would you ever move halfway or clear across the globe just to be closer to that special person?

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    Aug 13, 2010 6:22 AM GMT
    ive been thinking about this a lot lately and im going to have to say yes... it may be a risk but its a risk im willing to take for the right person.

    whats everyone else think?
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    Aug 13, 2010 7:47 AM GMT
    I don't think that you can use somebody else's response to help in your decision- just too many variables. It depends on the family, friends and support you have where you are- it also depends on why you believe it is worth it- how long have you known him- what is his (and your) track record. Is there a reason you are being asked to make the sacrifice and move?


    It would seem you have weighed the variables and decided yes it is worth it given the right reasons. I suppose given the right reasons (and they would have to be compelling) I could see myself moving- but it would take a lot- my roots are pretty deep where I am.
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    Aug 13, 2010 11:15 AM GMT
    It's a ways off yet, but I might be relocating to New York next August with the boyfriend so he can go to school.

    All depends on if I feel I can find a worthwhile job, and if I want to deal with that large of a change (251,624 to 8,400,000 people...). I already know the guy is worth it.
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    Aug 13, 2010 11:33 AM GMT
    Personally I'd suggest a vacation to meet the "special person" first, but that's just me.
    Moving to a different country - especially just for someone you only know from online - is a very risky move.
    But then again, life without risks is fucking boring. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 13, 2010 2:01 PM GMT
    Not as extreme as your situation, I moved over 800 miles to another country to be with someone special, but only under certain conditions:

    * We visited each other on our own turf for months prior to making the move

    * I could see myself spending many years with him

    * If things did not work out, I would love the place I was moving to, regardless of the relationship status.

    * I had a good job lined up for my arrival that contributed to my career objectives (a big savings account would have sufficed as well). Even if you do have savings, make sure that jobs are plentiful enough for your talents and language skills.

    * Immigration is affordable and surmountable. I struggled for years with this issue and spent many thousand$.

    In the end, that relationship did not last. But I was blessed with having discovered an awesome place to settle, make friends and have a career. Will have dual citizenship in about a year.

    Regarding you. You may approach things much more differently than I would. You are also 19 years younger than I was when I made this kind of move, so you have a lot more time to make mistakes and be a little more reckless, if you choose. Hope it all works out well for you.
  • Hunter9

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    Aug 13, 2010 2:18 PM GMT
    there are a lot of things to consider, but of course given the right conditions i would have to seriously consider it
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    Aug 13, 2010 3:47 PM GMT
    I'm moving to a different country for school not for a guy. I'm just curious as to what everyone thinks on the idea. =]
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    Aug 13, 2010 3:48 PM GMT
    After 2 months together in Germany and 1.5 years of long distance relationship, he moved to Chicago to be with me and, when his visa ran out, I moved to Germany to be with him. There's always a price to pay. I left behind wonderful friends, a well-paying job and a kick-ass rental apartment. I got my future husband and the chance to live in Europe for the last 12 years, to go back to school, to start a new career path. It's paid off many times over.
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    Aug 13, 2010 3:55 PM GMT
    I moved to a different country to be with the guy I loved. I used the nearby university as my excuse to family and friends. He ended the relationship a month after I moved there. I was distraught and alone in a foreign place, BUT, at that school I discovered my passion for architecture, friends who are more like family, and a clear direction for my life. Did it suck? Hell yes. Was it worth it? DAMN STRAIGHT. I'm returning for my third year in two weeks icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 13, 2010 4:05 PM GMT
    yes i would! as a matter of fact, i was going to but hi broke up with me...
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    Aug 13, 2010 8:27 PM GMT
    I have done and have no regrets whatsoever. Met in London, were together six months, spent about a year apart, then I got made redundant - blessing from above cos I had the cash to then go and spend two years in Venezuela with him. We've been back in London together for over six years now.

