I need serious help!

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    Aug 10, 2010 10:55 PM GMT
    Ok, so here's the thing. I'm going to college for the first time and there's this kid I really really like. he's either gay or bi, all I know is he's into guys. He's a track star. We don't have the same majors so I kind of signed up for track to have some way for him to notice me since we wont be in the same classes. I have never done track or any other competitive sport in my life. I also tend to be shy. I have self confidence but I feel like he's looking for someone more hotter/interesting then me. Never talked to him before and Im so nervous I don't know how to approach him or even what to talk about. I'm one of those guys that won't make the first move. I'm hoping that by getting him to notice me first he will make the first move, but I'm not sure if its a good idea. what would you do in this situation?
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    Aug 11, 2010 12:05 AM GMT
    College is all about expanding horizons and building oneself into the person we want to be. With that said I think you should do the track thing, but change your mindset and do it to improve yourself and broaden your horizons. As for "getting the guy to notice you", I call this the "it girl fantasy". We all have it about all sorts of things, a love interest, a job, etc. The fantasy that someone will see us and say "hey your the one I've been looking for." It's fun to dream, but the reality is that in order to get the things we want in life, it takes risk and putting yourself out there. This answer is probably not what you wanted to hear, but I can tell you from personal experience that when I've forced myself into what I thought I wasn't good at or didn't know how to do (ie asking a guy out), I've learned more about myself than I ever would have waiting for what I want to come to me! So my advice is get out of your comfort zone and take some chances. Win or lose you'll ultimately win because you'll learn some amazing things about yourself. Keep in mind college is one of the few times in life you have an enormous amount of freedom and opportunity to discover who you truly are! Good luck man, and remember to love life!
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    Aug 11, 2010 12:10 AM GMT
    Just start up a conversation, it's that simple. btw- You signed up for track just to get this guy you have never talked to before to notice you? That seems kind of extreme. All that beauty can quickly melt away once he open his mouth and words come out.
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    Aug 11, 2010 2:27 AM GMT
    Make the move. You're going to have to learn the skill at some point, and you already know that he likes guys, so your odds already increase. Go for it.
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    Aug 11, 2010 2:31 AM GMT
    Bend over in front of him to tie your shoes. lol
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    Aug 11, 2010 2:32 AM GMT
    heartrobb saidYou signed up for track just to get this guy you have never talked to before to notice you? That seems kind of extreme.


    Totally agree with this. Plus, if you've never spoken to him before, how do you know what he is after? You're going to have to break out of your shell and actually talk to this guy. You now have something in common with him, so go up and say hi. Start to build up that confidence icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 11, 2010 2:36 AM GMT
    You could take the Survey approach:

    1) On a piece of paper write,

    "Circle YES or NO

    Do you wanna fuck?

    YES NO"


    2) Hand it to him



    It works all the time for my friend.
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    Aug 11, 2010 2:46 AM GMT
    If I've learned anything in my time here on earth, here are two of the most relevant for your situation:

    1) Most of us tend to underestimate how attractive we are, especially when we're younger (and 18 is younger). It amazes me how many very good looking young people will tell you earnestly they don't think they're attractive.

    2) You never, never know what kind of person someone else is attracted to, so don't assume it's not you. You may be exactly his type. He may be nervous to talk to you because he thinks you're so attractive.

    Try to put aside the fact that you're wildly attracted to him and just start up conversation. Get to know him. Chat a bit. You can gauge how interested he is after that.
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    Aug 11, 2010 3:02 AM GMT
    RudeMech saidCollege is all about expanding horizons and building oneself into the person we want to be. With that said I think you should do the track thing, but change your mindset and do it to improve yourself and broaden your horizons. As for "getting the guy to notice you", I call this the "it girl fantasy". We all have it about all sorts of things, a love interest, a job, etc. The fantasy that someone will see us and say "hey your the one I've been looking for." It's fun to dream, but the reality is that in order to get the things we want in life, it takes risk and putting yourself out there. This answer is probably not what you wanted to hear, but I can tell you from personal experience that when I've forced myself into what I thought I wasn't good at or didn't know how to do (ie asking a guy out), I've learned more about myself than I ever would have waiting for what I want to come to me! So my advice is get out of your comfort zone and take some chances. Win or lose you'll ultimately win because you'll learn some amazing things about yourself. Keep in mind college is one of the few times in life you have an enormous amount of freedom and opportunity to discover who you truly are! Good luck man, and remember to love life!


