Maybe fuck buddies aren't so bad?

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    Feb 19, 2008 3:41 PM GMT
    As long as I can remember I have been a hopeless romantic. I'm always up for a good dinner date and midnight stroll. Old fashioned was just my thing.

    Well, I'm 21 now and after being jaded so many times I am just sick of all the bullshit. SO I cut men off for a while and decided to work on me.

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    Although, I have made a lot of improvements in my life, it is ridiculous thinking I could all together cut out men. I mean, seriously, I'm a growing, horny gay guy! But how could I have the time focus on my goals and aspirations but still get the male love/sex and attention I want?

    I discussed this with a friend and their suggestion was a good ol' fuck buddy. I was apprehensive at first..people who did bootycalls just seemed so trashy and slutty. But I went through with it and it was great! I'm thinking about seeing this guy on a regular basis just to have on the lonely nights and to have someone to talk to who has an unbiased opinion on my life.

    Is this terrible that I continue this? Or should I just enjoy it? Any one else ever have this situation?

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  • zakariahzol

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    Feb 19, 2008 4:53 PM GMT
    I use to have a lot of that.I use to have fuck buddies with married man, other people lover, gym buddy and also my normal friend. It not like a one nite stand that you do and get it over with, but a real friend. For us having sex is like having a drink, or lunch together. No emotionally string attach but still a friendship. I use to know(still does) an ex married ex body builder that will come to my house talk about workout and then go to bed for sex with me, and after then talk about work or politic. It funny, but its work. But I always know this is just sex and friendship, so I never entertain any idea that I might be intersted to be romantically involve with them.
  • BlackJock79

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    Feb 20, 2008 4:11 PM GMT
    Enjoy the sex, don't try for more. At least I wouldn't. I tried the whole, "fuck buddy to potential boyfriend" thing before and I found out that the guy I was so crazy over in bed didn't have much in common with me other than we liked the way the other one performed in bed. What a waste of a fuck buddy. He's so fucking HOT too! Too bad he's half way across the US though, and I've moved on anyway.
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    Feb 21, 2008 12:46 AM GMT
    I think that an FB is ok, sometimes, I kind of want more though, but if you can seperate the two and understand that the guy might not want anything more than sex, I think itd be ok. i havent hook up that much though, and really dont know what im talking about
  • GQjock

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    Feb 22, 2008 11:51 AM GMT
    FB's are good for what they are

    but you have to be careful in finding the right kind of guy

    ***he's got to be whatever you consider to be supremely sexy
    ***relatively available whenever each wants to get together
    ***NOT in your immediate circle of friends
    ***and likes everything you like when it comes to whatever your FB's for
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    Feb 25, 2008 9:35 PM GMT
    Fuck buddies are great if you find the right one. Always practice safer sex, don't assume you are his only client! Sometimes feelings will start to develop if that is the case chances are it is time to say adios (unless you both have the same feelings).

    I was such a romantic I was even faithful to my fuck buddies (how pathetic is that). I had a chance to have sex with one of the hottest guys in Toronto back around 1993, but I had a fuck buddy at the time and I thought it might go further. Stupid, stupid, stupid ....icon_redface.gif
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    Feb 29, 2008 8:22 PM GMT
    Fuck buds for good clean fun works out great for me. I kinda think of it as a work out with an extra fun payoff. Really blows off steam and keeps me in a good mood.
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    Mar 01, 2008 9:46 PM GMT
    burninman saidFuck buds for good clean fun works out great for me. I kinda think of it as a working out with an extra fun payoff. Really blows off steam and keeps me in a good mood.


    A seamless arguement for fuck buds. This sums it up for me too.
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    Mar 01, 2008 11:43 PM GMT
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    Mar 02, 2008 6:16 AM GMT
    Timberoo...

    I have nothing against the video you posted, but where's the man2man action. This is a gay site.
  • qalbi30

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    Mar 02, 2008 6:54 AM GMT
    F/b's are splendid,would not wish to be without them,but as with all relationships mutual respect is important,sometimes people allow themselves to be used because of their needs.

    Over the years some for me have turned into good friends,with no demands on both sides.
  • Timbales

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    Mar 02, 2008 2:54 PM GMT
    BenignFun saidTimberoo...

    I have nothing against the video you posted, but where's the man2man action. This is a gay site.


