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    Aug 12, 2010 3:04 AM GMT
    So I realized today that most of my friends from college are married or engaged...I am being unreasonable for feeling left behind?icon_question.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Aug 12, 2010 3:14 AM GMT
    Not in the least.. I have thought that myself when I either attended or participated in some of my fraternity bros and friends weddings....

    What I came to realize however, is that I'm a unique individual and life goes on. While you may retain some of your college friends for years... I have and still do... other interests and life experiences will intervene. Develop a diverse group of friends and live life happily!
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    Aug 12, 2010 3:21 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidNot in the least.. I have thought that myself when I either attended or participated in some of my fraternity bros and friends weddings....

    What I came to realize however, is that I'm a unique individual and life goes on. While you may retain some of your college friends for years... I have and still do... other interests and life experiences will intervene. Develop a diverse group of friends and live life happily!


    I agree 100% dude...I am glad I enjoy a diverse group of friends but I wish I had gay friends...
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    Aug 12, 2010 3:25 AM GMT
    Left behind?icon_eek.gif
    Oh hell no, My high school buddy tells me his wife wont suck his dick anymore now that there married, you have the wherewithall to give them advise about woman... Most guys dont think with the head on their shoulders and allow woman to trick themselves into a fashionable zip code of THEIR choice.....
    School your buddies man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!icon_exclaim.gif
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    Aug 12, 2010 4:40 AM GMT
    jgymnast733 saidLeft behind?icon_eek.gif
    Oh hell no, My high school buddy tells me his wife wont suck his dick anymore now that there married, you have the wherewithall to give them advise about woman... Most guys dont think with the head on their shoulders and allow woman to trick themselves into a fashionable zip code of THEIR choice.....
    School your buddies man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!icon_exclaim.gif



    lol what more is there to say XD
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    Aug 12, 2010 4:59 AM GMT
    I want a nagging wife and screaming kids and a dead end job that barely keeps me in the black yaaaaaaaaaaay!
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    Aug 12, 2010 5:03 AM GMT
    agri_sci said
    HndsmKansan saidNot in the least.. I have thought that myself when I either attended or participated in some of my fraternity bros and friends weddings....

    What I came to realize however, is that I'm a unique individual and life goes on. While you may retain some of your college friends for years... I have and still do... other interests and life experiences will intervene. Develop a diverse group of friends and live life happily!


    I agree 100% dude...I am glad I enjoy a diverse group of friends but I wish I had gay friends...


    i agree ae.all of my mates got into a relationship and u got to leave them alone to their thang but they are cool with me and all, and i felt the same way.i wish i got a gay mate or two to just get on with but i dont. lol, all my mates are straight. damn, its all about pussy ,sport, piss and petrol heads. roar!!! icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 12, 2010 8:59 AM GMT
    agri_sci saidSo I realized today that most of my friends from college are married or engaged...I am being unreasonable for feeling left behind?icon_question.gif


    Uh, are you straight? Is your biological clock ticking?

    NO! Youre queer, you set your own time to get married.
    When we DO get to that time...
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    Aug 12, 2010 9:01 AM GMT
    Ciarsolo said

    I want a nagging wife and screaming kids and a dead end job that barely keeps me in the black yaaaaaaaaaaay!


    make it a nagging husband and Im game ;)
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    Aug 12, 2010 9:53 AM GMT
    You're 23, why would you want to be married at such a young age?
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    Aug 12, 2010 10:22 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    agri_sci saidSo I realized today that most of my friends from college are married or engaged...I am being unreasonable for feeling left behind?icon_question.gif


    Uh, are you straight? Is your biological clock ticking?

    NO! Youre queer, you set your own time to get married.
    When we DO get to that time...


    Uhhh... I am ready to settle down. I have sown my wild oats and I am looking for companionship. I also want to settle down BEFORE I get too set in my ways. I am in no hurry but its hard to see everybody pairing off and no prospects in sight. Thats all.
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    Aug 12, 2010 10:23 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidAre they a cocksucker like you?

    Well, there you go then. icon_razz.gif

    Being a fag is a lonely rough life. Be brave. icon_wink.gif


    Understood.
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    Aug 12, 2010 10:23 AM GMT
    Bass_86 saidYou're 23, why would you want to be married at such a young age?


    Not quite young buddy because its quite normal for people to settle in there mid twenties.
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    Aug 12, 2010 10:39 AM GMT
    agri_sci said
    Bass_86 saidYou're 23, why would you want to be married at such a young age?


    Not quite young buddy because its quite normal for people to settle in there mid twenties.


    Why would you want to be tied down for a very long time/ever? in your mid-twenties.
    If I´m ever gonna marry, then I have to be in my mid-thierties.

