecting an important business call.
    Sounds like your ego cost you a potential date. icon_wink.gif


    First off Paul, to you and the other worthless poster who tried to imply I have an ego, it's not about ego it's about courtesy. Unlike you I have standards and will not tolerate inconsiderate behavior. It does not take much time out of anyone's day to send a courtesy text or e-mail for that matter. My so called ego may have cost me a date, but I'm not worried there will be other's. You Queens kill me with the sarcasm icon_rolleyes.gif
    So why didn't you have the courtesy to send a text or email?
    Voicemail is outdated, inconvenient, and there's no way of knowing if it even went through properly. If you're in an area that may have inconsistent service the voice message will be choppy and impossible to understand.
    I never leave voicemails for that very reason...it fucking sucks.


    Here in the hinterland of Canada Ive received voicemails days after them being left, texting or email is the way to go, there is a reason we all have smartphones now.
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    Aug 08, 2010 11:05 PM GMT
    RST2009 saidHere in the hinterland of Canada Ive received voicemails days after them being left, texting or email is the way to go, there is a reason we all have smartphones now.
    That's another good point.
    I've been standing next to people who had previously left me a voicemail when it came through...days later. It even happened once with the boss...he'd left me a message, and had me in his office chewing me out for not responding when it came through. We both had a good laugh, and now he texts me with important messages.