    thanks! you are wise. I am doing track for other reasons as well, mainly to try new things and become healthier, although he is the primary reason lol
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    Aug 11, 2010 3:05 AM GMT
    heartrobb saidJust start up a conversation, it's that simple. btw- You signed up for track just to get this guy you have never talked to before to notice you? That seems kind of extreme. All that beauty can quickly melt away once he open his mouth and words come out.


    No I know his personality well. He's my friend on fb (he added me) and I met him at orientation but had the time to get to know him in a group session. I never talked to him personally. And I always wanted to do track but never had the time, so there's more to it then just a guy. thanx! =)
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    Aug 11, 2010 3:27 AM GMT
    hauptstimme saidYou could take the Survey approach:

    1) On a piece of paper write,

    "Circle YES or NO

    Do you wanna fuck?

    YES NO"


    2) Hand it to him



    It works all the time for my friend.


    O mna, I JUST saw that one in the movie the sorcerers apprentice, but its with "friend or gf" in there
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    Aug 11, 2010 3:28 AM GMT
    We don't know the quality or depth or subject matter of conversations you've had with the guy on FB or phone or in person, so it's hard to think of precise advice, other than continue to be friends, get deeper, and eventually you'll find out his romantic interests when it comes to men and women.

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    Aug 11, 2010 3:33 AM GMT
    conscienti1984 saidBend over in front of him to tie your shoes. lol


    lol! The bend and snap! Classic!
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    Aug 11, 2010 3:55 AM GMT
    You could either learn to be brave enough to talk to a guy or you can go home alone many nights from the bars. It is a tough skill to acquire and everyone hates doing it, but you have to. Bars are full of people who see someone across the room and hope to god they will walk up and talk to them.
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    Nov 25, 2010 6:33 AM GMT
    medkid2014 saidI need serious help!
    After posting this thread: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1250301 Yes, you do need help.
  • helios01

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    Nov 26, 2010 2:45 AM GMT
    omg this reminds me of the time i joined the chess team bcuz i really wanted the chess team captain to notice me....... sigh.... old times.... but i locked myself out of my room and got to see him in his briefs at the hotel we stated during state finals... never told him how i felt tho.... i say u not give up the chance and tell him he is purty... or start with a joke.... like say his shoes are untied and when he looks down be like "SIKE" ... " i was just kidding, Hi my name is _____. I have seen u are really good, mind giving me some pointers?"
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    Nov 26, 2010 2:56 AM GMT
    if u need serious help and serious advice then here it goes...

    This is real life, not a movie like "Never Been Kissed" if you dont make the effort to go and talk to this kid the likelyhood of this crush going anywere is very low
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    Nov 26, 2010 3:15 AM GMT
    waxon saidif u need serious help and serious advice then here it goes...

    This is real life, not a movie like "Never Been Kissed" if you dont make the effort to go and talk to this kid the likelyhood of this crush going anywere is very low


    He said!
  • LJay

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    Nov 26, 2010 3:20 AM GMT
    Yep. Paul's bored. I'll play.

    This started in August and it is now November, nearly December.

    What's happening, OP?
  • mybud

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    Nov 26, 2010 3:34 AM GMT
    So you have no confidence in your self...your shy....wont go up to him first....not even to say hi...hate to say this brother but your fucked.....Listen.... getting to know someone better always starts by talking...bullshitin about nothing....give it a try...that's your in...BUD
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    Nov 26, 2010 3:54 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    medkid2014 saidI need serious help!
    After posting this thread: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1250301 Yes, you do need help.

    What was that thread about?
  • Sk8Tex

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    Nov 26, 2010 4:02 AM GMT
    shh let it die peacefully lol