    Anyway, the only straight people I know who got married in their mid-twenties were either dumb/euphoric and got divorced a year later or there was a baby on its way.

    No offence to anybody, just my humble opinion.
  • creature

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    Aug 12, 2010 10:58 AM GMT
    I feel the same way you do. I wish I could be married and have children right now.
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    Aug 12, 2010 11:22 AM GMT
    agri_sci said
    Bass_86 saidYou're 23, why would you want to be married at such a young age?


    Not quite young buddy because its quite normal for people to settle in there mid twenties.


    hmm not really in Australia. Unless you live in regional Australia, then there is nothing else to do other then get married and breed.
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    Aug 12, 2010 11:29 AM GMT
    You need another 'set' of friends. You live near a college town? Big City? get involved in a gay sports team, etc. It's not uncommon for men to have several circles of friends,...have fun buddy

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    Aug 12, 2010 11:34 AM GMT
    agri_sci saidSo I realized today that most of my friends from college are married or engaged...I am being unreasonable for feeling left behind?icon_question.gif


    Will you marry me?

    I realize that we can set up our relationship based on convenience ( it would be convenient to have you in my bed each morning when I wake up).


    But hey, anything that I can do to help a bro.
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    Aug 12, 2010 1:45 PM GMT
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    agri_sci saidSo I realized today that most of my friends from college are married or engaged...I am being unreasonable for feeling left behind?icon_question.gif


    Will you marry me?

    I realize that we can set up our relationship based on convenience ( it would be convenient to have you in my bed each morning when I wake up).


    But hey, anything that I can do to help a bro.


    LOL// grabbing every chance you got mate in da balls i see. icon_razz.gif
  • solak

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    Aug 12, 2010 4:33 PM GMT
    half of them are probably secretly jealous of you.. they wanna be able to frolic and spread their seed and relive their single glory days..
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    Aug 12, 2010 5:01 PM GMT
    agri_sci saidSo I realized today that most of my friends from college are married or engaged...I am being unreasonable for feeling left behind?icon_question.gif
    Yes, you are. You should be grateful that you don't have that ball and chain in the early stages of your career. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 12, 2010 10:25 PM GMT
    I hope your mother isn't nagging you on when you're going to get married?

    Bigsmiles saidYou need another 'set' of friends. You live near a college town? Big City? get involved in a gay sports team, etc. It's not uncommon for men to have several circles of friends,...have fun buddy


    I agree with this. I'm all for getting married too, just not yet. Move to a big city. You don't want to marry the wrong person or rush into it.

    I know you said in an earlier post you don't want to move because of your job but there are a lot of cities that are green and have agricultural related jobs, Chicago for instance.

    There's people you haven't even met and dated yet, experiences you haven't experienced. So many people, places and things.... Live life.

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    Aug 12, 2010 11:24 PM GMT
    Okay here it goes...

    lamme: Its quite common to marry in mid twenties here in USA especially in the Midwest. Most of them are successful marriages. You must keep in mind that most people here stay in the same state and don't have the drive to go beyond their comfort zone, which I don't agree with. My friends aren't stupid...the shortest dating time before engagement was 3 years. More long term around here.

    Creature: I am not quite ready for marriage but I am ready for a long-term monogamous relationship.

    Bass_86: As stated above, most Midwesterners sow their oats for a shorter time and settle down in life earlier. Its a cultural thing.

    Big_smiles: I do not have a group of friends but many individuals and wider social circles. I have agriculture friends, Hillel friends, Gym friends etc. East Lansing is home to Michigan State so there is a gay scene here but its devoid of anything besides banner wavers.

    Ehanson: I am looking in major cities. I just refuse to live downtown.

    You guys make it sound as its preferable to just go around and have a good time. I did that for 6 years. I am so over it. I don't party or hook up anymore. I am done with it and am ready for my 9-5 and a stable life.
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    Aug 12, 2010 11:42 PM GMT
    Should you feel left out or behind? I really don't think you should. I mean stats speaking we have a smaller dating pool then our hetero brothers. Smaller dating pool would lead to a less sucessful chance of finding a long term partner. Relationships are tough and they take work between two individuals. The chance that a couple will stay married is now 50/50 (a coin toss). You might be moving slow but you are probably becoming a smarter dater or boyfriend because of it (learning to solve disputes in a relationship and learning when a guy just isn't for you is what I mean) and I'm pretty sure you'll have your day in the sun. So, chin up and no worries tomorrow could be the day you stumble across Mr. Right!
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    Aug 12, 2010 11:46 PM GMT
    your only 23....