Why didn't you disclose your HIV status? What if it was mandatory for a profile?

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    Aug 15, 2010 6:44 AM GMT
    If you are comfortable sharing your opinion in a HIV/AIDS forum, why have some people "not" checked any box in your profile about your HIV status?

    What are your thoughts "if " online profile sites make mandatory disclosure for negative/ positive or not recently tested status?
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    Aug 15, 2010 11:52 AM GMT
    I guess it should be mandatory the day they require you to post a profile pic.
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    Aug 15, 2010 12:07 PM GMT
    sdgman saidI guess it should be mandatory the day they require you to post a profile pic.


    lolz

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    Aug 15, 2010 12:30 PM GMT
    sdgman saidI guess it should be mandatory the day they require you to post a profile pic.


    I know. He could have advanced leprosy for all we know. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 15, 2010 12:31 PM GMT
    lol what a stupid question
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    Aug 15, 2010 3:02 PM GMT
    sdgman saidI guess it should be mandatory the day they require you to post a profile pic.


    I agree!
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    Aug 15, 2010 10:23 PM GMT
    I believe it should be a personal preference... I check off that I am positive because disclosing that I am positive was one of the first things I learned from the Social Workers and Doctors... Especially them... I would be letting them down if I hid it from the world. They have done so much for me that I feel I owe it to them. On the other hand, I don't appreciate when others just walk away ungrateful that I spared them the dilemma... One of the hardest things to deal with are ungrateful people both infected and not infected. This disease really brings out the evil in some people. It is very sad trying to live your life after being diagnosed... Sex WAS suppose to be a gift of human nature... It's hard to believe that I abused that gift and really living under that pressure is bad enough. My straight friends are completely accepting of it... I am fortunate I guess. They also feel I am denying myself a healthy life by not having relationships with anyone else. Maybe they are right but, it feels so wrong for me still. I haven't been involved in the gay community for many years. I don't BLAME them, I just can't handle rejection. Hell, I can't even handle non-rejection... I REALLY CANNOT HANDLE this disease. I know my Psychiatrist's probably realize this because they question me on it VERY LIGHTLY and I do mean VERY LIGHTLY... I just confirm I am not sexually active anymore and refuse to discuss it any further. I'm starting to realize for my own sake after 11 years it's time to talk openly about it... I deserve to be at some peace after all this disease has done to me... I am sick of being imprisoned by it. I couldn't even cry anymore when I found out I was positive... I mean cry about normal issues in life unrelated to my illness... My emotions really shut down. I think I finally had my first real cry again 2 years ago and it was mostly for letting my family down through all of this.
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    Aug 15, 2010 10:55 PM GMT
    having a opinion on a subject does not make u a expert
    same with the subject on hiv
    it doesn,t make u poz or neg

    could be u have knowledge based on your profession or research

    and make a check box compulsory, how u gonna check that?
  • camofchris

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    Aug 28, 2010 8:50 AM GMT
    I don't tell every random person I come across on the street my medical history. I also don't check it off on any online profiles, and honestly think (in some cases) it further negative stigma/causes further discremination.

    The simple reason I don't check it off: Because my medical history's no one's business unless I'm dating or fucking them. And in both cases, I prefer to talk with the person face-to-face.

    Cam
  • camofchris

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    Aug 28, 2010 8:59 AM GMT
    Oh. . . And I still post in these forums because 1) I'm not likely to meet most the folks on here, and if I did, at least they knew and 2) Unless I specifically state my status, it'd be silly for someone to assume I was just because of contributing to the conversation. :-)

  • d_1M

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    Aug 28, 2010 9:06 AM GMT
    nycjosh said
    sdgman saidI guess it should be mandatory the day they require you to post a profile pic.


    lolz

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    lMAO
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    Aug 28, 2010 3:24 PM GMT

    I think I checked the 'negative' box on that one. Recently it occurred to me that, at the risk of sounding pedantic, there could be some value in profiles etc saying: 'the last time I was tested for HIV I was told I am negative (or positive)". I actually do believe that I'm HIV negative. But saying categorically that I am negative may give me and anyone reading that information a false sense of security. After all, the test could have been wrong. Maybe I had very lated seroconversion, etc. Or I could have picked up something since I was tested. I've had only one partner since I was tested and my bf believes he's negative too, but could his test have been wrong or might he have strayed at some point. (I honestly doubt that, but it's not unheard of.)

    My point is that we would all do well to remember - without becoming paralyzed with paranoia - that, like many things, HIV is a risk you manage, not something you can rule out categorically - unless you abstain completely from sex with others (and never have an injection, dental work, etc, etc).
  • mybud

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    Aug 28, 2010 3:30 PM GMT
    I think your medical status is a private matter...But I do think if your HIV+...you should be upfront about it to a potential partner.....Better to lay it out there than for the guy to find out later and feel like you were hidin something....my opinion....BUD