Have you ever done anything you regret after knowing you were gay?

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    Aug 21, 2010 5:17 AM GMT
    And in hindsight, what should we NEVER do in your opinion?

    What have you suffered, and what have you learnt by it?

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    Aug 21, 2010 5:58 AM GMT
    Gbob saidAnd in hindsight, what should we NEVER do in your opinion?
    Never regret experiences that you learned from. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 21, 2010 6:00 AM GMT
    YES MOST DEFINATELY... That my mother was not just jealous, she really was protecting my heart from getting hurt by other girls.
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    Aug 21, 2010 11:03 AM GMT
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    Gbob saidAnd in hindsight, what should we NEVER do in your opinion?
    Never regret experiences that you learned from. icon_biggrin.gif


    This.

    Don't be afraid of living and making mistakes. We've all made, make, and will make more mistakes, and as long as you don't make the same mistake twice, you'll be alright.
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    Aug 21, 2010 11:36 AM GMT
    "Have you ever done anything you regret after knowing you were gay?"

    You're asking if I've ever done anything I regret during the last 39 years?

    No, I've not done a single thing I regret in the last 39 years.

    Gbob saidAnd in hindsight, what should we NEVER do in your opinion?



    I think people should never ask extremely vague, overwhelmingly broad questions of a great number of people.
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    Aug 21, 2010 11:56 AM GMT
    Gbob saidAnd in hindsight, what should we NEVER do in your opinion?

    What have you suffered, and what have you learnt by it?

    Help us in not falling into the same pitfalls icon_smile.gif

    With much appreciation,


    Yes I have a piece of advice to twentysomethings: Don't come out b/c of hate, but b/c of love.
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    Aug 21, 2010 12:01 PM GMT
    Bunjamon said
    This.

    Don't be afraid of living and making mistakes. We've all made, make, and will make more mistakes, and as long as you don't make the same mistake twice, you'll be alright.


    Hear hear!
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    Aug 21, 2010 12:48 PM GMT
    Not knowing sooner. People would always questioned me and I always said no. I'm a pretty little liar ;3
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    Aug 21, 2010 2:03 PM GMT
    theatrengym said"Have you ever done anything you regret after knowing you were gay?"

    You're asking if I've ever done anything I regret during the last 39 years?

    No, I've not done a single thing I regret in the last 39 years.

    Gbob saidAnd in hindsight, what should we NEVER do in your opinion?



    I think people should never ask extremely vague, overwhelmingly broad questions of a great number of people.


    Why is that?
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    Aug 21, 2010 5:25 PM GMT
    I feel like this question implies that I woke up one day, realized I was gay, and went out to find something stupid to do...

    One thing I regret doing when I was coming out was not having the balls to tell my mom after I learned that my dad and sister knew.. I kind of waited for the word to spread cause I didn't want to personally tell anyone.. I never had much of a chance to tell anyone myself actually.. but that's life. Live and learn I guess. And weigh your options to figure out what is best for you personally in the end.

    .....also don't hook up with the first guy you meet just cause you're a horny teenager and have never experimented before.. unless he's super hot.. Haha
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    Aug 21, 2010 5:38 PM GMT
    Regrets, I've had a few.

    But I am not giving out names.
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    Aug 21, 2010 5:46 PM GMT
    My mistakes make me who I am today. Learn from the BEST!!! Well Im proud to be gay so I dont think I regret doing anything gay LOL icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 21, 2010 7:01 PM GMT
    Is disclosure of the point to this question imminent?
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    Aug 21, 2010 7:11 PM GMT
    Shying away from guys who hit on me in public
    I could be long term partnered by now Lol icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 21, 2010 9:23 PM GMT
    I spent years trying to pray the gay away. It only made me suicidal and hate myself. Pity. I could have been having dates, sex, relationships, etc.
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    Aug 21, 2010 9:25 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidI spent years trying to pray the gay away. It only made me suicidal and hate myself. Pity. I could have been having dates, sex, relationships, etc.


    I can relate I went from Pre-school to High school through Christian Schools and all they did was make me feel guilty.
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    Aug 21, 2010 9:34 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidI spent years trying to pray the gay away. It only made me suicidal and hate myself. Pity. I could have been having dates, sex, relationships, etc.

    word. ;3
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    Aug 21, 2010 9:39 PM GMT
    Gbob said

    Why is that?


    Because they're very difficult to answer honestly except at great length.

    Of course, I was just being silly in my reply to you. But I do think it's good to make questions at least somewhat specific rather than extremely vague and general. You'll be more likely to get helpful answers.

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    Aug 21, 2010 10:38 PM GMT
    N8tiveNuYawhka saidShying away from guys who hit on me in public
    I could be long term partnered by now Lol icon_neutral.gif


    totally with you on this note
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    Aug 21, 2010 10:43 PM GMT
    TheIStrat saidI spent years trying to pray the gay away. It only made me suicidal and hate myself.
    I told my mom that. She told me I just wasn't praying hard enough, and my heart wasn't right with God or he would have helped. Then I told her to go fuck herself and hung up, and waited two weeks to call her back. She changed her tune then, because she was worried I'd killed myself. icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 21, 2010 10:49 PM GMT
    I regret deeply to have broken a few hearts because I didn't have the guts to tell him outright that I wasn't interested in him THAT way.icon_redface.gif
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    Aug 21, 2010 10:55 PM GMT
    Yes, allowing "friends" to influence who I dated.

    Years ago when I lived in L.A., a sweet guy and I started seeing each other (he approached me), but my friends didn't care much for him because he wasn't designer-label conscious or too socially "adept." But he was a genuine guy who just happen to possess a NICE build and everything else (mind, soul, manhood). But I allowed the pressure of those I knew to make me distance myself from him, ultimately breaking-up. I don't know if this was the "L.A. ways of being," but I lived to regret breaking up with him because of them. I could possibly still be partnered with him today.

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    Aug 21, 2010 11:22 PM GMT
    I regret eatiing all the cheesecakes in my early 20 s-- that i ma battling to get rid off now....ehehehe
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    Aug 22, 2010 3:40 AM GMT
    Not telling all of my friends that I'm gay. Some know, but some don't.
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    Aug 22, 2010 11:11 AM GMT
    beHoops23 saidI feel like this question implies that I woke up one day, realized I was gay, and went out to find something stupid to do...


    Fair point.