Jentlmn saidI am having a really tough time with this and want to hear from others. Could anyone let me know when is the best time to talk about being pos. 1st date? or when things get serious? I would like perspectives from pos & neg guys. Thanks
You have a moral obligation to provide anyone whom you might have a intimate situation with to provide all the information about your illness up front. It's not your choice to decide whether, or not, they should manage that risk. In a sexual situation is NOT the time to tell someone as our brains don't think clearly in those situations, even if not intoxicated, and so on. EVERYONE has the right to an informed decision BEFORE being with someone who is ill and the carrier of a potentially LETHAL disease.
Anything less than FULL DISCLOSURE prior to any meeting that could lead to intimacy is WRONG, and derelict on your part. Robbing someone else of the opportunity to make an informed decision is nothing short of criminal.
Remember, in 2010, it's VERY HARD for a prudent person to get HIV. It happens to those who are I,I,I,me,me,me, in nature and who fail to take responsibility for their own health.
You need to lead by example and NOT let one more person suffer your own fate. To do otherwise is incredibly selfish.
The way to control the disease is with isolation, and containment, for now. Perhaps at some point in the future, that will be different, but, that's nor the case today.
You wouldn't invite folks over if you had the herpes zoster virus (chicken pox and shingles) and you sure should have that same level of common sense with a virus that has an ultimate outcome of premature death. USE SOME COMMON SENSE, and think with your big head.
Remember, that, unless you got your HIV through a blood transfusion or child birth, it was NEGLECT and brazen risk taking that got you into your current situation. You need to take that lesson forward, and be a leader, instead of an ongoing taker.