Aug 11, 2010 9:25 AM GMT
Hmph.
So as some of you guys might know Ive been having a hard time of it with my mum dying, having a breakdown, over work etc.
Ive been in an LTR for four years now. And for the last six months - since break down and being on meds and seeing a counsellor - I just dont know what I feel for him OTHER than purely Platonic best mates/house mate/someone I could live with for ever type thing.
On the other hand, we've not had sex in months - not even mutual masturbation or oral sex, mostly due to me not fancying him. He ticks all the boxes of boy friend other than the sex part.
Now Ive been playing with one of my really close friends - who also has a boyfriend who doesnt like sex - which has been my only outlet for sex.
I spoke to my boyfriend last night about things. He says that what turns him on the most are Jocks masturbating. And giving head. Thats it. he DOESNT like penetrative sex. And certainly doesnt like any of the things I am interested in an enjoy - being fucked, fucking, rimming, being rimmed etc - and certainly wont experiment with mild S&M or cum control/edging.
Ive told him I that I admit Ive been in a wierd head space of late and I am trying to sort it out through counselling etc., but hes not even prepared to give anything I enjoy in the sack. Because he either things they are wrong, silly or make him feel queesy.
We also chatted about me wanting to put some piercings back in and have a tattoo done...and again he was "ermrm no". They look stupid and not attractive and aren't artistic. He's also not keen on me chatting or even posting on here in case I pull a cute jock guy.
I asked him if it was ok to have an exclusive fuck budddy. He said, errm ok but to ask permission first and to tell him but not to expect to have a boyfriend when I got home. He says a relationship without sex is jsut best mates living together and sharing a bed but despite not having had sex for months we are still boyfriends....to behoneset I can see myself living with him in the long term, but as what I do not know.
So do I dump someone I am quite happy with without the sex, cheat or what?
So as some of you guys might know Ive been having a hard time of it with my mum dying, having a breakdown, over work etc.
Ive been in an LTR for four years now. And for the last six months - since break down and being on meds and seeing a counsellor - I just dont know what I feel for him OTHER than purely Platonic best mates/house mate/someone I could live with for ever type thing.
On the other hand, we've not had sex in months - not even mutual masturbation or oral sex, mostly due to me not fancying him. He ticks all the boxes of boy friend other than the sex part.
Now Ive been playing with one of my really close friends - who also has a boyfriend who doesnt like sex - which has been my only outlet for sex.
I spoke to my boyfriend last night about things. He says that what turns him on the most are Jocks masturbating. And giving head. Thats it. he DOESNT like penetrative sex. And certainly doesnt like any of the things I am interested in an enjoy - being fucked, fucking, rimming, being rimmed etc - and certainly wont experiment with mild S&M or cum control/edging.
Ive told him I that I admit Ive been in a wierd head space of late and I am trying to sort it out through counselling etc., but hes not even prepared to give anything I enjoy in the sack. Because he either things they are wrong, silly or make him feel queesy.
We also chatted about me wanting to put some piercings back in and have a tattoo done...and again he was "ermrm no". They look stupid and not attractive and aren't artistic. He's also not keen on me chatting or even posting on here in case I pull a cute jock guy.
I asked him if it was ok to have an exclusive fuck budddy. He said, errm ok but to ask permission first and to tell him but not to expect to have a boyfriend when I got home. He says a relationship without sex is jsut best mates living together and sharing a bed but despite not having had sex for months we are still boyfriends....to behoneset I can see myself living with him in the long term, but as what I do not know.
So do I dump someone I am quite happy with without the sex, cheat or what?
