Feb 19, 2008 1:10 AM GMT
davisjoe97 saidHow do you know if a guy is hitting on you, for example at the gym? I mean, how do you tell the difference between being nice and someone making a pass. A definitely straight guys (confirmed straight) has I think hit on me at the gym, but not sure what to take it for, him just being nice, joking, or what? Any advice?
Something about YOU, has caught the attention of this "Confirmed Straight" guy. Just be casually cordial with him, like the "straight" guy that he is. If he has designs on you, then it may become more apparent with time.
Regarding the term "confirmed straight", I'll quote an old gay friend,"Yeah, he's straight.....straight to bed!!".
davisjoe97 saidI dont think that i could that forward to the guy, or to a stranger in general, but all good advice, we'll see how it turns out, Thanks guys
geebus saidI think you should try the basic stare at him and smile technique.
I got my reply...he stopped coming to my gym
You have great advice many times.... but I don't know if I'd do anything other than visit with the guy and do one of my analyses.. to see what I'm reading..
However that might not be accurate. Sometimes you can tell and other times, its just too much.
nwphx1972 saidThis is a difficult topic for me. My "gaydar" is pretty much non-functional. I'm very shy to being with, and I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume that they're straight or "metro" unless explicitly told otherwise.
I had a recent encounter at the gym a few weeks ago. I had gone to use the spa & pool after my workout, and as I was approaching the spa area this really hot early 20yo guy was leaving. He and I exchanged glances, then he took off with his stuff. However a few minutes later, he came back and reentered the spa. We kind of stared at each other for a little while, then a buddy of his came in and they started talking. They were discussing girls, and he mentioned how he wanted to have sex with one but she wouldn't take off her bottom, so I thought "ok, he's straight."
So I went to swim, and hit the showers afterwards. There was no one else in the shower area, and as I was finishing up he wanders in and takes the empty shower stall directly across from me! I was naked, and there are no shower curtains, so I tried not to stare as he removed his swimming trunks. I noticed him looking at me, but just thought of it as jock curiosity. As I finished toweling off and was walking away, I turned my head briefly and saw that he had stuck his head out of the stall and was looking at me.
Anyway, that's all that happened and I'm still not sure what to make of it. I've seen him at the gym since, but there haven't been any other encounters, although I do think I get cruised sometimes. Maybe one of these days something will happen, lol.
metropolitan saidIt's better if you are not shy. Overcome your fears. The worst thing that can happen is getting a NO...or...a black eye which is unlikely nowadays.
Don't miss out on the wonders of life just because society tends to put us in the closet and the dark. It's time to shine and be yourself with confidence and be happy being for whom you are and with what you do.
FYI your hot. He is stupid if he doesn't like you