    Depends entirely upon your personal circumstances, as others have said, but a good question to ask yourself might be, would I consider doing this alone as an adventure of sorts?

    With or without my other half, with or without the happy/ongoing "ending", Venezuela was a f*cking fantastic experience that I'd do a hundred times over. Shame it's so f*cked up right now. Loved it, absolutely loved it and made some life long friends from all over the world. OK, so they were all native English speakers, for the most part, but that does tend to happen.
  • Twenty_Someth...

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    Aug 13, 2010 8:50 PM GMT
    I would move half way around the globe just to do it anyways, so yes!!!!
  • KepaArg

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    Aug 13, 2010 8:54 PM GMT
    I wouldn't necessarily do it for a guy, unless I have met him and I knew what we had was something solid and not fleeting.

    I am moving half way across the world myself, but for a job. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 15, 2010 1:38 PM GMT
    Probably not, it'll most likely be the other way around...
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  • Iakona

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    Aug 16, 2010 5:31 PM GMT
    My Husband moved from France to be with me in Canada, where we got married and are still living here. I would have moved to France but marriage is not legal there yet.
    It can work out if both of you want it bad enough.
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    Aug 16, 2010 10:57 PM GMT
    yes i would
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    Aug 16, 2010 11:54 PM GMT
    not without a solid marriage in place already. and even then, probably not.
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    Aug 17, 2010 12:03 AM GMT
    if i was in love and there were some other ifs involved...then, yeah, i'd move for that special person
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    Aug 17, 2010 12:08 AM GMT
    for me, it's a nice fantasy. but with all of the economic uncertainty in the world, i'll stick with a sure thing, which is maintaining the life i've got now. there are enough guys in SoCal to keep me entertained.
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    Sep 05, 2010 8:20 AM GMT
    Nivek saidNot as extreme as your situation, I moved over 800 miles to another country to be with someone special, but only under certain conditions:

    * We visited each other on our own turf for months prior to making the move

    * I could see myself spending many years with him

    * If things did not work out, I would love the place I was moving to, regardless of the relationship status.

    * I had a good job lined up for my arrival that contributed to my career objectives (a big savings account would have sufficed as well). Even if you do have savings, make sure that jobs are plentiful enough for your talents and language skills.

    * Immigration is affordable and surmountable. I struggled for years with this issue and spent many thousand$.

    In the end, that relationship did not last. But I was blessed with having discovered an awesome place to settle, make friends and have a career. Will have dual citizenship in about a year.

    Regarding you. You may approach things much more differently than I would. You are also 19 years younger than I was when I made this kind of move, so you have a lot more time to make mistakes and be a little more reckless, if you choose. Hope it all works out well for you.


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    Sep 05, 2010 8:52 AM GMT
    LOL, I almost did that once, when the guy left and I never heard from him again

    It was gonna be to a country I really DO NOT wanna live in to boot, can you imagine what I would have done for this guy,

    So now, unless were married no way
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    Sep 05, 2010 9:01 AM GMT
    Would he pay the travel expenses? icon_eek.gif
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    Sep 05, 2010 9:02 AM GMT
    That said I lve in a paradise island, Ive been all round the globe, and I KNOW I wont be happier most anywhere else

    If its for school, so cal, Ive moved for schools and jobs time after time, that was fun, I would do it over in a heart beat!!! But to settle down? Seriously only if married and all that
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    Sep 05, 2010 9:26 AM GMT
    here in la most smart gays says
    you do not relocate for a boy or a job

    may be the question is moving with a special one, then yes, but for a special one still no

    if you have already a special one and you moving with him.(yes yes yes )
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    Sep 05, 2010 9:29 AM GMT
    D_ONEMEX saidhere in la most smart gays says
    you do not relocate for a boy or a job

    may be the question is moving with a special one, then yes, but for a special one still no

    if you have already a special one and you moving with him.(yes yes yes )
    ]]I disagree I relocated for several jobs and got the best experiences that way