A question to all the date-able, single, and openly gay Realjocks.....

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    Aug 13, 2010 11:29 PM GMT
    ....who are also blessed to have a great circle of support from their family friends and co-workers BUT still can't seem to find a decent guy to date!?

    Lately it is getting kind of old and depressing as I am realizing the shortage of "good and decent" available gay men out there in the social scene, it is virtually a non-existence!? it is even more depressing and embarrassing when your own circle of straight family members, friends, and co-workers, who so willingly try to match you up that one still can't find a decent gay guy to call your own, much less having to deal with the embarrassment in telling them (my family and friends) how shallow and immature most of these gay men they introduce me to truly are!


    Leandro
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    Aug 13, 2010 11:35 PM GMT
    This is a simple topic... Physical attraction is number one in a gay "relationship". I could go out and bottom up for a huge crowd of them right now but, does that constitute love in the making? No. Would it constitute love in the straight world... I am forced to admit it most likely. God blessed us as human beings that come together and create a child. That will always preside over non-functional unities of the spirit... And YES that spirit is real and much more far advanced than any one of us.
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    Aug 13, 2010 11:46 PM GMT
    Go away and stop trolling the threads with your bitterness and hate towards the gay world. Pray to your god long and hard for a new personality and outlook on life. so are the one's who can't produce due to infertility are considered of less importance?

    FYI: Physically attraction is important initially in gay or straight relations. Really , no point in going on with you as you are jaded, angry human being.

    @Leandro - While I'm not sure of the size of your city, or NJ in general to be honest. Where I am from the most common ways to meet guys are clubs, bars, lounges, friends or friends, the gym, playing sports, or online. Haha, pretty much the same everywhere I would assume, but being from a huge city of 11 million there are groups for every interest and it's fine to casual date until you get a connection.

    I met my current guy at a friends party- we just ended up talking, there was a connection and he invited me to coffee the following day and have been together since.

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    Aug 13, 2010 11:48 PM GMT
    Jerred39 saidThis is a simple topic... Physical attraction is number one in a gay "relationship". I could go out and bottom up for a huge crowd of them right now but, does that constitute love in the making? No. Would it constitute love in the straight world... I am forced to admit it most likely. God blessed us as human beings that come together and create a child. That will always preside over non-functional unities of the spirit... And YES that spirit is real and much more far advanced than any one of us.



    Hi Jerred39! welcome back!! your words and contribution are greatly appreciated and very valuable to me! it is kind of frustrating, sad, and even more so embarrassing when the unlikely people so willingly help you find a date or a match, and than the finding turns out to be a huge disappointment!


    Leandro
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    Aug 14, 2010 12:06 AM GMT
    KepaArg saidGo away and stop trolling the threads with your bitterness and hate towards the gay world. Pray to your god long and hard for a new personality and outlook on life. so are the one's who can't produce due to infertility are considered of less importance?

    FYI: Physically attraction is important initially in gay or straight relations. Really , no point in going on with you as you are jaded, angry human being.

    @Leandro - While I'm not sure of the size of your city, or NJ in general to be honest. Where I am from the most common ways to meet guys are clubs, bars, lounges, friends or friends, the gym, playing sports, or online. Haha, pretty much the same everywhere I would assume, but being from a huge city of 11 million there are groups for every interest and it's fine to casual date until you get a connection.

    I met my current guy at a friends party- we just ended up talking, there was a connection and he invited me to coffee the following day and have been together since.




    Hola che!


    I am glad you found someone you connect with, I am really happy for you! while it is true that here in the NYC Metropolitan area there are dozens of social opportunities to meet single gay men, it is also true that most (not all) gay men out here are interested in anything you own or what they can get out of you, and not so much you as a person; thus it is my reason for calling these men superficial and immature! that said whenever my supportive circle of friends and family introduces me to a possible match I rather pass the opportunity and just do it on my own.


    Leandro
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    Aug 14, 2010 12:21 AM GMT
    ALEZANDAR said
    KepaArg saidGo away and stop trolling the threads with your bitterness and hate towards the gay world. Pray to your god long and hard for a new personality and outlook on life. so are the one's who can't produce due to infertility are considered of less importance?

    FYI: Physically attraction is important initially in gay or straight relations. Really , no point in going on with you as you are jaded, angry human being.

    @Leandro - While I'm not sure of the size of your city, or NJ in general to be honest. Where I am from the most common ways to meet guys are clubs, bars, lounges, friends or friends, the gym, playing sports, or online. Haha, pretty much the same everywhere I would assume, but being from a huge city of 11 million there are groups for every interest and it's fine to casual date until you get a connection.

    I met my current guy at a friends party- we just ended up talking, there was a connection and he invited me to coffee the following day and have been together since.




    Hola che!


    I am glad you found someone you connect with, I am really happy for you! while it is true that here in the NYC Metropolitan area there are dozens of social opportunities to meet single gay men, it is also true that most (not all) gay men out here are interested in anything you own or what they can get out of you, and not so much you as a person; thus it is my reason for calling these men superficial and immature! that said whenever my supportive circle of friends and family introduces me to a possible match I rather pass the opportunity and just do it on my own.


    Leandro


    Jaja che, muy bien!

    Just keep you head high, and best not to actively wanting a guy. The last two guys I have dated, I just met without expectation and no intention of being on the hunt.

    I myself prefer to meet guys on my own and not through recommendations.

    Hablas castellano?

    Saludos y mucha suerte!

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    Aug 14, 2010 6:11 AM GMT
    I've noticed that physical attraction isn't as important as others say when I actually like someone... like my ex. Everything about him made me super happy. icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 14, 2010 9:06 AM GMT
    ALEZANDAR said....who are also blessed to have a great circle of support from their family friends and co-workers BUT still can't seem to find a decent guy to date!?
    Finding a guy to date is no problem.
    Finding the desire to date is my drawback.
    I feel much more comfortable just being friends, and having a little romp every now and then when we're horny. icon_wink.gif