tuffguyndc said... by the way, its sucks trying to meet a masculine guy whether you are out or closeted. ...
That is true, but for a good reason:
As long as being gay carries the feminine stereotype, masculine guys will continue to be reluctant to come out of the closet. Although I harbor no prejudice against the ones who are more feminine, I do actively promote masculinity in the gay scene in an attempt to break the stereotype. Until that stereotype is broken, we will never be considered "equal" by the straight/bi/masculine community, because the worst insult coaches and military drill sergeants have used for years on their teams is "ladies." No masculine man wants to be called that (unless of course he's thick skinned and could care less).
I can't tell you when to come out...that's a decision that has to be timed correctly and done when you're ready. But I do strongly encourage all closeted guys to consider it before it's too late (with an exception for those who live in violently oppressive situations, such as Iran, Kentucky, etc).