Do you believe that two men can be completely monogamous......and happy?

  • silverfox

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    Aug 18, 2010 3:45 AM GMT
    I do not.

    Your thoughts?
  • jgymnast733

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    Aug 18, 2010 3:53 AM GMT
    Yes i think so,,,
    If you really love someone its easy.....icon_razz.gif
  • KepaArg

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    Aug 18, 2010 3:56 AM GMT
    Phew...for a second there I thought this was another Jerred thread.

    I think it's possible depending on the individuals. Never say never. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 18, 2010 3:58 AM GMT

    *coughs*
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    Aug 18, 2010 4:15 AM GMT
    I believe some things have happened that are unbelievable.
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    Aug 18, 2010 4:24 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    *coughs*


    You Too!!!!

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    Aug 18, 2010 4:32 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    *coughs*


    You forgot to turn your head. I can't perform my medical exam properly if you don't cooperate!
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    Aug 18, 2010 6:53 AM GMT
    silverfox1 saidI do not.

    Your thoughts?



    I do not...










    ...think happiness is solely determined by monogamy.

    To have and to hold; to give and to release.
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 18, 2010 7:19 AM GMT
    No, but some men believe sex and love are the same like a hetero relationship. They feel if their partner has a sexual encounter of any kind they cheated, like they gave some love away??? I think as men age even open relationships become monogamous in time though.icon_idea.gif

    Some guys in a relationship just let themselves go and it's not like they could get another guy they desire sexually.

    We know quite a few men in committed relationships. There is only one we think may have never cheated on each other. The one has told us he fantasizes about it alot. Others we know have all had break ups where one or both cheated or took up with another guy during the break up or just remained broken up.

    It's why I find it funny when one couple said to us patonizingly "I think it's great you guys can have an open relationship and make it work." (7 yrs now) "But I could never share____ with another man." Kinda funny because we know during their many fights his man had plenty of sex with other men. His so called married monogamous partner prop'ed me a few times, I would never fuck a friends b/f! Man I saw the sweat dripping from his guy that night. If he wasn't so arrogant about their "great 1 on 1 relationship" and how long it took them to pick out rings etc.. I would just tell him. I still might.

    It's not like we actively look for other men, but it's nice to know we can if we want. Not gonna be 70 here and say someday I missed out on some hot young guy when I could have had that ass.

    no *cough* here.
  • mcwclewis

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    Aug 18, 2010 7:36 AM GMT
    Totally do.




    It all depends on the situation, though.
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    Aug 18, 2010 7:50 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle saidDang, I cannot fathom being 70 and still being sexually active and be able to say to myself. I have been whoring my wares for a half a century. That is a lot of sowing and planting seeds. icon_smile.gif
    "Someone asked me if sex would be great when I'm 98. I said 'only if I participate.'"
    -Some 95 year old man I used to know, still walking daily, still in perfect health, drives perfectly, and still gets laid.

    I aspire to be like him someday. icon_biggrin.gif
  • MikemikeMike

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    Aug 18, 2010 7:50 AM GMT
    I havent had sex with just anyone Much. I am not in the triple digits like many here. Very selective here!!!!!
  • silverfox

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    Aug 18, 2010 10:50 AM GMT
    Note from the Op:

    If I had to do this thread all over again (and I may change the title) I think I would ask "Who here has been totally monogamous with another man.....and happy, and for how long, and truthful?
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    Aug 18, 2010 10:55 AM GMT
    for at least a couple of years, yes.
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    Aug 18, 2010 10:55 AM GMT
    yes of course, if you love your man you won't need others
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    Aug 18, 2010 11:16 AM GMT
    Yup. Because I have met them before. One couple together for over 35 years now.
  • 1man

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    Aug 18, 2010 11:17 AM GMT
    yes, with alot of effort, will power, and contentment.
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    Aug 18, 2010 11:17 AM GMT
    I've been monogamous with my partner for over 7 years now, and I can tell you it is a combination of things that have been successful.

    We were older (in our 50s) when we met. We had been through the open relationships, cheating, etc. and neither one of us wanted that again.

    We are both happy, have a great sex life ...and btw we are both 60 and can tell you we will be sweating up the sheets in our 70s

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    Aug 18, 2010 11:19 AM GMT
    Bigsmiles saidI've been monogamous with my partner for over 7 years now, and I can tell you it is a combination of things that have been successful.

    We were older (in our 50s) when we met. We had been through the open relationships, cheating, etc. and neither one of us wanted that again.

    We are both happy, have a great sex life ...and btw we are both 60 and can tell you we will be sweating up the sheets in our 70s

    What a refreshing response!
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    Aug 18, 2010 11:19 AM GMT
    Yes

    But

    Rare

    Grab if Opp shows

    Dont Expect

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    Aug 18, 2010 11:34 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    Bigsmiles saidI've been monogamous with my partner for over 7 years now, and I can tell you it is a combination of things that have been successful.

    We were older (in our 50s) when we met. We had been through the open relationships, cheating, etc. and neither one of us wanted that again.

    We are both happy, have a great sex life ...and btw we are both 60 and can tell you we will be sweating up the sheets in our 70s




    Wipes beaded dripping sweat from forehead in relief. Whew...I am glad. So those photos of your manhood showing you at "full attention" are not meant as an invitation to your boudoir? I will take them as a sign that you are just a proud man that likes to show off. icon_razz.gif



    Yes, I'm 59 (almost 60) and I've worked hard on that bod and like to show it....
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    Aug 18, 2010 11:37 AM GMT
    They can and they are. Whether it is typical or not is another matter.
  • thisguy023

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    Aug 18, 2010 11:49 AM GMT

    We were completely monogamous for the first ten years of our relationship. It was fine. We opened things up a little bit over the last eight years. It did change the relationship for the better: it increased the amount of fun things we can do together.
    And it made me realize we are not a straight couple. We are gay. We can make our own rules. Rules that make us happy.
    Monogamy should be a choice, not an obligation.
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Aug 18, 2010 11:56 AM GMT
    Yes!
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    Aug 18, 2010 12:02 PM GMT
    i don't see why not.

    not all gay men wish to be sleepying around for their entire lives. some of us actually grew up in homes that set good examples of how loving, healthy, and mutually beneficial relationships should be.

    i think it's more than possible. why? because I am living that life.

    of course there will people a few posts down from here who will try to question mine or my boyfriend's propensity to cheat. I can assure you without a shadow of a doubt, that we are in it to win it. Me and him....forever!