Personal Trainer Behavior

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    Aug 13, 2010 3:19 PM GMT
    Need some advice... I went to meet for the first time with my personal trainer named Jason, Nice guy, funny we talked alot, he talked alot.... was cracking me up, however he made several comments, one was yeah man I won't hurt ya, but I'm gonna work you hard, after this go home Take a shower, jack off, watch some TV. and your good to go. Then another comment that was made was during our paperwork, I stated that I wanted the whole package, consisting of it all full body, he goes oh you want me to work your package? we can do that too, laughing.. he says JK...

    But he wanted to know all about me, however he was wearing a wedding ring, has a wife and two kids. I really didn't think anything of this until I was talking to another PT whom said that's not professional, as well as he's trying to start something with you as far a hitting on you?

    Does this sound right? is this professional? I didn't think of it as anything, however others I have talked to about it think it's not okay? We did bond as far as personalities, and he is Hot, but not interested in him though.
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    Aug 13, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    If there's camera and lighting equipment setup, and adult performer's paperwork signed, and that dialogue was part of the original shoot plans, then yes, it's professional.
    Otherwise no, it's not professional.
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    Aug 13, 2010 3:50 PM GMT
    If you're paying him as a trainer just make sure that he spends that time training you, and not blabbing and wasting your time. You might need to steer him back on course if he's not initially serious about your training and progress.
    Sometimes people have the gift of knowing how to befriend and talk with anyone. Though that's great it's up to you to make sure it's kept a professional training relationship. If the concentration isn't there, a change of trainers might be in order.
  • drypin

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    Aug 13, 2010 3:50 PM GMT
    Good answer paulflexes. I'd be wary of this PT.
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    Aug 13, 2010 4:31 PM GMT
    Thanks Gentlemen on the responses so far keep em commin lol, at first I wandered if I was at a adult shoot or something(Thanks Paul). He seemed to know his stuff, but I'm gonna have to keep him from talking so much and get down to business. Oh I better not say let's get down to business no tellin what answer I might get... icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 13, 2010 4:52 PM GMT
    Change trainers. Your gym has several to choose from,(all LAFitness' do).

    You do not want a chatty trainer, even if he is entertaining.

    As far as him hitting on you, even though he's married: You are handsome and he may well be attracted. But I have to tell you that more likely he is a professional flirt.

    LAFitness hires trainers for their ability to sell training programs, not for their ability to get results for their clients. Fortunately, most trainers also have the dignity to behave professionally and to truly work toward your goals.

    I don't think your current trainer(or hot salesman) is a keeper. Ask to try another.
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    Aug 18, 2010 10:29 AM GMT
    BuddyinNYC said
    Sometimes people have the gift of knowing how to befriend and talk with anyone. Though that's great it's up to you to make sure it's kept a professional training relationship. If the concentration isn't there, a change of trainers might be in order.


    This is true. However, on a first meeting this chap sounds completely unprofessional in his conduct. Those types of statements may be made in jest after you've gotten to know someone, but not on the first meeting. I go to the gym for a workout, not sexual inuendo.
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    Aug 18, 2010 1:55 PM GMT
    GLBeck said
    BuddyinNYC said
    Sometimes people have the gift of knowing how to befriend and talk with anyone. Though that's great it's up to you to make sure it's kept a professional training relationship. If the concentration isn't there, a change of trainers might be in order.


    This is true. However, on a first meeting this chap sounds completely unprofessional in his conduct. Those types of statements may be made in jest after you've gotten to know someone, but not on the first meeting. I go to the gym for a workout, not sexual inuendo.


    100% agreement.
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    Aug 18, 2010 2:01 PM GMT
    Fire his ass.
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    Aug 18, 2010 2:06 PM GMT
    Not sure why you are concerned about his behavior. He's obviously just trying to keep things entertaining. As long as he's doing his job as a trainer, who cares what comes out of his mouth.
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    Aug 18, 2010 2:23 PM GMT
    catfish5 saidNot sure why you are concerned about his behavior. He's obviously just trying to keep things entertaining. As long as he's doing his job as a trainer, who cares what comes out of his mouth.


    Entertaining is great and desirable, but he is crossing over the fine line.
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    Aug 18, 2010 2:24 PM GMT
    Yeah, I'd look for another professional trainer. The guy sounds like a scuzzbag.
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    Aug 20, 2010 3:16 AM GMT
    Thanks guys for the advice, I met with him tonight for the last time. He chatted less, after I was like dude come on.., but even after that he still made comments, he's confused is the impression I got, and I listened, he has be married for 5 years, says he's bored and wants to try new things, showed me pics of his kids, during breaks, and even showed me pics of him oit of the shower and in boxers..(which another guy who he was talking with said man let me see, and all I said was cool man, Hell he was HOT and I was like icon_twisted.gif, which I think he was testing me for my response but i didn't make a big deal. He is training for some Mud marathon and invited me to come out. But I totally agree I never thought he was professional at all, and it was obivious he was trying be a flirt.

    I did tell him when he said he wants to try new "Things" Go For It, you will never know till you try. He asked me if I was on Facebook and I said yep, and left it at that...