    It's the only vid for the song they had. icon_sad.gif
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    Mar 02, 2008 2:56 PM GMT
    I THINK FB ARE GOOD... WELL FOR ME THAT IS I NEVER HAD A RELATIONSHP WITH A GUYS CAUSE, I GUESS I BEEN USED TO THE FB THING... I GUESS I M GETTING TIERD OF IT SO NOW I WANT MORE....
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    Mar 02, 2008 6:54 PM GMT
    Hey Clay,

    To me I thought a fuckbuddy was someone you used to get sex from when you couldn't get it out of your own relationship?


    Yes friends I know this is a bad example. Well in the gay world fuckbuddies in my opinion have a limited shelf life. You are going to move along and he will move along as soon as something better comes along.

    I don't think you can continuous have sex with someone and not develop some kind of feelings for him. Besides sex gets old and before you know it your looking for another fuckbuddy.

    I had one for a year and just got tired of the sex, Him being in the closet, and our totally different lives.

    This is not something that would help you in achieving your goals it's a total distraction.

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    Mar 08, 2008 3:17 PM GMT
    Nothing wrong with a fuck buddy. I have a fireman on the side, damn you just got to love a man in uniform.
    Now, my fireman is married so it is all hush hush, but we have a understanding to keep matters to ourselves.

    I know some of you guys will say "you are wrong for fucking a married guy", but I really do not feel any shame about this. It is his marriage, not mine.
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    Mar 09, 2008 3:12 AM GMT
    Clay, I say enjoy it !!! just be cautious about who you choose for your bud, and be safe !!! LutherGooch --- I was that married man for a while, needing to figure things out, the guy I figured it out with did me a favor. Don't let it go on very long though cause you may end up dragged into a lot of drama. Your guy may be conflicted as hell, though I hope not for your sake.
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    Mar 09, 2008 12:40 PM GMT
    Have a fuck buddy for now if that allows you the time to work on your life and self and have the release of a compartmentalized sex life. And then if you want the old fashioned stuff get that when you are ready. I still find I'm a Midwestern family guy at heart - it is how I was raised - I want the hot marriage, the kids, the PTA, the job, the legacy - just with a guy.

    Oh and enjoy it. 'A time to laugh, a time to cry...' A time to have hot monogamy and a time to fuck your way across the USA. And Canada.
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    Mar 13, 2008 8:58 PM GMT
    realifedad said Clay, I say enjoy it !!! just be cautious about who you choose for your bud, and be safe !!! LutherGooch --- I was that married man for a while, needing to figure things out, the guy I figured it out with did me a favor. Don't let it go on very long though cause you may end up dragged into a lot of drama. Your guy may be conflicted as hell, though I hope not for your sake.
    Yeah, to be honest that does scare me.
  • duglyduckling

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    Mar 13, 2008 11:27 PM GMT
    fuck buddies are great, as long as both sides are well aware of what their relationship to each other is all about. No emotional attachments, just pure sex and see you later. It's great. icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 14, 2008 9:17 PM GMT
    I'm sure it's just me, but fb's only seem to last so long before a) we just keep it at a friendship level or b) it just kind or burns itself out, and we move onto greener pastures.

    In general I like the idea...it just hasn't worked well for me in the past.

    But do what works best for you, just remember to keep the emotions out of it, unless you're sure you're both feeling the same things.
  • jrs1

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    Jan 12, 2010 4:12 AM GMT

    this is unbelievably interesting ... that understanding between two people that their is a sexual attraction but not the type of chemistry or timing that would allow for anything more. or, more simply, that there is no desire to traverse further.

    I think I'd be up for it. I think it would be an enticing affair and would allow me to see my limits and my abilities. I have not been one to think about this type of informal contract between two people prior, but as time goes by ... I am seeing that that would be more appropriate a deal, so to speak, than simply abstaining for some sort of socialized ' ideal. '

    hence:



    or, haha, more blatantly:

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    Jan 12, 2010 6:15 AM GMT
    fuck buddies some times turn into lover buddies
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    Jan 12, 2010 2:44 PM GMT
    I enjoy my fuck buddy. I am really into him and he is into me. but we keep it business only most of the time lol icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 12, 2010 3:37 PM GMT
    So where can I find myself one of these celebrated fuckbuddies?