    But i'm done with his sessions and my buddy is going to train me now. however I'm sure I will run into him at the gym.
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    Aug 20, 2010 5:44 AM GMT
    hmm well after a couple of months with my trainer it was absolutely anything and everything on the table to discuss and we talked a lot during our sessions together, we really had no boundaries to be honest, the amount of times he touched my arse when he thought I wasn't loading enough for a squat he'd pat my arse and say "I want hard" hahaha well okay he only did it a few times hahaha but it really was an absolute no boundaries really.

    But it depends on the trainer and the dynamics and it took a while for us to get there too by the end he'd become a mate rather then just my trainer and I actually got an amazing workout with him.

    it all depends, do you like him? did you get a good workout? what do you feel is best?
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    Aug 20, 2010 5:48 AM GMT
    My personal trainer (when I had one waaaaay back when) used to talk about his life and ask me about mine, but this seems hard to call. if he's flirting, you may want to look for another one. some guys just love to talk and will interact as best they can to keep you as a client. it's up to you.
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    Aug 20, 2010 6:37 AM GMT
    You hire a professional trainer to focus on YOU, not him. He's mixing his personal life into his professional approach and that's not, well, "professional".

    Find a trainer who is focused on creating and delivering a value experience for you.

    And, why do you need his drama in your life?
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    Aug 20, 2010 6:49 AM GMT
    Maybe this trainer doesn't know how to relate to gay people and he thinks he's doing this? Yea...unprofessional. If you were a female and he did that it's called sexual harassment if unwanted.

    It's going to be awkward if you see him again in the gym though after you 'fire' him.
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    Aug 20, 2010 6:57 AM GMT
    Hmm, careful 'cuz maybe hes flirting to make more $$$ like a Hooters girl. icon_wink.gif

    But if he's still flirty after your sessions are done with him, then I guess he wants to tap that. icon_twisted.gif

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    Aug 20, 2010 8:58 AM GMT
    bboi saidHmm, careful 'cuz maybe hes flirting to make more $$$ like a Hooters girl. icon_wink.gif

    But if he's still flirty after your sessions are done with him, then I guess he wants to tap that. icon_twisted.gif

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    Agreed he probably knows you're gay and figures he will keep u as a client longer.
    Get a different PT.
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    Aug 20, 2010 4:36 PM GMT
    My old trainer used to say the same things. And I had the same questions. Maybe its just he knows you are a gay man and you want to get in shape for several reasons - one of which is to be a sexy motha fucka so you can get laid!!! And he's a trainer not an intern. Hit it!
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    Aug 20, 2010 4:42 PM GMT
    DFWgu said[I]s this professional?


    Most definitely not professional. The gym would fire him immediately if they heard about this. That could easily turn into a lawsuit. Personal trainers have to learn torts and accountability along with physiology and kinesiology.

    He most certainly should not have said things like that even in jest.

    Addendum:

    As a matter of fact, the last chapter in the ACSM text book (Ch. 22) deals with legal issues including sexual harassment.
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    Aug 20, 2010 4:56 PM GMT
    I workout at LA fitness too and I am certain none of the trainers would have such a conversation - I tend to be shy so I am sure I wouldn't know wtf to say back and probably stumble over my words.

    It is probably best you moved on in terms of a personal trainer - but it sounds like he wanted to reciprocal training realtionship - he trains you at the gym and you train him on man-to-man action icon_smile.gif

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    Aug 20, 2010 4:59 PM GMT
    viveutvivas said
    Ganymede80 said
    As a matter of fact, the last chapter in the ACSM text book (Ch. 22) deals with legal issues including sexual harassment.


    If he was my trainer and he was HOT, it would definitely not count as harassment. icon_cool.gif

    In any case, a trainer is not your boss, so it is hard to see how this would count.

    Americans are all gaga crazy about harassment. Everybody has to be a bloody victim of something, so they can be the center of attention and have their fucking Oprah moment. Grow up people, and develop a sense of humor! icon_rolleyes.gif


    While I understand the fetish aspect to it, in a "real life" situation the trainer works for the gym. If that gym were to get sued, they would be liable. Do you think in that case the personal trainer's behavior is considerate of all the other employees of that gym and its owner(s)?

    I strongly doubt the owner(s) and management would be as flippant about this guy's behavior.

    Yeah... I get it. You fwap to the idea, but not everyone will be so easy going about a service industry person talking to them like that.

    What if the trainer were making these sort of lewd comments towards a female customer?
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    Aug 20, 2010 5:20 PM GMT
    viveutvivas saidI am not even sure if you are making legal sense, since a trainer is not your superior or colleague.


    ACSM: "Sexual harassment claims represent the third area of potential exposure to liability that is seeing growth in the number of claims against Personal Trainers according to insurance providers."

    It doesn't have to be a colleague to count as sexual harassment. I think you misunderstand the terminology.

    But thanks and come again! icon_rolleyes.gif

    Addendum:

    ACSM: "Sexual harassment is difficult to prove and often rests on credibility. Personal Trainers, therefore should be vigilant and act professionally at all times."
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    Aug 20, 2010 5:26 PM GMT
    He sounds pretty normal to me. He's obviously just trying to help pass the time by trying to get to know you- small talk- jokes- etc. and also loosen you up. All the trainers I've noticed do this too- mine did. If the jokes make you uncomfortable than just let him know.


    It's just like the gays to turn everything into a hooking-up thing. icon_rolleyes.gif